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That's always a tough situation, especially when the person that we love seems to have moved on when we haven't. I feel like the best thing we can do in that situation is to just remember all the other great things we have going on in our life - friends, family, school, job, ATRL - apart from that person. Eventually, the notion of what we have to look forward will hopefully outweigh the painful memories and we can let them go.
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Thank you for being very understanding supaspaz! I always find your reply to be very thoughtfully out written and with kind words. It was extremely tough but a lot of time we forget that it was at that moment out of anger we can't control. Not saying that other people can't but in my case I always very bad at it when it comes to it. I mean I'm not the one who would confront her on what she is doing I usually am the one that takes it on myself. Well if anything was better I forgot to mentioned that we drove home together and kinda made up but next morning blah ... we're still on break 
Yes I know I remember all the good times now, all the restaurants we went out too, all the new food we tried together and all the time we cooked together, hang out together, slept together ...
The sad thing is I don't know if I would ever let go and we've been broken up or on "break" as we tried to call it since last summer.
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Sorry, I will watch the other videos later when I have more free time tonight I have slow internet when it comes to videos.
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Thank you for being very understanding supaspaz! I always find your reply to be very thoughtfully out written and with kind words. It was extremely tough but a lot of time we forget that it was at that moment out of anger we can't control. Not saying that other people can't but in my case I always very bad at it when it comes to it. I mean I'm not the one who would confront her on what she is doing I usually am the one that takes it on myself. Well if anything was better I forgot to mentioned that we drove home together and kinda made up but next morning blah ... we're still on break
Yes I know I remember all the good times now, all the restaurants we went out too, all the new food we tried together and all the time we cooked together, hang out together, slept together ...
The sad thing is I don't know if I would ever let go and we've been broken up or on "break" as we tried to call it since last summer. |
Well, that's probably the hardest part! If you're only on a "break," the line is very fuzzy, in terms of what you want, what they want, what's acceptable, and so on. Even if you want to move on, it's almost impossible because you're still holding on to that thread. But it seems to me that you don't really want to move on; you want to make it work. In which case, it doesn't surprise me that you would still have such strong feelings and such strong reactions over your (ex-?)girlfriend. Obviously, you don't have to take my advice, but why not talk it out? If can figure what you both want, then you can decide whether you want to move forward together or move on apart. Like this, it just doesn't seem fair to you or healthy to your emotions.
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This show is fun to watch, I always tune in when I'm sick. 
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What's been your favorite thing so far? (And you should join in the discussion!)
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I just realized I may have screwed over my latest segments by posting them at the end of the last page
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Now do you understand what I always tried to do with my threads? Top of the page works a lot better haha.
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Well, that's probably the hardest part! If you're only on a "break," the line is very fuzzy, in terms of what you want, what they want, what's acceptable, and so on. Even if you want to move on, it's almost impossible because you're still holding on to that thread. But it seems to me that you don't really want to move on; you want to make it work. In which case, it doesn't surprise me that you would still have such strong feelings and such strong reactions over your (ex-?)girlfriend. Obviously, you don't have to take my advice, but why not talk it out? If can figure what you both want, then you can decide whether you want to move forward together or move on apart. Like this, it just doesn't seem fair to you or healthy to your emotions.
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Wow you literally just took a lot of what I was feeling and put them into words.  You are very correct that;s why it's hard to move on; we remain as friends with benifits, and if in so many years from now we depend on each other if we both don't find anyone we might rekindle the love and get married. The main issue with why it doesn't work for us in our relationship is she moved when I didn't wanted her to and we became long distance during our time together. Not too far away but not too close either. I'll stop talking about this it would just make me cry more.
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What's been your favorite thing so far? (And you should join in the discussion!)
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sticks is rooting for Jerry Springer show.
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Wow you literally just took a lot of what I was feeling and put them into words. You are very correct that;s why it's hard to move on; we remain as friends with benifits, and if in so many years from now we depend on each other if we both don't find anyone we might rekindle the love and get married. The main issue with why it doesn't work for us in our relationship is she moved when I didn't wanted her to and we became long distance during our time together. Not too far away but not too close either. I'll stop talking about this it would just make me cry more. |
Sorry, I didn't mean to make things difficult for you. But I'm definitely always here for you, even if it's only ATRL...
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sticks is rooting for Jerry Springer show.
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Well then he shouldn't worry. They're already totally kicking our ass.
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^ Thanks you're the best!!
sticks is just teasing here... rotten kid *shake head*
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sticks is just teasing here... rotten kid *shake head*
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Oh, ha ha! Sarcasm never translates well on the Internet...
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So I've been watching the "Fatal Attraction" case again and, woah boy, that woman is crazy! Definitely one of the most (frighteningly) entertaining "Judge Judy" cases I have ever seen.
To me, it's just the kind of proof that shows how love (or what we think of as love) changes us. I'm not sure I could ever become that woman (at least, I hope) - I consider myself too rational of a person for that - but there are definitely extenuating circumstances that have caused me to do things I am not proud of before. (Minor and personal, fortunately, but still things that left me feeling kind of icky.)
I guess the lesson in all of this is how important it is to maintain our independence as individuals, as well as our strength and belief in that fact. I'm sure that woman became obsessed with him because she began to think he was her life. We can never begin to let love, a relationship or someone else overtake us; as (I think) Beatfreak said earlier, if it's not a comfortable, reciprocal kind of love, then what's the point?
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TS i never fall in love
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well i never been in a serious relationship, ive only had 1 bf in my life, and i feel in deep deep love, so i do belive in love, when a girl falls its hard to get over the lover, after we broke up after 5 weeks, i was in love with him for the next 2 years, chasing, following him, but he wasnt interested
love to me, is just a battlefield, and pain, but for others it probably different  who knows.
the only way getting over my ex was meeting the guy im in love with now, we never dated we were just mates, but now im still loving him after 7 months not seeing him.
LOVE SUCKS!
my avi is the only way to get over my love ones
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well i never been in a serious relationship, ive only had 1 bf in my life, and i feel in deep deep love, so i do belive in love, when a girl falls its hard to get over the lover, after we broke up after 5 weeks, i was in love with him for the next 2 years, chasing, following him, but he wasnt interested
love to me, is just a battlefield, and pain, but for others it probably different who knows.
the only way getting over my ex was meeting the guy im in love with now, we never dated we were just mates, but now im still loving him after 7 months not seeing him.
LOVE SUCKS!
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This is definitely related to the point I was making earlier. It's hard to know how and when love is going hit us; it just does. And then, once it does, it always seems to be in control. We feel like we're powerless against our emotions, which can make the feelings that we don't want even harder to deal with.
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80% increase in the ratings and a confirmed season 2?! 
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80% increase in the ratings and a confirmed season 2?! |
Ha ha, it all thanks to you, akrl! You jump-started the discussion on this thread!
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Alright, I'm about to post a new clip, but I'm going to skip over to the next page to do it.
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