A little extra work is hardly giving up your life. At least that's how I see it
Well, it can be said that handicapped require alot more attention then average children. Some parents in a two part home quit their jobs to raise the child and they never have time to go out and enjoy themselves.
People need to accept that while it may not be their fault as to whether a child has disabilities, they are the ones who chose to undertake that responsibility before having a child.
You don't get to just forget about a kid, just because they weren't born to your liking. If you weren't prepared to have a child and run the risk of your child not coming out as you hoped, then you shouldn't have participated in activities that could bring forth a child. This applies not only to Down Syndrome, but to many other issues such as sexual orientation, transsexuality, sex etc.
Well, it can be said that handicapped require alot more attention then average children. Some parents in a two part home quit their jobs to raise the child and they never have time to go out and enjoy themselves.
if you have a child then you should take care of it regardless of if you are having fun or not. you made the decision to have a child. now you have to act like an adult and deal with it.
When you have a child you're supposed to be willing to dedicate your life to them anyway. Though I can see why people may say this because a disabled child has a lot more needs and takes a lot more attention and dedication (both emotionally, physically and financially) for a longer period of time.
People shouldn't be having kids if they aren't prepared to take on the responsibility regardless but I also respect people who are good enough to admit that they can't handle something instead of raising the child and not giving it the proper care that it needs.
One of my brothers had downs syndrome and he was the most carefree generous person you could ever meet, he cut lawns and everyone loved him. When he died at 45 literally 100's of people came to the service because he touched their lives in such a meaningful way. He was teased, bullied and beat up but not broken he never really understood why people acted the way they do and he never had a bad thing to say. He lived a life of innocence not know that bad things existed in this world. I wish I could be more like him and not a day goes by that I don’t miss him.
So anyone who thinks it's giving up your life is a fool, you are missing out on life and many wonderful experiences. I do understand that it can be too much of a financial hardship on some people.
My brother is autistic and my parents gave me to my grandparents to raise cause he was such a handful. My twin sister lived next door with them so they was always around. But I know it had to be a huge sacrifice for my mom to let her mom raise me. They had a life indeed they drank and had friends over my brother even hanged out with them. It was messy but you can't still have a life with a disabled child.
One of my brothers had downs syndrome and he was the most carefree generous person you could ever meet, he cut lawns and everyone loved him. When he died at 45 literally 100's of people came to the service because he touched their lives in such a meaningful way. He was teased, bullied and beat up but not broken he never really understood why people acted the way they do and he never had a bad thing to say. He lived a life of innocence not know that bad things existed in this world. I wish I could be more like him and not a day goes by that I don’t miss him.
So anyone who thinks it's giving up your life is a fool, you are missing out on life and many wonderful experiences. I do understand that it can be too much of a financial hardship on some people.
Not all people can handle taking care of a mentally challenged person. I don't blame the mother.. I mean how many stories do you hear about people treating mentally challenged people wrong? At least she knew right then she wasn't capable. I don't see the problem.
One of my brothers had downs syndrome and he was the most carefree generous person you could ever meet, he cut lawns and everyone loved him. When he died at 45 literally 100's of people came to the service because he touched their lives in such a meaningful way. He was teased, bullied and beat up but not broken he never really understood why people acted the way they do and he never had a bad thing to say. He lived a life of innocence not know that bad things existed in this world. I wish I could be more like him and not a day goes by that I don’t miss him.
So anyone who thinks it's giving up your life is a fool, you are missing out on life and many wonderful experiences. I do understand that it can be too much of a financial hardship on some people.
I'm sorry you lost your brother. Your story made me tear up a bit
I'm sorry you lost your brother. Your story made me tear up a bit
It's the worst thing I have ever experienced but he was sick and he somehow knew it was time, he was in and out of the hospital a lot but the night he passed he asked my mom to sit with him, something he never did.
Disabled or not, you have to give up most of your "life" to raise a child, that's just how it works. If you are not ready to do that, use contraception.
It's the worst thing I have ever experienced but he was sick and he somehow knew it was time, he was in and out of the hospital a lot but the night he passed he asked my mom to sit with him, something he never did.
Yeah sometimes people just know when it's their time. Sounds like he left your family and lots of other people with a ton of positive memories and great life lessons too.
Y'all don't realize how much work it is to handle the doctor and hospital visits, physical therapy, special schooling, any mental issues, etc. If you're not sigmificantly well off and both parents are working jobs that don't provide flexible hours.
For example, I have depression and myparents could rarely get time off. There were times I wouldn't see a therapist for weeks. I could get pills for cheap thanks for insurance, but not everyone has that opportunity. And my problem was not nearly as severe as the disabilities being discussed, yet it seems like y'all are okay with some couple that just wanted an average family being strandled with something so brudensome and expensive, like that kid would suffer under condtions like mine.
