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Discussion: Most hurtful thing anybody's ever said to you in real life?
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The worst feeling, knowing that someone very close to you being bullied, and there's nothing you can do about it
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My brother hates me with a passion. Ever since i was younger he would tease me and bully me and it amused him. While i would cry and get angry he would laugh at me and call me names. And now since i'm older treats me like i did something to him. It think one of the reasons is i'm gay and i think he is embarrassed of me. Everytime i come around him and his hood ***** friends he'll say some **** to me to show out to his friends. I try my best to ignore it but deep inside i feel some type of way that my own brother can't stand me but i can't help who i am. And i'm the baby of my family so i got everything i wanted and i was always smart and didn't cause trouble so i was spoiled. What hurt me the most is my graduation was this year and i wanted my family to come and he said he had something else to do. That made me feel like he didn't give a **** about me and was jealous of me in a way so now me and him barely speak and when we do we goin back and forth.
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Originally posted by ManDown
This isn't something hurtful that somebody said to me, but it hurt me knowing that I hurt them. 
I was really close friends with this gay couple a few years ago (I was 15, if I remember correctly). They were a couple of years older than me, but we were relatively close in age. Anyway, I had been friends with them for nearly a year, but I was closer to one of the guys than the other. One night, we were both a little drunk, and I ended up having sex with him. At the time, I didn't really care, since I was immature, horny, and didn't care about other people's feelings. We hooked up a few other times, while he would tell his boyfriend that he was at one of his friend's houses watching movies or something. One day, I was hanging out with the other guy (the one that I didn't have sex with), and out of nowhere, he was like, "Dale, you're such a great friend - I hope you know that. You are one of the few gay guys that I actually trust around my boyfriend and around me in general. I know that I can count on you". And it was one of those comments that should make you feel really good, and I could tell he was being sincere, but I felt like complete ****, knowing that I slept with his boyfriend. I didn't have the heart to tell him right then and there. I just smiled and thanked him, while deep down, my soul was an emotional wreck. I've had to live with it ever since then, knowing that I overstepped my friendship boundaries and was the reason his boyfriend cheated on him. The next time I talked to his boyfriend, I told him that I couldn't be around him anymore, as I felt terrible and his boyfriend deserved so much better. I haven't talked to them since then. One of my friends told me a few months ago that the guy ended up finding out what happened and ended the relationship, and has been extremely emotional and possibly suicidal ever since then. And I still feel like it's all my fault. I knew that it was wrong, but my hormones got the best of me.
The worst part? I'm in the same exact situation right now. I've been single for well over 6 months now, and it's beginning to take a toll on me. I ended up hooking up with one of my close friends last weekend, and he has a boyfriend. I'm also friends with his boyfriend, but we don't hang out as much. Now, I'm afraid to face his boyfriend, knowing that I potentially ruined their relationship. I actually saw the guy today, and we haven't spoken about what happened last weekend yet, but I'm going over there tomorrow. I don't know what to do/say. To be honest, I didn't even begin to regret it until today, when I talked to his boyfriend on Facebook, and he was telling me how I'm the first gay guy, besides his boyfriend, that he's really trusted in our town/state. 
I'm really not a home-wrecker, I just get caught up in the moment and end up deeply regretting it afterward. |
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Originally posted by EastCoastTM
EastCoastTM's Story about a ol' white bitch whom is PRESSED that black don't crack
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So I've been dating my best friend since like the age of 8... He's amazing, he cooks, smart (a liddle), cute and his personality is EVERYTHING. The only problem is he's white and I'm black.. People are a lot more open to the common black MEN white WOMAN but black WOMAN and white MAN they tend to have a problem with..
So We've been dating since 10th grade (Seniors this year WOOT WOOT) and 3 months ago he decided it was time to met his grandmother (now since we've been friends since 3rd grade I know his mother and brothers etc) well Ive never met his grandma.. So we have this amazing dinner and me and him decide to go to his room after everything is over..
I came back downstairs to help them clean up before I enter the room I hear his grandmother say "You didn't tell me she black, she's a pretty girl and everything but I don't like what you are condoning what if they decide to get married or have kids?"
He's mom basically tells her mom that it doesn't matter and she should mind her business  ... So I go back upstairs and act like everything is fine and when the grandmother leaves everyone hugs and kisses and I SHADE her ass DOWN...
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That old evil *****.
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To answer the question, well I am a transgender, and one day after school my friend cut my hair & made me a fringe as i had wished for. I walked home. When I got home, when my dad saw me, he threw the newspaper he was reading on the ground really hard & said i do nothing but stupid *** ****. I immediately just ran up stairs *my dad has a huge temper, will explode fast, i was afraid he was gonna try to hit me or something* and ran into the shower which is the safest place & i needed to shower anyway.
I don't think my heart had ever sank deep in as it did that day.
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Member Since: 8/22/2009
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Originally posted by KoreanDream
I was in love with him but he never knew. But I guess I'm slowly letting him go. And I fall hard too but for some reason I'm just not as sad I should be. It's bizarre.
It kind of is! It's almost like 4 is the soundtrack to my life right now.  I played Start Over while I was preparing to talk to him and hoping that we could be friends again, I Miss You after he told me we were completely done as friends, then I Care once I was feeling less sad, and now Best Thing I Never Had to convince myself that I'm moving on.
Maybe I'm lying to myself and I'm not over him. If anything, though, I'm in love with who he WAS. not who he is now. |
Okay now I get it, hes changed so thats why its so easy to let him go. 
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Originally posted by satellites™
That old evil *****.
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She just mad Im ****ing her grandson's well endowed penis.
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Originally posted by Sahn
I'm not THAT confident, at all. I haven't been with a guy for a while... i'm tired of being used and going after them and being let down. "Never give a man something he doesn't give you first". 
I've learned that you have to be a little bit mean and bitchy, they love it. If you're nice they got bored. People likes to suffer, trust me. If you're mean they LOVE IT. Sounds stupid but it's true.
If someone worthy comes up things will get good effortlessly and everything will flow.
Somebody that makes you feel insecure is somebody that doesn't deserve you, you have to get rid of that people. |
This is all so true!
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Originally posted by Skin
Someone told me my goodies were to big for their box to handle.
Needles to say I was offended and flattered at the same time.
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Originally posted by Skin
I was quite puzzled... I didn't know whether I should thank them or take my hand and put it across their mug.
A mess.
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Originally posted by Chemist
Yes! That's what I've learned from my past experiences, if you want to get a man you need to be a bitch with him 
I used to act all cute and lovely but the guys all were a cund and ended up hurting me, Now I'm a bitch and I can get whatever I want  |
I wish I was a cute hispanic twink.
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Originally posted by Chemist
Lol no Sats is a great person, Just don't come after beyonce that's all |
 This is all true.
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Originally posted by Sahn
I already did. 
He came to my city couple months ago and i totally ignored him. He wanted to see me... i lost my phone that week so, i didn't return his calls/messages. He was asking for me to all my friends.
I don't even care actually, i don't hate him or anything. I just move on... i gave him a lot already. |
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Originally posted by evfanjake
I felt really bad when I was like, 12, and my dad and I were talking, and he ended up saying something like "You're not gay, right?", and he sounded so afraid I was all "right, of course!", which is not as bad as some people's stories but still forced me back into the closet for another six years. 
And another time after I had cancer, I went back to school, some kid comes up to me and goes "WOAH! I thought you were dead!" I had actually made a friend in the hospital who had died recently, so in addition to being weird, it set me off...I don't think I replied, and we never ever spoke again. |
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I'd share my story but I prefer to have all of ATRL frightened of me.
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A mess.
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Originally posted by KoreanDream
The new stans get on some people's nerves but I find a lot of them to be very good people, and less interested in all that crazy stanning and more interested in genuine conversation. There should be a thread where we can have discussions like this. This thread alone proves that we can handle it and not have it be ruined.
You did? Why did you choose to change the way you were?
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I didnt change it just became more of a privacy matter.
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I may give all you Oprahs the tea tomorrow. I'm ready to open up.
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Originally posted by satellites™
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Originally posted by BNF91
i wouldn't say it was something that has been said to me, but instead just an action and feeling that has been a recurring theme in my life lately.
that feeling of abandonment and loneliness when a "friend" does not talk to you anymore. i've had this happen to me more than enough times over the past couple of years that i've almost come to expect it to happen with all my friendships. i know that i invest way too much, far too early in a friendship, and i get punished for that when they up and leave, because i'm the one left so much more hurt than they are, if they are at all.
it doesn't help when i give off this persona that everything is fine in my life when it actually isn't; 99% of the people i know probably have no clue about my insecurities, my problems, my struggles i have in my life. suicide has been contemplated many times, or at least the thought of suicide, just so that i could imagine how people would feel if i wasn't around. would they care as much as i would if it were to happen to them?
because of this, i have remained skeptical with all my new "friendships" because i just don't want to feel that emptiness again.
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You sound like a great friend.
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Originally posted by BORNTOSLAY
Ok I was in 8th grade in a south american school (full of ****ing phobos and racist, descriminatory people) and i was happy there but i was the queer of the class room, they used to pick on me and i didn't like it so i decided to leave the school on 9th grade (the worst decision of my life) then i started to look for a new school and liked a catholic school (full of gays, *****s and drog addicts) well i decided to change my life and change myself and figure the way to be more manly, and at that time i was facing several identity problems and i was facing the darkest phase of my life, anyway i went to vacation to my aunt's house in Coro a very beautiful city and full of tropical greatness, beach a desert in the ****ing city it was awesome, i like it so much i love it, i wanted to stay, but the vacations were over and i had to go back to my house it was winter ( rain like monkey's ***) anyway i didn't leave my house for weeks and i started to isolate myself from the world, it was awful, i was afraid to leave my house and go out to the streets, i had to start 9th grade in my new school i was so ****ing nervous like never in my life, i went to the school, and i was so nervous that i think i started to walk funny and maybe very effeminate everybody was looking at me i felt vulnerable and lonely, and then some guy who wans't so far away from me said this: "You looked the new guy, HE WALKS LIKE A QUEER", I felt so ****ing bad like oh my god is going to happen again, that hurt badly, i was new and alone and that mother****er manage to make me feel like a a piece of ****, i felt a cold sensation in my body and i hold myself, when i get home i started to cry like never, i felt so weak, since that day i started to apart myself from people and wasn't able to open myself in that school, i never had friends there and it sucked becuase i was very confident and full of joy in my old school in my life in general, anyway i finished 9th grade and i'm alright now, i feel stronger than ever, and i can defence myself, i got an identidy and i'm happy, i'am a men now, but i will never forget that guy face and those words, i will never forget 9th grade sadly!
Edit: I'm 21 that happened in 2004  |
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Originally posted by Skin
No but seriously though the only time I got offended was when my grandma sat me down and told me I was a ***.
I was like this bitch reads minds...
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Originally posted by JustAHolyFool
In 8th grade, 4 guys cornered me in the back of the bus. One of the boys, said straight my face that I was a worthless piece of trash, teacher's pet that nobody likes. They continued to say things along those lines. 2 spit on me. The 4 girls in front of me sat there, laughed and watched it all happen. Still haunts me, and it kills me why those girls sat there and watched. **** was said and things happened all the time, but I never had the guts to tell anyone. I have always had trouble trusting guys since this.
I also have red hair. So I've heard about every ginger remark in the book, thought it doesn't bother me anymore.
I got that one **** back though. When I was on crutches when I broke my leg sophomore year, I tripped his ass in the hall way. |
The last sentence.
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Originally posted by Skin
OT but where do you get your avatars, sis?
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I try to find the most random things to use since everyone else uses popular pictures.
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Originally posted by KoreanDream
Oh, I see. I guess telling her even if she already knows could be astonishing to her...like you finally saying it would put a lot in a new perspective for her? Well....good luck to you!  |
YAS!
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Originally posted by b3dro
The worst feeling, knowing that someone very close to you being bullied, and there's nothing you can do about it
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Originally posted by MinajMeBeyonce
My brother hates me with a passion. Ever since i was younger he would tease me and bully me and it amused him. While i would cry and get angry he would laugh at me and call me names. And now since i'm older treats me like i did something to him. It think one of the reasons is i'm gay and i think he is embarrassed of me. Everytime i come around him and his hood ***** friends he'll say some **** to me to show out to his friends. I try my best to ignore it but deep inside i feel some type of way that my own brother can't stand me but i can't help who i am. And i'm the baby of my family so i got everything i wanted and i was always smart and didn't cause trouble so i was spoiled. What hurt me the most is my graduation was this year and i wanted my family to come and he said he had something else to do. That made me feel like he didn't give a **** about me and was jealous of me in a way so now me and him barely speak and when we do we goin back and forth.
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He sounds like an asshole.
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Originally posted by VeroElectronica
To answer the question, well I am a transgender, and one day after school my friend cut my hair & made me a fringe as i had wished for. I walked home. When I got home, when my dad saw me, he threw the newspaper he was reading on the ground really hard & said i do nothing but stupid *** ****. I immediately just ran up stairs *my dad has a huge temper, will explode fast, i was afraid he was gonna try to hit me or something* and ran into the shower which is the safest place & i needed to shower anyway.
I don't think my heart had ever sank deep in as it did that day.
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No matter gay, straight, or bi, lesbian, transgendered life...... 
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Originally posted by Fireman25
Personally, I never had that much friends so I never experienced name calling and bullying. But my girlfriend cheated on my me behind my back with my best friend. This was back in high school. This caused me to have issues with trusting people. I don't tell anyone my lifestory because they can use that against you and spread rumors. I always have my guard up everytime I meet someone because I don't trust them. I learn that not everyone is friend material .I have to get comfortable with you first. There are alot of backstabbers out there.
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This...
except for me it wasn't about physical cheating. It was a couple of incidents were my best friends spilled some of my personal secrets ( I confronted the first one, still waiting for the other). It's extremely difficult for me to trust another person nowadays and I HATE that....I'm trying to change myself but it's hard to let your guard down after your best friend backstabs you. The reason why Halo is my favourite song, ever.
I want to give a big hug to everyone in here, you guys are amazing 
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Originally posted by ManDown
This isn't something hurtful that somebody said to me, but it hurt me knowing that I hurt them.
I was really close friends with this gay couple a few years ago (I was 15, if I remember correctly). They were a couple of years older than me, but we were relatively close in age. Anyway, I had been friends with them for nearly a year, but I was closer to one of the guys than the other. One night, we were both a little drunk, and I ended up having sex with him. At the time, I didn't really care, since I was immature, horny, and didn't care about other people's feelings. We hooked up a few other times, while he would tell his boyfriend that he was at one of his friend's houses watching movies or something. One day, I was hanging out with the other guy (the one that I didn't have sex with), and out of nowhere, he was like, "Dale, you're such a great friend - I hope you know that. You are one of the few gay guys that I actually trust around my boyfriend and around me in general. I know that I can count on you". And it was one of those comments that should make you feel really good, and I could tell he was being sincere, but I felt like complete ****, knowing that I slept with his boyfriend. I didn't have the heart to tell him right then and there. I just smiled and thanked him, while deep down, my soul was an emotional wreck. I've had to live with it ever since then, knowing that I overstepped my friendship boundaries and was the reason his boyfriend cheated on him. The next time I talked to his boyfriend, I told him that I couldn't be around him anymore, as I felt terrible and his boyfriend deserved so much better. I haven't talked to them since then. One of my friends told me a few months ago that the guy ended up finding out what happened and ended the relationship, and has been extremely emotional and possibly suicidal ever since then. And I still feel like it's all my fault. I knew that it was wrong, but my hormones got the best of me.
The worst part? I'm in the same exact situation right now. I've been single for well over 6 months now, and it's beginning to take a toll on me. I ended up hooking up with one of my close friends last weekend, and he has a boyfriend. I'm also friends with his boyfriend, but we don't hang out as much. Now, I'm afraid to face his boyfriend, knowing that I potentially ruined their relationship. I actually saw the guy today, and we haven't spoken about what happened last weekend yet, but I'm going over there tomorrow. I don't know what to do/say. To be honest, I didn't even begin to regret it until today, when I talked to his boyfriend on Facebook, and he was telling me how I'm the first gay guy, besides his boyfriend, that he's really trusted in our town/state.
I'm really not a home-wrecker, I just get caught up in the moment and end up deeply regretting it afterward.
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2 of my friends are a gay couple. I've been with one of them (4 years ago) and the other guy doesn't know anything about it (because the other guy told me so). All this happened before they even met, but i always felt bad about it. I don't like to keep secrets with people i love.
The worst part is that i ended up being closer to the one who doesn't know. 
They're so in love and i always admited their relationship... it's rare to see such young people for such a long time... they've been together for almost 4 years now.
My other friends said that i exaggerate, that it happened long ago and nobody even remember it. But we hided this to him, it doesn't feel right. If he finds out now, he propably will be mad about it and our relationship will change, for sure.
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Originally posted by iBeyoncé.
I may give all you Oprahs the tea tomorrow. I'm ready to open up.
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Originally posted by satellites™
He sounds like an asshole.
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He's a douche but he'll eat his words when i'm driving my new car on my way to my first day of college. He could NEVER.
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Originally posted by Skin
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