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Originally posted by Ecstasy
I wont get banned for a long lone time now I promise. So while I was away I didn't get a chance to discuss those dating preference things. Do you guys have any that might be considered problematic by some?
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I think people on both isles of the debate do too much. Preferences aren't inherently bad, and I don't even
personally fault people for having race
preferences. To me, the issue isn't one of personal prejudice, but more of societal prejudice.
If you think your race is better than another, then yes, you're undeniably racist. But I think, often times, in instances of dating, the issue is people's attraction are subconsciously influenced by social depictions of certain racial groups.
It's like this:
White people are the
default in western society, so the general view is that individuals in that group can express a variety of physical and emotional traits. Whereas, minority groups are much more readily placed into a box of characteristics (social and phenotypical) that they're "most likely" to have. Which is generally not the case. Just a stereotype. fff.
I've found from my experiments on Grindr that when I put in my bio that I'm an engineering student at the #1 university in Texas (top 15 overall in the US), I get more unsolicited responses. My friend also found that when he has a profile pic with glasses on, he gets more responses too. I believe it's cause all those measure reduce the fear of encountering the stereotypical "thug" personification of a black person.
I imagine it's the same with Asians who are muscular. In that, they shake off the image of effeminacy projected unto their ethnic group by media depictions.
It's a perceptions game from where I look at it. Especially on platforms where visuals are the driving measure of attraction.
(which is slightly better ngl)
