Here's my recent story (as of a few hours ago). I would really appreciate some advice.

This guy added me on Facebook about two months ago. He doesn't usually add people, but he thought I was cute & we had mutual friends in common. Anyway after about 2 weeks of talking on fb we went out for dinner and met for this first time. It was great - we got along well, he wasn't into the scene and we had lots of things in common. Anyway we texts tons (like 50 times + a day) and hung out a couple of more times. We didn't do anything sexually at all - but you could feel some tension. He told me that he was beginning to like me, and we talked about movie nights and everything like that romantically (probably 6 weeks into meeting each other).

Anyway then he took me out on a date & paid for dinner - and it was amazing. Like chemistry / fluent talking everything. He then initiated a kiss with me, which I wasn't expecting at the time so we kind of missed each other it wasn't the best kiss lol. But hey it's the first time, i personally didn't read into it at all. We kissed a couple more times that night, but yeah wasn't amazing - but they were just pecks at I was a bit nervous. ANYWAY we cuddled a bit through the night and it didn't get awkward at all. Then when the date ended. I arrived home to the texts of two <3 <3 from him on my phone and that he had a great night. We continued texting like we were dating for a day or two.

Then today out of no where I get this text.

"So I've been thinking about us and is it possible to just be mates for now? I do like you but i think i need to be alone for a bit cause of stuff going on with me! I don't wanna stop hanging on anything though "

Then I was kind of like okay, but i thought it was going well and I'm keen to take things slow and just see where they go?

Then he says "Well I guess i just don't think i want a relationship at the moment! not being dramatic but it's kind of scary even thinking about one haha. And I'm enjoying being single (not that i sleep with anyone or anything), but it's kinda nice to be able to do my own thing"

Like wtf? Why add me on facebook, say many a time how much you like me, then just randomly pull this **** up? I really like this guy - like the most I've ever liked anyone in 21 years. I don't know what to do. It doesn't make sense to me at all and I'm heartbroken. What should I do?

Awwww, he isn't telling the truth.

Should I press for the truth?

The only thing I can think of is that one of our mutual friends spoke **** about me? We both have gay mutual friends on fb, but two of them literally hate my guts. I really can only link the situation to that, or the fact that our kiss wasn't that great? - but then he texted me after the date and said he had a great night. You wouldn't do that if the date had caused you to lose interest.

Aww

I wouldn't sweat it, it might push him away even more. Maybe he really is afraid of being in a relationship. Hate when guys lead you on.

Maybe he got scared of the whole relatioshipt thing, it puts too much pressure on him. Maybe ha has commitment problems.

Possibly - but if he was scared, I don't think he would just put me under the bus like that. He went out with his ex for a year - and broke up 3 months ago - so I thought he be past the rebound stage. Plus he's told me I was only the third guy he's kissed - but maybe that's BS idk

And i'm completely used to being led on. The thing is we took things slow - which I have never done before, so I really thought everything was genuine + I know there's mutual chemistry. Life just sucks balls

if this is true, why go out with obvious dates with me and state your affection?

it just kills me when these things happen and I can't find any logical reason for it happening

Maybe it's as simple as this he thought he liked you then realized after he kissed you he wasn't that into you. I mean why can't people accept some people will like you and some people won't. Move on

I'm thinking someone else has come into his life that his interested in. maybe his ex came cerawling back to him, or one of his other close friends told him they liked him so he wanted to date them cause he knew them a lot already.

My other idea is that since he started talking to you and going out on dates with u it reminded him of his ex and he missed his ex. So maybe he's not completely over his ex right now. But in this cause his heart will heal and there's still a chance he'd come to you again and tell you he's ready for a relationship.

What he said basically translates into "I want to **** you when it's convenient for me, but I don't want any emotions involved".

Read as:

Then he says "I wanna sleep around, I wanna sleep around, I wanna sleep around, I wanna sleep around, I wanna sleep around, I wanna sleep around".

A little more than a year ago a girl did this to me. We always talked about how much we liked each other and then one morning she texted me and told me that she didn't wanna be in a relationship with me anymore (not that we were official or anything) and that she wanted us to just be friends. But the same day she told me how much she still liked me and for a couple more days, we were still "together". But it ended badly and it was a total mess for both of us. So yes, maybe your mutual friends talked **** about you to him, or maybe it'll end up like what happened to me. You just never know until he tells you. But DON'T press for information and keep bothering him. That's what I did and it never works out.

You should have pretended like there wasn't anything romantic going on in the first place anyway. That always gets them.

But for now, just be his friend and don't push anything on to him.

Tell em like it is!

happend to me too nd is still see that girl ...almost every duckin day in school don't waste any more time on that guy

I'm the same lol

Anyways I wouldn't even consider this being dumped seeing how u weren't officially dating
Don't let this get u down boo