meaning, feeling contentment and joy inside your heart? Or can they only bring "pleasure"(shor-term happiness)?

Can you rely your happiness on other people or will you be dissappointed?

I read this and it says people cant make you happy.

http://www.dummies.com/how-to/conten...ess-myths.html

Yeah, my family brings me happiness.

Yes.

My family brings me happiness and my friends brings me sadness .

To a degree

I wouldn't necessarily "rely" on other people for my happiness, but I think there are people I have yet to meet who could make me happy. I also know there are people who if I lost, I would be very sad about.

That means you are constantly happy which I dont believe for a second.

Eventually, you will get used to your family. Its called adaptation.

Yeeees

No.

They can in situations depending on what they do, but not physically make you happy.

Rely on yourself for happiness because at some point, you'll have to, if no one else is there.

I am of the same opinion. Thanks.

I think it is unfair to other people to burden them by giving the responsibility of your own happiness.

Cool. I learned that the hard way. I realised I used to rely on people to make me feel good. And if they didn't I'd fall to pieces. So I learned to do what made me happy and it makes me smile. It's the best way to live, as the other way...it's horrible - although when you're in that mindset you don't think you can make yourself happy. And that is sad.

I think it's important for a person to find happiness in themselves because letting someone be the only source of happiness is unhealthy.

That being said, yes. There's a guy in my life who's in London for a few months and I honestly thought I'd be okay but over the past few weeks I can feel myself sinking into a depressive episode.

He's not the only thing thing in the life that makes me happy, but he does make me happy and being removed from him kinda makes me feel like I'm dying every day.

It is. Because you'll be like a parasite or leech. They'll never be good enough. You'll keep craving and never have enough.

Same experience. I learned to be happy on my own by setting goals and working towards them. Gave me purpose, contentment and happiness in life. I am WAY happier than I was 2-3 years ago. Enough was enough. My heart couldnt take it anymore.

But I am healed now.

Exactly.

But what you need to understandis that your thinking is what is causing this, not him as a person. The truth is that you wont be happier if you have a relationship with him. That "excitement" will be gone after few weeks, then what?

Yes, of course to a certain extent. Friends, family etc. However, if you aren't content with yourself then that feeling if happiness will only be temporary. So you still need to be happy for yourself.

I mean, yeah, I know what you mean. But, this is someone who's been a huge part of my life for like three years now? And we've always had a complex relationship. If it wasn't for that, I would totally agree.

I am trying to make myself happy on my own, but it's hard you know? I usually am a super cheerful person too!

I did the same. It was damn hard though. I also make sure that I treat myself as a number one priority and not run to people/move my whole world for them. My dad warned me when I was younger but I didn't understand. Boy he was right.

Explain that dearie, I mean, if you feel like that, change your friends

I know what you mean, but believe me. If you rely your happiness on your relationship with him, you will be very disappointed. If you become so attached to a person, you are risking yourself to be extremly hurt. I have been there and it is not fun.


Do you something you deeply love? Not a person but like a hobby. Do you have goals? Do you live a purposeful life?

This is what brings inner happiness, working towards something meaningful. Not achivements, person ,money, fame or looks will bring you happiness.