You learned to love him? I find that impossible for me, I cant make myself love anyone on purpose
what i mean is, i liked him at first but I didn't love him (when we started dating). After we spent some time together and I got to know him, I fell in love with him, not purposely. If I just gave up without getting to know him, what would be the point in the relationship. I think on some level you have to 'learn' to love anyone. I don't believe in love at first site, Love means hard work.
If that makes any sense at all, im terrible at explaining :P
This is an interesting point. I agree with and disagree at the exact same time! On the one hand, I think love takes time and work; it has to grow. This idea of love at first sight is just infatuation in my opinion - those "other factors" getting in the way. But I don't know about loving anyone. I think there's probably a "type" that we for that we are more suited to be compatible with. Sometimes, we become interested in someone outside of our "type," and that's when we think love is crazy or unexpected.
The idea that opposites complement each other is very interesting too. Personally I dont think two opposites could live together. Their interest in diferent subjects like music or cinema is no big deal. It may affect a little and cause some arguments but its "transcendable" (? I dot know how to say it in english). But their thoughts on how to live their lifes can destroy a relationship. So for me I would prefer a type of guy not very diferent from me, but not too much alike either.
I did try to promote it going to everyone's walls, but as I had said before to you, this 3 days I had almost no time to come online. I wish the finale can last a little longer
Supaspaz you are my hero, these subjects you chose are the most interesting of all. When the finale is over I hope this can still be discussed on ATRL because I would like to see everyone's opinion on these. Its a shame no one is comenting
PS: I must say that I think the majority of ATRL members live in a different time schedule so I cant keep up with the discussions...
Alright I see shouldn't be too hard you *slap myself in the face*. Yes supaspaz is doing a great job with handling the thread. Too bad he had to promote this too when you guysare not around. Tinkerbell is a dead team member
yes the time schedule too affects the discussion rate :\
what i mean is, i liked him at first but I didn't love him (when we started dating). After we spent some time together and I got to know him, I fell in love with him, not purposely. If I just gave up without getting to know him, what would be the point in the relationship. I think on some level you have to 'learn' to love anyone. I don't believe in love at first site, Love means hard work.
If that makes any sense at all, im terrible at explaining :P
You explained well. I dont believe in love at first sight either, that's pure attraction based on looks that sometimes turns out to extend to a bigger attraction, but ony after you know the person. Love does mean hard work and grows with time I agree
Still promote promote promote. A thread filled with interesting discussion is wasted and will not look highly successful to the judges if it's a conversation between you arkl.
Ha ha! Or with myself, as it was the first day...
I tried to do more promotion this morning and I think it worked a little bit, so we'll see.
I certainly hope I can love someone again as much as I loved him. I have been talking to some people and they told me their first love was the one they loved the most. They had more realtionships afterwards and are very happy, but feel they could never love someone as much as they loved their first love. And having so much love for someone without being able to give it, is such a waste
I think the reason that the first love remains the strongest in people's minds is because it was exactly that - the first. They have nothing from before to compare it to, so it feels fresher, newer and stronger than anything they've ever experienced. It can never be repeated, but that doesn't mean you love the people who came after any less.
Love to me is being able to have a passionate connection with someone and say you feel 100% comfortable around them and feel like you've known them your whole life and as well as a cousin, neighbor, sibling, or family friend and are able to share your feelings and have a system of trust between each other, and you're always there to console each other no matter what. When you truly love someone you never let them feel alone, you show them how much you care, how much you've always cared, and you want to spend the rest of your life with them and getting to know them more.
Love to me is being able to have a passionate connection with someone and say you feel 100% comfortable around them and feel like you've known them your whole life and as well as a cousin, neighbor, sibling, or family friend and are able to share your feelings and have a system of trust between each other, and you're always there to console each other no matter what. When you truly love someone you never let them feel alone, you show them how much you care, how much you've always cared, and you want to spend the rest of your life with them and getting to know them more.
It's funny. What you say makes perfect sense - and if it you truly love someone, it shouldn't be that hard to do. Yet somehow, people often find it the hardest thing in the world to treat their loved ones right. I think of a recent famous example: Sandra Bullock and Jesse James. Even after all his cheating and deception was exposed, James still claimed that he love Bullock. How does that make sense? If he truly loved her (like she clearly did him), how was he able to wrong her so badly?
Yet somehow, people often find it the hardest thing in the world to treat their loved ones right.
I can relate to this because when I was in love 2 years ago. I was 20 all I think was treating my gf perfectly ... now my ex I criticize everything bad I'm still not over it as anyone can see.
Can I confess that two nights ago I was clubbing and met her and she tried to hook up with someone I went LOCO and drank so much but waited hours later to leave and the end of the night almost got a DUI *frown* The cop pulled me over for turning left at an intersection where all traffic must turn right, they had done all test *phew* passed barely...
The following two cases have to do with our earlier conversation about love vs. infatuation. It's interesting to see how far these women were willing to go for "love" - and because of it.
A Woman Scorned
Fatal Attraction
What do you all think of these women? Are you shocked by their behavior? Have you ever been surprised by what you, or someone you know, has done for love? What would you be willing to for, or because of, love?
This case, which actually relates to today's topic of bullying and abuse, is kind of scary. I'm always horrified to hear about the awful ways in which people sometimes treat each other, for no good reason.
Bathroom Beatdown
Have you ever gotten in a fight with a friend or a peer? What about? Do you regret it now, or do you think it was justified? What about your behavior? Do you still stand by it? Do you think physicality is ever the best response to a problem?
I can relate to this because when I was in love 2 years ago. I was 20 all I think was treating my gf perfectly ... now my ex I criticize everything bad I'm still not over it as anyone can see.
Can I confess that two nights ago I was clubbing and met her and she tried to hook up with someone I went LOCO and drank almost got a DUI *frown*
That's always a tough situation, especially when the person that we love seems to have moved on when we haven't. I feel like the best thing we can do in that situation is to just remember all the other great things we have going on in our life - friends, family, school, job, ATRL - apart from that person. Eventually, the notion of what we have to look forward will hopefully outweigh the painful memories and we can let them go.
I wish the finale can last a little longer 
I agree
I have been hopeless at helping. If it was any other time I would have done loads to help but I gotta revise all the time 
I'm still not over it as anyone can see. 
