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Discussion: Is being a virgin weird?
Member Since: 11/9/2011
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No.
What's weird is losing your virginity at 13 and spending the remainder of your teens ****ing everything that comes your way, constantly thinking someone gave you a disease, losing your best friend over your stupidity and insatiable sexual appetite, not being able to sustain a relationship, becoming a cheater and a liar, developing a horrible reputation because of it and as a result sinking into a major depression, self-medicating with drugs and alcohol and not being able to leave your house because every step you take and every familiar face you see reminds you of what a vile, repulsive, ****** person you are.
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Member Since: 1/6/2010
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No. But don't say it to your friends. Lie about it. They probably find it weird.
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Member Since: 1/1/2014
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Originally posted by duybeeGAshantiGA
This. First time is so good. You won't get that feeling again... I wish I could get back to those days ... Now I am just so used to it I dont really feel anymore (((
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Member Since: 5/26/2012
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I lost mine in a total mess and I think I ll regret it forever
so just take your time, there s nothing weird about it if you didnt find the right person yet
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Member Since: 1/6/2014
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Originally posted by ***** of Babylon
No.
What's weird is losing your virginity at 13 and spending the remainder of your teens ****ing everything that comes your way, constantly thinking someone gave you a disease, losing your best friend over your stupidity and insatiable sexual appetite, not being able to sustain a relationship, becoming a cheater and a liar, developing a horrible reputation because of it and as a result sinking into a major depression, self-medicating with drugs and alcohol and not being able to leave your house because every step you take and every familiar face you see reminds you of what a vile, repulsive, ****** person you are.
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Member Since: 8/22/2011
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only if you are 30+ then it's definitely weird.
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Member Since: 7/4/2007
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well you were born this way
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Member Since: 1/1/2014
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Originally posted by duybeeGAshantiGA
This. First time is so good. You won't get that feeling again... I wish I could get back to those days ... Now I am just so used to it I dont really feel anymore (((
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What kind nymphomaniac(movie) teas.
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Member Since: 8/22/2011
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Originally posted by ***** of Babylon
No.
What's weird is losing your virginity at 13 and spending the remainder of your teens ****ing everything that comes your way, constantly thinking someone gave you a disease, losing your best friend over your stupidity and insatiable sexual appetite, not being able to sustain a relationship, becoming a cheater and a liar, developing a horrible reputation because of it and as a result sinking into a major depression, self-medicating with drugs and alcohol and not being able to leave your house because every step you take and every familiar face you see reminds you of what a vile, repulsive, ****** person you are.
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Giving your username justice.
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Member Since: 7/3/2010
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lol i thought this thread was asking if being a vegan was weird until now
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Member Since: 4/13/2011
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This is a question I concerned myself with a lot a couple years ago. Lol. All my straight friends who surrounded me were beginning to lose their virginity from the ages of like 16-18, and I was in this weird place between not even being out with my sexuality at that age, but also not having access to that many other guys. Sucks being gay. But I wasnt about to lose my virginity to some random... I definitely couldve done, lol, on grindr sometimes people offered me up to like £200 I think I enjoyed the attention but I'm like too idealistic/romantic to engage in casual sex like that.
I did start to ask myself the question, how old am I actually gonna be before I find someone I like enough? Like I didnt need to be in love with them or anything, I just didnt want it to be meaningless. Eventually when I was at uni/college it just happened, kinda unexpectedly. I think my advice would be to not worry about it and eventually someone will surprise you and youll be happy.
Most important thing, if you WANT a relationship/sex or whatever, then you must put yourself out there so that you have the opportunity to meet people. If you never go looking for social/sexual relationships, then you wont get them. They arent just magically going to appear in front of you.
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Member Since: 1/1/2014
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Originally posted by ***** of Babylon
No.
What's weird is losing your virginity at 13 and spending the remainder of your teens ****ing everything that comes your way, constantly thinking someone gave you a disease, losing your best friend over your stupidity and insatiable sexual appetite, not being able to sustain a relationship, becoming a cheater and a liar, developing a horrible reputation because of it and as a result sinking into a major depression, self-medicating with drugs and alcohol and not being able to leave your house because every step you take and every familiar face you see reminds you of what a vile, repulsive, ****** person you are.
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Dddd. I'm crying.
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Member Since: 4/13/2011
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Originally posted by WERKER
I'm 19 almost 20 and still a virgin.. where I'm from there was no gay people and since moving to Uni in September there is a few, and I've had interest but I just don't want to lose it with someone who will mean nothing/someone who just wants to use me to relieve themselves. This is a reason why I'm not a member of a app either because when it happens, it happens its just hard to find a gay person who is looking for a relationship (Don't necessary want one but if it happens, it happens) rather than sleeping buddies (which I don't want to be).
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I feel ya but I always think that it's better to be on the app (even if it can be annoying), than not on the app and potentially missing out. Like, there will be other people like you on there. It's a mixed bag.
It's quite easy to be clear about your intentions, and just politely dismiss anyone who doesnt share them.
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Member Since: 2/2/2014
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Originally posted by Fruity
Most important thing, if you WANT a relationship/sex or whatever, then the most important thing is to put yourself out there, so that you have the opportunity to meet people. If you never go looking for social/sexual relationships, then you wont get them. They arent just magically going to appear in front of you.
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This is very true, I need to socialize more haha.
I do want to get it over with because I'm getting older and feel its a bit embarassing.... but at the same time if I were in a relationship with someone I'd want to wait a while before doing it, so the relationship doesn't revolve around sex. And I don't think most guys my age will want to wait that long. Maybe I put too much meaning into being a virgin lol
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Originally posted by ***** of Babylon
No.
What's weird is losing your virginity at 13 and spending the remainder of your teens ****ing everything that comes your way, constantly thinking someone gave you a disease, losing your best friend over your stupidity and insatiable sexual appetite, not being able to sustain a relationship, becoming a cheater and a liar, developing a horrible reputation because of it and as a result sinking into a major depression, self-medicating with drugs and alcohol and not being able to leave your house because every step you take and every familiar face you see reminds you of what a vile, repulsive, ****** person you are.
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Is this a biography sis
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Member Since: 4/13/2011
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Originally posted by KareBear
This is very true, I need to socialize more haha.
I do want to get it over with because I'm getting older and feel its a bit embarassing.... but at the same time if I were in a relationship with someone I'd want to wait a while before doing it, so the relationship doesn't revolve around sex. And I don't think most guys my age will want to wait that long. Maybe I put too much meaning into being a virgin lol
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I understand what you mean. It's strange there's such pressure on virginity for something that is essentially socially constructed and serves little purpose. Not long ago, women were shamed for losing their virginity out of wedlock.... But for our generation, suddenly it's the opposite. It's annoying. Nothing wrong with sexual liberation, but everyone should be free to go at their own pace.
I feel like it's only embarrassing if you let it be. I mean, do people ask you about it? The only time I really see anyone asking other people about sex is during drinking games... things like "have you ever" and stuff. If that bothers you, you can always lie. Haha. Nobody will know.
A decent guy would definitely be willing to wait until you were ready. And there are lots of decent guys out there! Trust me on that. Lots of people arent as sex obsessed as you might think. Its just that the people who are, are very vocal about it. So its a misrepresentation.
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Member Since: 5/24/2012
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Originally posted by ***** of Babylon
No.
What's weird is losing your virginity at 13 and spending the remainder of your teens ****ing everything that comes your way, constantly thinking someone gave you a disease, losing your best friend over your stupidity and insatiable sexual appetite, not being able to sustain a relationship, becoming a cheater and a liar, developing a horrible reputation because of it and as a result sinking into a major depression, self-medicating with drugs and alcohol and not being able to leave your house because every step you take and every familiar face you see reminds you of what a vile, repulsive, ****** person you are.
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No. Take your time and do it when you are ready. Let it happen naturally.
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Member Since: 8/18/2013
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Being a virgin is not weird, but it's not either a PRESTIGE thing. It hasn't happened, it will happen for those people. But it all depends on location. Capital cosmopolitan people would say it's just sex, why so much overthinking, we don't need to put a ring on it, a goodbye kiss and hug in the morning and that's it, but some other people are so backwards and see it as something religious and it's a marriage only type of affair. Like it is supposed to happen only with the love of your life, if that concept exists anymore.
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Member Since: 8/19/2013
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no but i used to think so. i had self esteem issues.
i recently lost my virginity (i'm 21). the reason i waited so long was because i didn't (and still don't) like my body also i thought my *** looked weird af but i realized boys don't care about that, they're just happy to get it. ive only done it with one man, he was a virgin too. the other guy i was comfortable with before him is a virgin as well but we didnt go all the way
anyway, do it when you feel comfortable and don't do it with just anyone if you don't want to. i agree with the other posts, it's weird ****ing everyone in sight.
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Member Since: 4/30/2012
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With girls I date I don't mind if they're virgins but I think it's a little odd for a guy to be a virgin... Not to sound like I have double standards or anything just my opinion
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Member Since: 10/17/2011
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Statistically speaking, anyone who is a virgin past 20 in the US or Europe is a minority. Its up to you whether that makes something "weird" or so.
For all accounts, both Sir Issac Newton and Adam Smith were celibate their entire lives - not having sex didn't stop them from changing the world.
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