If you get married would any of you... take your husbands last name, have him take your last name, keep your name, or do that hypen thing? Does it usually fall one way for tops/bottoms if you're gay?
I don't know which I would do, I kind of want to keep mine but I would feel a bit pressured to, as a woman, take my husbands last name. Also what do you do for the kids' last name?
I would discuss which surname is better, which surname would sound better with our kids names, which surname would be more likely to get them job interviews (sad, but true) and then go with that.
Hyphenating surnames is great and all, but if every generation did that, people would have like 8 surnames 3 generations in.
I actually got married not too long ago and in the Netherlands you have several options as husband and wife.
1 keep your name
2 take his name
3 His name - Your name
4 Your name - His name
This is an option for both parties. For me, I was fine with taking his name, I live in The Netherlands with a German last name, he's Swedish so I was happy to take his.
Now we are both called "has last name - my last name"
He changed his as well to that cause he wanted us to be equal.
Yes, I will take my husband's surname. Hyphenation can be awkward (to me) and I would like our family (my husband, myself and child/children) to share the same name. I don't have any issues with how anyone decides to go about approaching surnames for their own families tho.
My last name Gilstrap is horrible to have when your gay cause they will just call us The Gaystraps or the JockStraps. I'm not here for it so I will take his last name only.