I often hear this from other women, that men can't be feminists and that many of them are just looking to have a title for themselves to look cool. Do you agree with this?

they can be and "feminists" that say this are very hateful and not feminists

ofc they can, but they need to sit back, be quiet, and let the women do their own talking

But they can?

They can, anyone who says otherwise is incorrect and knows nothing.

The complete hypocrisy here

Well a lot of men go under the guise of being a feminist to get attention and or sleep with women. That's where that sentiment comes from.

Most women support men who are feminists as long as men aren't directing the conversation of woman's issues and don't demand attention to be put on them.

They can and whoever says they don't, just considers this as a movement against men in general

Some people allege that they can't because they will never truly understand the struggle for women and their oppression - some even argue that men supporting the feminist cause actually undermines it - but I don't see why men can't support the fight for equality.

It's not hypocrisy. Just like a white person has no authority in a conversation about racism, a man also doesn't have any in a conversation about women's rights.

The most effective way for men to be feminists is to not tolerate the sexist remarks or beliefs of the men that they interact with. Those types of men don't usually take a woman's opinion/experience seriously so a male feminist can be a great asset in this sense.

got something to say?

Anyone who believes in equality between men and women and promotes it is a feminist.

Anyone who believes that men and women should be held to different standards, regardless of to whose detriment it is, is NOT a feminist.

I don't know about that. I think white people should be involved in conversations of racism - they don't face it but they do hold up the institution of racism, and if they are not educated about it, they will never learn. Also, why be so willing to discredit activism from a person who genuinely feels concern for the issue of racism despite not experiencing it firsthand? That's basically saying, "you've never experienced my pain, please stop acting on my behalf to find a solution to my problem".

The problem with intervention in racism comes when those who have never experienced want to DECIDE what constitutes racism. As they do not experience it, they should not be deciders of what fits the boundaries of racism.

But they can be. I am.

Because women compete for our large penises.

There have been some cases where men self identify as feminists to get into positions where they can take advantage of women.

That leads to wariness, but even then, men CAN be feminists.

white people can be educated without speaking on behalf of poc

the point is that white people are everywhere. literally everywhere. we have the most power, we're seen the most, we're the norm. we need to take a step back and let their voices be heard

Not really true since feminism is about tackling and taking down the patriarchy - which also harms men.

Beyoncé says I am, so I am.