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Discussion: What do you have against fem gays?
Member Since: 10/28/2008
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Effeminate gays here in my country stare you down deep to the depths of loins. Kind of scary. 
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Member Since: 3/21/2010
Posts: 19,112
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Originally posted by Gui Blackout
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dont even deadbanana me. im being serious. who else in here has had kids ask their parents in the store, why i walk and talk like a girl.
but i do think Rainman, and cahleb are close 2nd and 3rd.
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Member Since: 6/15/2011
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Originally posted by Vin
I do have a question, though: I never understood seeing a couple together and they are both effeminate. Doesn't that almost defeat the purpose of being gay?  Wouldn't the flamboyant guy want or desire the opposite type of guy? I always thought that was fascinating. Why not just be with a woman then if you're both flamboyant? An effeminate gay guy needs to be with a more masculine gay guy. Isn't that in the handbook or somethin'?
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Effeminate man =/= actual woman. Come on, now. That's like drawing the conclusion that a heterosexual man dating a tomboy defeats the purpose of being straight.
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Member Since: 11/11/2010
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My problem with them is that they're more feminine then girls sometimes. My bf is flamboyent and it bugs me so much. His excuse for everything is "I'm gay!" but so the **** what? I'm gay and I don't wear booty shorts to school, I don't wear pink shirts that say "Delicious" on them, i don't purposely try to look gay when i go outside, I don't purposely look for rainbow stuff to wear, I don't paint my nails for fun....this **** goes on and on. I mean I love spending time with him, but he's just too much. So that's my problem with them lol 
In other words, I'm not defined by being gay, but his life is defined by being gay. It's something I don't understand.
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Member Since: 3/18/2008
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Originally posted by Bdawg
dont even deadbanana me. im being serious. who else in here has had kids ask their parents in the store, why i walk and talk like a girl.
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Sis, man up
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Member Since: 11/5/2009
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I have respect for them in the sense that they can walk outside, wearing short shorts, tight clothing, make up, etc... But that's not my style (just like how I don't like the baggy jeans style, over sized shirt, etc).
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Member Since: 5/25/2010
Posts: 23,013
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Originally posted by Gui Blackout
Honestly, i don't like them. They bring us (normal gays) bad reputation and bad stereotype.
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But I read a post on here, I believe it was from the member, inspiration, who made an interesting point. He said that it is the over-the-top, flamboyant, effeminate, gay-pride-marchin', drag queen type of gay guy that makes it possible for society to more easily an openly accept the "normal gay guy." Thanks to that feminine "extreme" the public embraces the other half of the spectrum with an ease. So, "normal gay guys" owe a lot to the "over-the-top," "we-were-born-this-way" type of gay guy.
I thought it was an interesting point.
...Vin
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Member Since: 3/4/2011
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Some of these comments are so wrong, but anyway...
I'm not attracted to girly gays. My first boyfriend was incredibly effeminate and it got on my nerves. He was too peppy and off the walls and everything he said had to have 500 hand movements and I just could not deal.
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Member Since: 3/21/2010
Posts: 19,112
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Originally posted by Gui Blackout
Sis, man up |
you know duca likes fem guys.
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Member Since: 11/5/2009
Posts: 8,096
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Originally posted by MrFenty
My problem with them is that they're more feminine then girls sometimes. My bf is flamboyent and it bugs me so much. His excuse for everything is "I'm gay!" but so the **** what? I'm gay and I don't wear booty shorts to school, I don't wear pink shirts that say "Delicious" on them, i don't purposely try to look gay when i go outside, I don't purposely look for rainbow stuff to wear, I don't paint my nails for fun....this **** goes on and on. I mean I love spending time with him, but he's just too much. So that's my problem with them lol
In other words, I'm not defined by being gay, but his life is defined by being gay. It's something I don't understand. |
Some people are extremely proud of what they are though, and I guess he's one of them. My best friend, from China (living in Canada) is so proud that she's Chinese she's always reminding everyone where she's from, always talks about how great her food is, always playing Chinese music, etc.
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Member Since: 11/29/2010
Posts: 19,102
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Originally posted by Gui Blackout
Honestly, i don't like them. They bring us (normal gays) bad reputation and bad stereotype.
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What the **** is a normal gay? DEFINE IT?
Those abnormal gays are the ones at pride, pushing gay agendas, and actually bettering the gay community.
Closeted, bisexual gays trying to blend in with "normal" society are the reason we will stay behind.
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Member Since: 11/11/2010
Posts: 1,569
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Originally posted by Vin
But I read a post on here, I believe it was from the member, inspiration, who made an interesting point. He said that it is the over-the-top, flamboyant, effeminate, gay-pride-marchin', drag queen type of gay guy that makes it possible for society to more easily an openly accept the "normal gay guy." Thanks to that feminine "extreme" the public embraces the other half of the spectrum with an ease. So, "normal gay guys" owe a lot to the "over-the-top," "we-were-born-this-way" type of gay guy.
I thought it was an interesting point.
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That is an interesting point actually! Wow, never thought of it like that.
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Member Since: 6/7/2011
Posts: 22,128
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Originally posted by Vin
But I read a post on here, I believe it was from the member, inspiration, who made an interesting point. He said that it is the over-the-top, flamboyant, effeminate, gay-pride-marchin', drag queen type of gay guy that makes it possible for society to more easily an openly accept the "normal gay guy." Thanks to that feminine "extreme" the public embraces the other half of the spectrum with an ease. So, "normal gay guys" owe a lot to the "over-the-top," "we-were-born-this-way" type of gay guy.
I thought it was an interesting point.
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Woah. That's actually very true. 
But I think the "normal" gays should be more supportive of the "over-the-top" gays if homosexuality is ever going to be accepted.
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ATRL Contributor
Member Since: 8/8/2006
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Originally posted by lolzjustinwat
Some of these comments are so wrong, but anyway...
I'm not attracted to girly gays. My first boyfriend was incredibly effeminate and it got on my nerves. He was too peppy and off the walls and everything he said had to have 500 hand movements and I just could not deal.
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Oh yes I dated a guy like that, I was like no maam, I felt bad tho, he was a very good person but not to be a bf 
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Member Since: 5/27/2010
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Originally posted by Gui Blackout
Sis, man up |
Why?
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Member Since: 11/11/2010
Posts: 1,569
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Originally posted by featheralley
Some people are extremely proud of what they are though, and I guess he's one of them. My best friend, from China (living in Canada) is so proud that she's Chinese she's always reminding everyone where she's from, always talks about how great her food is, always playing Chinese music, etc. |
Haha if she's anything like how my bf is, that must be painful at times.
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Member Since: 11/11/2010
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Originally posted by Vin
I do have a question, though: I never understood seeing a couple together and they are both effeminate. Doesn't that almost defeat the purpose of being gay? Wouldn't the flamboyant guy want or desire the opposite type of guy? I always thought that was fascinating. Why not just be with a woman then if you're both flamboyant? An effeminate gay guy needs to be with a more masculine gay guy. Isn't that in the handbook or somethin'?
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I really hope this is sarcastic...
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Originally posted by Gui Blackout
Honestly, i don't like them. They bring us (normal gays) bad reputation and bad stereotype.
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And what reputation is that? Is there something wrong with femininity and flamboyance? You are feeding into the discrimination
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Member Since: 10/4/2010
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I'm pretty effeminate. I mean I don't use the word "FABULOUS!!" and I'm not really into theater, but I have a lot of feminine tendencies. Based on the way y'all on this website type I'd read most of you as effeminate as well...
But I think it's wrong to hold how effeminate or masculine some one is against them. They were born that way 
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Member Since: 5/1/2011
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Member Since: 11/5/2009
Posts: 8,096
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Originally posted by Lipton
What the **** is a normal gay? DEFINE IT?
Those abnormal gays are the ones at pride, pushing gay agendas, and actually bettering the gay community.
Closeted, bisexual gays trying to blend in with "normal" society are the reason we will stay behind.
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Well, you can just assume that, I can assure you most of them are not trying to blend in with society, some of them just aren't ready.
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