[H-I-M]

So this whole thread is about the OP being pressed that none of the blacks in his neighbor want him ?

[AlphaOmega]

i'm white and I will never understand wanting to date ONLY white men. ew.

[ozlovezashlee]

Originally posted by H-I-M

So this whole thread is about the OP being pressed that none of the blacks in his neighbor want him ?

Oop.


OT: Hot = Hot for me.

[Adonis]

Originally posted by umich

I don't have a problem with them dating whoever they want, but my issue is when they try to justify that "black men aren't ****" when they've only had experiences with just a few of them. Their sweeping generalizations are a bit much.

This is my problem. I have a rule that the guy has to be different enough from me looks wise otherwise I feel like I'm being ****ed by myself... and its a turn off.

[Adonis]

Originally posted by ozlovezashlee

Oop.


OT: Hot = Hot for me.

[Adonis]

Originally posted by H-I-M

So this whole thread is about the OP being pressed that none of the blacks in his neighbor want him ?

Basically. LMAO!

[Parker]

Originally posted by H-I-M

So this whole thread is about the OP being pressed that none of the blacks in his neighbor want him ?

Nope. I watch all the self-hate and coonery from the sidelines. I've yet to approach any of these dudes cause I know they seek validation from whites. Please believe I get my share of brothers that hit on me (albeit in Oakland) so don't try it. I could care less if a coon doesn't like me. I go for strong, self-affirming, pro-black brothers. Not corny snow queens

[IBeMe]

Originally posted by KareBear

Excluding an entire race, or not finding a race attractive is racism or self-hate pure and simple, stop making excuses. As someone said preference means you're attracted to both but more attracted to the one. And you're willing to date either. Mostly white people make these preference excuses or see no issue with this because they are the most preferred race due to worldwide Eurocentric beauty standards. Get over yourselves



African men are conditioned to have a "preference" (read-colorism) towards light skinned people. Nobody only dates outside of their race or dates only a single race due to a preference. They're either fetishizing that race, think their own skin isn't attractive, or are racist Everyone is conditioned to what they find beautiful a lot of it is problematic and more people need to be aware to counter it.

thanks so much sis! im going ot read up on colorism tonight! I actually think I've heard of it. isnt it a system were the lighter you were in africa the more like favored you were in many aspects such as wealth , jobs etc?

[Adonis]

Originally posted by Airhead

I could care less. But I encounteted plenty of white men that only like black men. I asked one why he don't within his race and he said its just his preference, he liked what he like. White guys don't turn him on.

I know a white guy like that. He gets so angry that black guys don't want him after he says something completely offensive to most black guys. Black guys in general are skeptical of him because he's never been in a long term relationship with a black guy and he's like 40 and all his bf's were white.

He says stuff like you know I'm only attracted to black guys and then goes on about how hot their skin is and the way they act etc... then he says guys who are not cute are HOT. I had to explain to him that he needs to get out of the fetish.

Here in NYC I know white guys who will date white guys seriously just to say they are in a relationship but only sleep with black guys. Then they meet me and say ohhh I'll leave my boyfriend for you or "we can be in a thruple, my boyfriend likes you too".

I hate the way white guys act like I should feel privileged that a white guy would even want me.... Like their being white is some sort of right of passage or trophy. I'm like b*tch I'm pretty and doing it regardless of my skin color. I'll still be the one everyone wants even if you are lucky enough to be with me.

[Reeawna]

I'm down with the swirl

[Adonis]

Originally posted by Parker

Nope. I watch all the self-hate and coonery from the sidelines. I've yet to approach any of these dudes cause I know they seek validation from whites. Please believe I get my share of brothers that hit on me (albeit in Oakland) so don't try it. I could care less if a coon doesn't like me. I go for strong, self-affirming, pro-black brothers. Not corny snow queens

You're using terms like snow queen. That means you're pressed. I get your post and somewhat agree with it. Ive witnessed those guys hit on me too. The stats in NYC show that black gay men are far more likely to only date within their race than other groups.

[highwayuni]

Ngl, I am white and have a preference to South Asian guys. Other races don't really do much for me, but that's not to say that I'm against the idea of dating other types of races as I have in the past.

[Flare]

Originally posted by DDRdashing

internalized racism tbh

Basically this. The answer to the OP isn't that difficult to see. Literally put 1 and 2 together.

Now the mods should lock this mess before more innocent bystanders get dragged

[BlueRanger]

Ummm it depends on the region. Blacks in general tend to have lower self esteem in the south west (Arizona, Texas, new MeXico..ie "The Ignorance Belt "). But in nyc im getting black white Spanish Cambodian... I'm screwing everybody.. So move if you find yourself experiencing social issues that aren't cohesive with your life style.

[OnikaSlays]

I prefer black guys, but I've always had crushes on white guys.

I know it doesn't make sense

As long as they're not like "I hate black guys" or their grindr says "No blacks" , it's their preference and it shouldn't be a big deal

[inspiration4]

Your premise is ALL ****ed up.

I'm also black and live in SF, and I've hooked up with a number of black guys.

The reality is that there are virtually no black guys out here to begin with, so the probability of two hooking up is very, very low, especially once you factor in attraction and what not.

[Timber]

Originally posted by alfonso12

You are allowed to date the type of person you feel attracted to. I don't see a problem in that. I'm latino and I would rather date a middle eastern guy instead of any other race because I find them ****ing attractive, I don't think that makes me racist or anything.

Right?

I think preference isn't actually the right word, its what you're attracted, meaning what your dick gets hard at when you see them.

That's like telling a gay man to date a girl, they don't because they're simply not attracted to them. You CAN'T control that.

[inspiration4]

Originally posted by Timber

Right?

I think preference isn't actually the right word, its what you're attracted, meaning what your dick gets hard at when you see them.

That's like telling a gay man to date a girl, they don't because they're simply not attracted to them. You CAN'T control that.

There's literally no shred of scientific evidence to back up what your saying.

So until someone does a study and discovers that sexual orientation also extends to race, and thereby redefines sexual orientation itself...maybe just chill.

[Timber]

Originally posted by inspiration4

There's literally no shred of scientific evidence to back up what your saying.

So until someone does a study and discovers that sexual orientation also extends to race, and thereby redefines sexual orientation itself...maybe just chill.

What I'm saying is that people have different attributes that they are attracted to. Perhaps big lips, perhaps hairy legs, perhaps big muscles, perhaps a darker complexion, you don't get to chose, your penis does.

[Soup in Teapot]

Some of the east Asian guys and latino guys are very cute tbh.