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Discussion: ATRL Cares | Vent and Support
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Fear not, Queen Starships is here coming to help by the power of Mother Demetria
Let me get to these issues and respond
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Originally posted by Starships
Fear not, Queen Starships is here coming to help by the power of Mother Demetria
Let me get to these issues and respond
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I ****ing screamed
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Member Since: 8/18/2013
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Originally posted by KingSebert
I feel really alone most of the time. I've lost pretty much all my close friends and I'm in the closet and I'm unsure of my future it just sucks
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My Demetria senses are telling me that you're still pretty young.
Once you reach 18, come out and put yourself out there. If youre too scared of anything, why, were all gonna doe anyways, id rather do something that I regret than dont do someone and regret it
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Originally posted by ForeverNow90
The Hive and Navy rivalry annoys me
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As cliche as it may seem, we just have to deal with it, dmei x gomez rivalry annoys me but this is life trololol
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Originally posted by coolcristobal
I'm so bad at making new friends and meeting new people. I know this is a common complaint, but this has gotten to the point where it's so bad, that I have absolutely ZERO friends atm where I currently live. I have several friends in San Diego and Sacramento, but I'm so alone here in Santa Barbara (where I currently live). My awkwardness just really drives people away from me, I guess
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Mother Demetria says, stop classifying your awkwardness as awkward, youre pretty young and you have so much more to look forward to, put your school first, in college you can make a lot of new friends and possibly meet your special mate
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Originally posted by Demiboyx
Well let me come in here and talk about what's been troubling me for nearly a year now, I've come to terms with my sexuality but don't want to come out because I just don't like the gay community, they are very bitchy, bitter, racist and all sorts, I'll rather stick with being closeted but with better people.
I'm not saying that the whole LGBT group fits into that stereotype because I know a few people that I can count with one hand that are nice people but they will agree.
I'm just really frustrated :/
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Legend Lovato's advice says that you should acknowledge that no one is perfect, no culture is perfect, Gay culture could be racist and whatever but the same goes to Straight culture, you just have to deal with it as it's a fact
Thats all for tonight, Mother Demetria hopes you find the good and be guided by the Neon Light
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Member Since: 3/14/2013
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Originally posted by FunkyDinevo
Alright I might as well let some bats out of the cage
20, single, and never been in a relationship. Why is that? Cause I'm scared shitless of what's going to happen. I don't want to put my heart out there and have it broken. It's hard but I'm trying. Each time my mind says I'm ready, 5 seconds later it's back to square one. I also feel as though a guy won't like me because of my physical appearance. I'm not too thin nor overweight ( I'm classified as a Pup). It's just in the gay community that we seem to be focused more on looks rather than personality. Starting in February I'm doing the internship of my dreams and (it is said that) 50% of the guys are gay. I have a feeling **** is going to go down while I'm there.
Advice?
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First of all, gorl BYE I saw your pic in PYP and you are ****ing hot.
I know its difficult as an introverted person to put yourself out there, but if I could overcome my shyness so can you. I just stopped caring what people thought about me because it really doesn't add value to my life.
If you meet someone you like at this internship spend some time with him, things will work itself out.
Don't worry about your physical appearance cuz gyal you ****ing served Frank Ocean Realne$$ in PYP
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Member Since: 8/18/2013
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Originally posted by ForeverNow90
First of all, gorl BYE I saw your pic in PYP and you are ****ing hot.
I know its difficult as an introverted person to put yourself out there, but if I could overcome my shyness so can you. I just stopped caring what people thought about me because it really doesn't add value to my life.
If you meet someone you like at this internship spend some time with him, things will work itself out.
Don't worry about your physical appearance cuz gyal you ****ing served Frank Ocean Realne$$ in PYP
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Yas SLAY queen of Advice
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It's so hard for me to fit in and make close friends. Because like thegmangrant said, I'm not the type of person to party, smoke weed/do drugs and have sex... But all the people around me do that stuff. I'm also not those nerdy/geeky type of people too. I'm just there. I feel like no group wants me. I only talk to people when I play basketball/soccer. But I can't exceed my relationship with them after the season ends. I just never have things in common with others. I think I'm a very weird person and I hate myself for it. I'm trying to appreciate myself more, but it's just so hard. I only do small talk with people, and I hate that **** because I feel like I'm sometimes an introvert. I only have 2 very close friends, which I'm very grateful for, but they are childhood friends. I was different back then. If they met me now, they probably wouldn't be close with me.
Also, I'm kind of socially awkward around girls. Whenever I talk to a cute girl, I stutter or I'm just so awkward... And I know I'm being awkward. It pisses me off. I have so much to say as a person but I just blank. I think that's a self-confidence thing though. How can I change that?
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Originally posted by BabyCantYouSee
It's so hard for me to fit in and make close friends. Because like thegmangrant said, I'm not the type of person to party, smoke weed/do drugs and have sex... But all the people around me do that stuff. I'm also not those nerdy/geeky type of people too. I'm just there. I feel like no group wants me. I only talk to people when I play basketball/soccer. But I can't exceed my relationship with them after the season ends. I just never have things in common with others. I think I'm a very weird person and I hate myself for it. I'm trying to appreciate myself more, but it's just so hard. I only do small talk with people, and I hate that **** because I feel like I'm sometimes an introvert. I only have 2 very close friends, which I'm very grateful for, but they are childhood friends. I was different back then. If they met me now, they probably wouldn't be close with me.
Also, I'm kind of socially awkward around girls. Whenever I talk to a cute girl, I stutter or I'm just so awkward... And I know I'm being awkward. It pisses me off. I have so much to say as a person but I just blank. I think that's a self-confidence thing though. How can I change that?
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Let me ask the Lovato spirits...
They say that if youre not into weed/sex/whatever, then DONT do it, do not EVER change yourself to try to fit in, because that will mak you even more unhappy
I guess youre not even in college yet, college seriously changes things up, people are more open minded and you WILL make new friends
As for girls, heres a tip, if you KNOW that youre gonna stutter or be awkward, then just go IN. because:
1- if you didnt, shell just go lol
2- if you did and tried your best to be impressive, you WILL stutter and get awkard
So just talk to her KNOWING that you are awkward as hell and stuff, you will be so much comfortable talking to people being you
Because if they like you when you stutter, they like YOU for YOU and nothing else
Queen Lovato says bye now
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Originally posted by Starships
Let me ask the Lovato spirits...
They say that if youre not into weed/sex/whatever, then DONT do it, do not EVER change yourself to try to fit in, because that will mak you even more unhappy
I guess youre not even in college yet, college seriously changes things up, people are more open minded and you WILL make new friends
As for girls, heres a tip, if you KNOW that youre gonna stutter or be awkward, then just go IN. because:
1- if you didnt, shell just go lol
2- if you did and tried your best to be impressive, you WILL stutter and get awkard
So just talk to her KNOWING that you are awkward as hell and stuff, you will be so much comfortable talking to people being you
Because if they like you when you stutter, they like YOU for YOU and nothing else
Queen Lovato says bye now
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Haha this made me smile. Thanks so much. This was actually really good advice. but what do you mean by going "IN"? Just be myself?
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Member Since: 3/14/2013
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Originally posted by BabyCantYouSee
It's so hard for me to fit in and make close friends. Because like thegmangrant said, I'm not the type of person to party, smoke weed/do drugs and have sex... But all the people around me do that stuff. I'm also not those nerdy/geeky type of people too. I'm just there. I feel like no group wants me. I only talk to people when I play basketball/soccer. But I can't exceed my relationship with them after the season ends. I just never have things in common with others. I think I'm a very weird person and I hate myself for it. I'm trying to appreciate myself more, but it's just so hard. I only do small talk with people, and I hate that **** because I feel like I'm sometimes an introvert. I only have 2 very close friends, which I'm very grateful for, but they are childhood friends. I was different back then. If they met me now, they probably wouldn't be close with me.
Also, I'm kind of socially awkward around girls. Whenever I talk to a cute girl, I stutter or I'm just so awkward... And I know I'm being awkward. It pisses me off. I have so much to say as a person but I just blank. I think that's a self-confidence thing though. How can I change that?
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Its great that you didn't change who you are for the sake of friendship. Honestly, I'd rather have no friends than fit in with the crowd so kudos to you
Do your two friends have other friends as well? If they do then try and hang out with them too, or if you prefer limiting the people in your inner circle that's fine too.
I know all about being socially awkward. Its probably easier said than done, but STOP over-thinking situations and just go with the flow, you'll be fine. Also, from personal experience, some girls like guys who are "sweet" and have the cute factor. Being nervous or awkward around girls can actually get you far if you do it right. Hope this helps. Good luck with everything. XO.
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Originally posted by BabyCantYouSee
Haha this made me smile. Thanks so much. This was actually really good advice. but what do you mean by going "IN"? Just be myself?
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Like don't prepare speech, dont overthink the conversation, just go so naturally!
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Originally posted by ForeverNow90
Its great that you didn't change who you are for the sake of friendship. Honestly, I'd rather have no friends than fit in with the crowd so kudos to you
Do your two friends have other friends as well? If they do then try and hang out with them too, or if you prefer limiting the people in your inner circle that's fine too.
I know all about being socially awkward. Its probably easier said than done, but STOP over-thinking situations and just go with the flow, you'll be fine. Also, from personal experience, some girls like guys who are "sweet" and have the cute factor. Being nervous or awkward around girls can actually get you far if you do it right. Hope this helps. Good luck with everything. XO.
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My close friends' friends are all ghetto + party people as well. I can't relate to them by any means. I never knew it'd be this hard as a teenager. I'm wasting my youth on **** like this. Right now I'm supposed to be stress free and care free, but I'm not which makes me so mad. I deserve better, but it's hard to change. Thank you.
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I also have another problem. One of my ****ing co workers doesn't like me and always tries to put me in ****. I'm not the type of person to start problems and I really can't defend myself properly (I get it from my mom). Today she snitched on me to the manager because I didn't do a task properly and moved on to the other task. I was going to fix it later on... But she purposely goes to the manager and tells her. I didn't even say anything. What the **** is wrong with me? I always let people walk all over me and then when I go home, I get consumed with all my bad thoughts and I turn out to be such a negative person sometimes. Which I HATE. I was always a positive and happy person, ever since growing up no matter what issues I had to go through. I wish I wasn't such a mama's boy and was more like my dad. It's not only this co worker that bothers me actually, it's in general. I just let people walk all over me. I'm too scared to stick up for myself.
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Never force a change in yourself just to fit in with any group. You'll feel accepted in the moment but when you get back home you'll just return to your real self and feel like ****.
As far as making friends, try going to events or functions you may be interested in. If you like sports then hang out at the gym more, join a neighborhood team etc etc. If you happen to be into anime then attend some type of convention. If you're into arts/craft try taking some pottery classes etc etc.
The main thing some of you need to do is just put yourself out there. Yes it's scary, but if you don't take risks then what's the point of life? No one is stopping you from doing anything but you.
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Originally posted by BabyCantYouSee
My close friends' friends are all ghetto + party people as well. I can't relate to them by any means. I never knew it'd be this hard as a teenager. I'm wasting my youth on **** like this. Right now I'm supposed to be stress free and care free, but I'm not which makes me so mad. I deserve better, but it's hard to change. Thank you.
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I also have another problem. One of my ****ing co workers doesn't like me and always tries to put me in ****. I'm not the type of person to start problems and I really can't defend myself properly (I get it from my mom). Today she snitched on me to the manager because I didn't do a task properly and moved on to the other task. I was going to fix it later on... But she purposely goes to the manager and tells her. I didn't even say anything. What the **** is wrong with me? I always let people walk all over me and then when I go home, I get consumed with all my bad thoughts and I turn out to be such a negative person sometimes. Which I HATE. I was always a positive and happy person, ever since growing up no matter what issues I had to go through. I wish I wasn't such a mama's boy and was more like my dad. It's not only this co worker that bothers me actually, it's in general. I just let people walk all over me. I'm too scared to stick up for myself.
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This will sound extremely ghetto but:
Be a BO$$ A$$ BITCH!
This hoe is hatin' on you? **** ha, snatch ha poor a$$ weave and tell her how ******* insecure ha a$$ is and she should reconsider ha existence if all she could do is bully someone through the manager.
Then, try to do the same, if shes a bitch, BE a bitch! Be SO nitpicky, tell the manager IMMEDIATELY on anything she does wrong.
Then just smile to her
She will be FUMING
Sometimes, you have to be a bitch, to deal with a bitch.
Treat people how they treat you, not how you want them to treat you
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Member Since: 5/21/2012
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I WANT FRIENDSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS
Who don't listen to rap.
who aren't overly sexual. (straight guys, gays and girls)
There's my vent.
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Member Since: 3/14/2013
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Originally posted by Starships
This will sound extremely ghetto but:
Be a BO$$ A$$ BITCH!
This hoe is hatin' on you? **** ha, snatch ha poor a$$ weave and tell her how ******* insecure ha a$$ is and she should reconsider ha existence if all she could do is bully someone through the manager.
Then, try to do the same, if shes a bitch, BE a bitch! Be SO nitpicky, tell the manager IMMEDIATELY on anything she does wrong.
Then just smile to her
She will be FUMING
Sometimes, you have to be a bitch, to deal with a bitch.
Treat people how they treat you, not how you want them to treat you
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I can't say I disagree with my queen
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Member Since: 8/17/2013
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Originally posted by ForeverNow90
First of all, gorl BYE I saw your pic in PYP and you are ****ing hot.
I know its difficult as an introverted person to put yourself out there, but if I could overcome my shyness so can you. I just stopped caring what people thought about me because it really doesn't add value to my life.
If you meet someone you like at this internship spend some time with him, things will work itself out.
Don't worry about your physical appearance cuz gyal you ****ing served Frank Ocean Realne$$ in PYP
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Thanks sis
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The manager doesn't like me though. And everyone likes her at my work. They're all up her ass, even though she talks **** about each and every single one of them with different people in the circle each time.
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Get a new job lined up, and call that bitch out.
Quit and start fresh at your new job.
The only way to start off 2014.
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Member Since: 1/25/2012
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Originally posted by Bert.
Get a new job lined up, and call that bitch out.
Quit and start fresh at your new job.
The only way to start off 2014.
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True, I will start looking.
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Member Since: 1/7/2011
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Originally posted by BabyCantYouSee
True, I will start looking.
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I have faith in you young man you will succeed
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