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Discussion: Why a lot of gays doesn't like feminine gays?
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Originally posted by jaker
That's stupid. Then if a girl acts manly, you gonna be attracted to her?
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Well Einstein if some guys aren't attracted to other guys physically because of the way they carry themselves why would the chances be higher with a woman when you obviously see the physical before anything else?
Some guys like fems and some don't. Get over it.
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The stereotype for gay men are now gym driven well dressed men and yes that are loud
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Feminine gays are looked at as the blueprint when it comes to gay men society. When in all actuality everyone is different. It makes us more masculine gay guys feel uncomfortable , which makes us take our anger out on them instead of society. I personally like fem guys equally as much as I like masculine guys. However I don't think gay guys should be penalized for not liking feminine guys, they're not everyone's type.
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Good lord @ this thread. 
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Originally posted by psychodj
But my question is, why is it when a guy is just masculine (you know what I'm saying) why does he have to be straight acting? Why can't that genuinely be who he is? Why does he have to be "straight-acting"? 
Not every gay man is a feminine guy and not every gay man is a masculine guy. At the end of the day, we're all gay, so instead of tearing each other down and hating on each other, we need to respect one another and show some kind of caring. |
Very good point, it does go both ways. When you see those Grindr gays saying "straight-acting ONLY" I'm not acting this way, this is really who I am And the same goes for feminine gays. As you said, we should all just respect one another and have that be the end of it. How can we demand respect from the world if the people within our own community don't respect each other?
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Originally posted by maiko
You are talking about stupid physical queues that are just as irrelevant to femininity
In males as you are to ATRL.
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it has a lot to do with femininity though because thats how people in our society define themselves as being feminine. The whole idea of femininity is a social construct and to perform people typically do so by wearing such thanks for insulting me too you're really ****ed up
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Originally posted by Meowster
There is a ton of prejudice in minorities for some reason. I'd say the gay community is about half effeminate and half masculine. It's a very fine line. Maybe about 25% of masculine gays are prejudiced against feminine gays. Maybe 15% are actively hating. It all goes back to misogyny and the disrespect society gives to women. When the male wants to assume the female roles, it draws attention to themselves which I've noticed a lot of masculine gays aren't interested in.
They should be thankful, however, because the effeminate gays are generally the ones that go to pride and change society's viewpoint because they are vocal but whatever.
I've dated a feminine man that was way more dominant than me and a masculine man that was equally as submissive as me. Things won't change until society views people as people and not stereotypes. |
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I do wonder how some of you feel about straight women not being attracted to feminine men (for the most part)????
Is there any difference?
Why are straight girls allowed to want masculinity in a guy, but not gay guys???
Are they self-hating their feminine qualities?
Curious minds need to know...
Explain por favor.
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Originally posted by inspiration4
I say self-victimizing because many of you are under the impression that people hate fems since they're not attracted to them, when in reality, the actual hate is spread thin.
I mean, look at the painful ignorance spewed in your post. I've yet to say one thing negative about fems, yet you've attributed claims of them being "loud" & "flamboyant" to ME. What many of you do is focus on the few sparse negative comments and then attach them to the larger population of gay men, which leads you to making ignorant ass sweeping generalizations about being oppressed and ****.
That's what makes it self-victimization. You see everyone as out to get you, when in reality it's your own ego and insecurities that are doing you in.
Have a nice day.
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I never attributed those labels to you... a dog yelps when kicked I guess
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From personal experience, I really dislike gay guys who claim to be masculine acting or straight acting which reinforce self hatred within the same community, but tend to act or say stuff which can be considered feminine or gay. Nobody is forcing you to date a feminine looking or acting guy, but it same it sucks to have a narrow mentality etc... like all whites no Asian that type of racial discrimination crap. At least a feminine guy whether how loud or obnoxious or even flamboyant is acting naturally and not giving a single **** about anyone, and besides there's no such thing 100 % masculinity even in a masculine straight guy, and heavily in the gay community. For example, I don't dress up girly, or talk in a high pitched voice way, but because I'm really skinny and talk in a low tone (I bit demonstrate a light form of campyness), everyone who's gay and knows about me, lumps me in the twink category even though I'm a pup (btw I hate labels) and people who pretend to be straight or are straight have doubts about me . Also, I really hate the masculine stuff that masculine guys hate like gym because of stinky ass people in there, competitive sports like wrestling or rugby cause I think they are gay as **** and I hate being around groups, and pretending to enjoy popping or licking ***** or **** but I know in fact that's gross. So, to all the straight acting masculine guys who don't wanna have realistic and less prejudiced perspective, **** you.
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Fem guys doesn't equal rupauls drag race  honestly ppl
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Originally posted by inspiration4
I do wonder how some of you feel about straight women not being attracted to feminine men (for the most part)????
Is there any difference?
Why are straight girls allowed to want masculinity in a guy, but not gay guys???
Are they self-hating their feminine qualities?
Curious minds need to know...
Explain por favor. |
It's the same thing.
And no one cares if they're not attracted to fem males.
It's the lack of respect they get that's the problem.
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Originally posted by NewRihannaStan
I don't think some of y'all know what it means to be a man . A man takes cares of his business and handles what needs to be done. If a man wants to wear heels dress up and has a high voice as long as he handles his business and has his **** together he is more of a man that still lives with his mom that is over 21 and not doing **** has baby moms and doesn't even take care of his children
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Exactly. As long as a man (or a woman) is getting **** done, who gives a **** what they act like? Feminine men are still MEN and, likewise, masculine women are still women.
I understand the fact that some people aren't attracted mentally/physically to feminine gays, but at least have respect. We're all gay and we all like dick.
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Originally posted by MM3
Very good point, it does go both ways. When you see those Grindr gays saying "straight-acting ONLY" I'm not acting this way, this is really who I am And the same goes for feminine gays. As you said, we should all just respect one another and have that be the end of it. How can we demand respect from the world if the people within our own community don't respect each other? |
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Don't get offended if someone disrespects feminine gays and then turn around and disrespect the masculine ones. As long they're being genuinely true to themselves and happy, then what is the issue? The gay community is so obsessed with imagery and has so much hatred amongst itself its ridiculous. We all need to learn how to be respectful towards one another and uplift each other, not bring one another down over stupid things.
If you are not attracted to a feminine/ masculine guy, fine. But at LEAST show some respect for one another.
Also, can we stop with the labels?
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Originally posted by inspiration4
I do wonder how some of you feel about straight women not being attracted to feminine men (for the msot part)????
Is there any difference?
Why are straight girls allowed to want masculinity in a guy, but not gay guys???
Are they self-hating their feminine qualities?
Curious minds need to know...
Explain por favor.
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I mentioned this earlier. And yes, to an extant, it is self hatred but at the same time it is also because society taught them that a man should be tough and masculine. I can't really provide many examples though. All of my female best friends were beards for over 10 relationships each.
It's also kind of "in style" to go after the cute hipster effeminate straight boy atm though.
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please don't go off into a completely separate tangent because you have nothing intelligent to say/need to justify not liking fem guys
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Originally posted by bijonse
I never attributed those labels to you... a dog yelps when kicked I guess
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Lying is not tolerated on ATRL. GET OUT.
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Originally posted by bijonse
"self victimizing"
are feminine gays just supposed to let you talk to them any kind of way?this is why they're so "flamboyant" and "loud" as you claim; they constantly have to deal with dumb **** like this I mean at least give them props for not giving a **** was straight people think unlike you |
BYE.
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Originally posted by inspiration4
I say self-victimizing because many of you are under the impression that people hate fems since they're not attracted to them, when in reality, the actual hate is spread thin.
I mean, look at the painful ignorance spewed in your post. I've yet to say one thing negative about fems, yet you've attributed claims of them being "loud" & "flamboyant" to ME. What many of you do is focus on the few sparse negative comments and then attach them to the larger population of gay men, which leads you to making ignorant ass sweeping generalizations about being oppressed and ****.
That's what makes it self-victimization. You see everyone as out to get you, when in reality it's your own ego and insecurities that are doing you in.
Have a nice day.
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Right, lol.
Someone can say they aren't attracted to fem gays and then someone comes behind you attacking you making assumptions that you're "disgusted" by them or feel "ashamed" by them. 
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Originally posted by TheSeenScene
Good lord @ this thread. |
Yet MY ICONIC ""Are Feminine Guys Overlooked" thread was closed....
I call prejudice!!!!!
VIVA LA MYTRL>>>>LONG LIVE TEDDY MICHAELS
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Originally posted by bijonse
I never attributed those labels to you... a dog yelps when kicked I guess
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You actually did but mess.
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