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Discussion: Would you let your son wear a dress?
Member Since: 11/15/2011
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Originally posted by nd01
that's right! people on this forum are so naive and think everyone is as accepting as they are and that they can change an entire group of peoples perspective on men dressing in women's clothes.
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Change has to start somewhere. I can't at some of you. So would you also not allow your son or daughter to date someone of the same gender because they would "get bullied"?
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Member Since: 4/5/2014
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Considering the choices you make for your kids, I probably wouldn't let them be friends with mine. You go and complain about society's issues, but you'll just continue them.
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Originally posted by Goosey
Really now  y'all know a dress is woman's clothing! No son of mine would be allowed to wear one. Same thing with Barbie dolls etc. |
What is the problem with playing with Barbie dolls? Your post is absolutely ridiculous.
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Member Since: 11/28/2011
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Originally posted by SlayingOnTheEarth
But they already expressed interest as a child, why must they be 18 to be heard? If kids can decide to commit suicide over being misunderstood at 12, 13, they can have their voices heard at the same age
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Ugh. Please listen to yourself. No boy is going to kill themselves because you forbid them from wearing a certain item. I was not having suicidal thoughts because my mom refused me huaraches. If a dress is that important to your son that he is considering suicide, he is clearly trans. It doesn't take 18 years to realize that your child is trans. That is a completely different matter altogether. Stay on topic.
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Member Since: 8/19/2013
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Originally posted by RomanNavy
I understand if we'd ALL be like that, but me allowing my kid to wear a dress is not gonna change society for one bit. I can be like yeah look at me I'm a good parent my kid can be whoever he wants to be..... But that's not gonna make the rest of the world more accepting.
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Change starts in small doses, so yes, if you changed your perception, others might follow suit and slowly but surely, progress would happen. That's how all progress happens. It starts off slow. Someone's got to start it. The civil rights movement didn't get to MLK's speech because people sat around thinking nothing would change
The fact you believe that changing your mentality would be pointless... 
I actually find that a little sad sis, no shade, but like you have to think more of yourself than that???
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Originally posted by idkher
It's a good thing most of you losers only talk about popstars on here because so many of you are so ****ing stupid when it comes to the real world. You all must have had such awful parents and gone to horrible schools  |
Failing to see the connection of school to this debate, but OK sis, get them WP's 
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Originally posted by Drais.
Right and you throwing a dress on a boy is just giving people another thing to bully him about, which is my point.
IDK why you an't seem to grasp the fact that you're making a decision that WILL only result in negativity from other people.
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So is having a kid with ginger hair? Should you abort the child because he'll get bullied?
Should you tell your kid not to wear his prescribed glassed in school and strain his eyes, so he doesn't get bullied?
IDK why you are so caught up in caring what others think of you?
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Member Since: 3/19/2012
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Originally posted by judaskills
You'd make a terrible parent. Lets just leave it at that. "Omg no put down that barbie, that's a girl's toy... you can only play with trucks!"
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It is a girl's toy, that's why it's designed and marketed for girls! When I was in grade school there were some boys who played with them and guess what, they were all  if you know what I mean. I don't think they even had any male friends. And I have the same opinion of your parenting ideas...
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Member Since: 3/13/2012
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If he wants to be bullied, yes.
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Member Since: 8/17/2013
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Originally posted by SlayingOnTheEarth
Yes Regina, educate them
Studies show that trans kids identify as early as two and three
I knew that's what you were hinting at. You should never have kids if you're already thinking them being 18 and out of your house/responsibility as a valid way of never dealing with any "issues" that arise amongst them
God forbid your future child takes their life at an age younger than 18, because you wouldn't deal with him. Who's the selfish one again? Who's the one looking out for who? Looks like you're more concerned with what people will say about you, than what they'll say about your kid. That's some real ignorance.
And I bet if you had your mom's support, you wouldn't even be that phased by what passerby's say to you, right?
I think you're so brave sis, if that means anything. You do you  |
At the age of 18 they're mature enough to consider the consequences of 'abnormal' behaviour and legally no longer their parents' responsibility.
People can say whatever they want about me, I don't care. I'm used to it. But I'm not going to use some New Age ******** parenting technique because my son might want to wear a dress. Children aren't mature enough to make these kinds of decisions, which is why we raise them with norms and values, and not like experiments.
I'm done discussing this.
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Member Since: 1/3/2014
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Originally posted by Lethal
Honestly no. I hate being narrow minded but that's just not something I would ever be ok with.
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Member Since: 11/15/2011
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Originally posted by Goosey
It is a girl's toy, that's why it's designed and marketed for girls! When I was in grade school there were some boys who played with them and guess what, they were all if you know what I mean. I don't think they even had any male friends. And I have the same opinion of your parenting ideas... |
Hahaha oh I see it now, you're really just homophobic. That's cute. Why are you on a site with lots of gay members and you stan for Rihanna who has a lot of gay fans? Basically you're scared your son would turn out to be gay. And you're falling right into marketing traps.
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Member Since: 8/19/2013
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Am I a bad person for saying no? 
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Member Since: 10/18/2010
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Originally posted by Mezter
Am I a bad person for saying no? |
No, you're an understanding parent/person for that. Whatever you feel is right for your son shouldn't be an issue. But, ask before you shut the whole idea down…
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Member Since: 9/12/2012
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Originally posted by Mezter
Am I a bad person for saying no? |
I think it depends on why you would say no.
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Member Since: 4/5/2014
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Originally posted by Goosey
It is a girl's toy, that's why it's designed and marketed for girls! When I was in grade school there were some boys who played with them and guess what, they were all if you know what I mean. I don't think they even had any male friends. And I have the same opinion of your parenting ideas... |
And what's the problem with them being feminine/gay?
Plus, not having male friends isn't a problem. I can't even at your posts. God.
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Member Since: 12/4/2010
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Originally posted by mdnazn
No, he will be raised as a MAN
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Not the first comment.
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Member Since: 1/1/2014
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Within the house, yes, outside, I really don't know. I don't want him to be ashamed of what he loves, but I'd be nervous someone will hurt him There's a fine line between encouraging and unrealistic. I don't want to set him up for humiliation when I know what the world is like.
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Member Since: 8/19/2013
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No. I would ask him why he wants to wear a dress though. I dont think anybody wants to wear a dress. Babies always try to take their dresses off it must be uncomfortable.
But honestly no. Thats like putting a neon sign on your child and ostracizing them. Until they can justify WHY they want something the parents should call the shots.
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Originally posted by SlayingOnTheEarth
So is having a kid with ginger hair? Should you abort the child because he'll get bullied?
Should you tell your kid not to wear his prescribed glassed in school and strain his eyes, so he doesn't get bullied?
IDK why you are so caught up in caring what others think of you? |
Your examples are ridiculous and aren’t even comparable to what the topic is about. All you're doing is strengthening my point.
And it isn't about caring what other people think.
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Originally posted by Hug
People here are saying that if someone would want to bully someone else, they would regardless of circumstance. However, that doesn't mean give the bullies ammunition and tell them to fire away. Rather, you take the ammunition away so they have nothing left to use.
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Member Since: 8/19/2013
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Originally posted by Jae
At the age of 18 they're mature enough to consider the consequences of 'abnormal' behaviour and legally no longer their parents' responsibility.
People can say whatever they want about me, I don't care. I'm used to it. But I'm not going to use some New Age ******** parenting technique because my son might want to wear a dress. Children aren't mature enough to make these kinds of decisions, which is why we raise them with norms and values, and not like experiments.
I'm done discussing this.
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That first paragraph is you saying you don't want the responsibility of a child, which is bad enough, but especially more so since it's any who is "abnormal", aka more vulnerable and needing protection/solid upbringing. I pray for you that a stork drops off your perfect child, because otherwise... you and that child are in for a shock
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Originally posted by Javan
Ugh. Please listen to yourself. No boy is going to kill themselves because you forbid them from wearing a certain item. I was not having suicidal thoughts because my mom refused me huaraches. If a dress is that important to your son that he is considering suicide, he is clearly trans. It doesn't take 18 years to realize that your child is trans. That is a completely different matter altogether. Stay on topic. |
How do you know they don't? Can you speak for every person? I wasn't saying it about a child who was denied from wearing a certain item, I was speaking about trans kids and the possibility of that child being one.
And I never said it takes 18 years for a kid to realise they are trans, so what are you talking about? 
You're quoting me, but going off on a tangent on stuff I never typed
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Member Since: 4/4/2014
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Originally posted by SlayingOnTheEarth
Failing to see the connection of school to this debate, but OK sis, get them WP's |
If you can't see the connection then that just further supports my point? So much ignorance from uneducated people in this thread especially coming from a forum full of popstar-obsessed gays
Like seriously what schools were you all going to that people were getting beaten up or killed for something as trivial as wearing a dress? This thread is clearly just full of people hiding their own bigotry behind the excuse of "it's for my child's safety".
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