I don't even know why I'm writing it here but I have issues with opening up. My boyfriends keeps complaining that I am so shut in my self and won't share my feelings and thoughts. The thing is, though, I don't know how do do that. I mean, half of the time I barely know what I am thinking. Ugh, it just makes me so frustrated because I really want to be able to share and open up, not only to him, but to the people in my life I care about. Does anyone know what I'm talking about? Anyone who is/has been in the same situation?
I don't even know why I'm writing it here but I have issues with opening up. My boyfriends keeps complaining that I am so shut in my self and won't share my feelings and thoughts. The thing is, though, I don't know how do do that. I mean, half of the time I barely know what I am thinking. Ugh, it just makes me so frustrated because I really want to be able to share and open up, not only to him, but to the people in my life I care about. Does anyone know what I'm talking about? Anyone who is/has been in the same situation?
I get you babe. I always talk about fun and normal things even though I want to dig a bit deeper just to let It drop cause I would feel weird to talk about my feelings and just deal with these things by myself. It kinda gives you the feeling of loneliness even though you're basically not on your own and people WANT you to open up.
I get you babe. I always talk about fun and normal things even though I want to dig a bit deeper just to let It drop cause I would feel weird to talk about my feelings and just deal with these things by myself. It kinda gives you the feeling of loneliness even though you're basically not on your own and people WANT you to open up.
It's such a f*cking struggle. I know what you mean regarding the feeling of loneliness. I've just always been taught not to express my emotions (unless they're positive!) so it feels uncomfortable and wrong to express something else. Like, I've been through **** in my life but I just can't open up about it and talk it out because I literally don't know what to say about it.
It's such a f*cking struggle. I know what you mean regarding the feeling of loneliness. I've just always been taught not to express my emotions (unless they're positive!) so it feels uncomfortable and wrong to express something else. Like, I've been through **** in my life but I just can't open up about it and talk it out because I literally don't know what to say about it.
I know what you mean about being uncomfortable in expressing feelings. Growing up, my family was crazy, and I always felt like I had to be the sane one in the family, looking after everyone else's problems... and now I'm so used to concealing everything that I just can't express anything, It's so unnatural to me.
It's such a f*cking struggle. I know what you mean regarding the feeling of loneliness. I've just always been taught not to express my emotions (unless they're positive!) so it feels uncomfortable and wrong to express something else. Like, I've been through **** in my life but I just can't open up about it and talk it out because I literally don't know what to say about it.
Exactly! I blame my mom tbh. She gave me the feeling It's NOT good to talk about your feeling when they aren't positive. That's why I always come across as happy even when I'm not because I don't want to be rude even thought It would be just a normal reaction to something. I'm no depressed tho, thank god.
It's such a f*cking struggle. I know what you mean regarding the feeling of loneliness. I've just always been taught not to express my emotions (unless they're positive!) so it feels uncomfortable and wrong to express something else. Like, I've been through **** in my life but I just can't open up about it and talk it out because I literally don't know what to say about it.
Do you really NEED to talk to somebody to get over stuff ? Personally I want my time with my friends to be all about having fun, sure they open up about things with me but I'd rather have this space where all the issues are simply out of the window and it's just about having fun. I have a 14 years relationship with my best friend (I'm 20) and we've never discuss these kind of things.
I know what you mean about being uncomfortable in expressing feelings. Growing up, my family was crazy, and I always felt like I had to be the sane one in the family, looking after everyone else's problems... and now I'm so used to concealing everything that I just can't express anything, It's so unnatural to me.
!!! This is so me! It's just natural for me to conceal my feelings and basically surpress them. And when I talk about my feelings it's like two words at a time. No depth in it because it feels so utterly wrong.
Quote:
Originally posted by Daddy
Exactly! I blame my mom tbh. She gave me the feeling It's NOT good to talk about your feeling when they aren't positive. That's why I always come across as happy even when I'm not because I don't want to be rude even thought It would be just a normal reaction to something. I'm no depressed tho, thank god.
My mom was (is) the same. I never got to express my feelings because it was basically taboo to do so. Ugh. I am very glad you're not depressed, though! I am neither, but I just feel like my bf pushes me a bit too hard to express my feelings when I have no clue on how to.
Quote:
Originally posted by FBF
Do you really NEED to talk to somebody to get over stuff ? Personally I want my time with my friends to be all about having fun, sure they open up about things with me but I'd rather have this space where all the issues are simply out of the window and it's just about having fun. I have a 14 years relationship with my best friend (I'm 20) and we've never discuss these kind of things.
Maybe not, but I feel that I want to be able to express my feelings generally to just open up and let people know the real me, and not just the "I am feeling **** but I don't know how to express my feelings so I act happy"-me.
Maybe not, but I feel that I want to be able to express my feelings generally to just open up and let people know the real me, and not just the "I am feeling **** but I don't know how to express my feelings so I act happy"-me.
Opening up is so overrated imo Like, what's even the point ?
The passing of Guernica has been trying on everyone here because of how many people she impacted on this site. The ATRL Magazine Staff is trying to put together a worthy memorial in the summer issue. Since RT knew her best, we want the words to be yours. If you feel comfortable, please consider sending a picture or scan of a short, handwritten note. It can be a favorite memory of yours, something you'd like to say to her, anything really. We want to make a collage of the notes as a way of showing how much she meant to the site.
If you'd like to participate, please send your note to Era by June 17th, that's about a week and a half. If you have any questions, reach out to me or any of the other ATRL Magazine staff.
The passing of Guernica has been trying on everyone here because of how many people she impacted on this site. The ATRL Magazine Staff is trying to put together a worthy memorial in the summer issue. Since RT knew her best, we want the words to be yours. If you feel comfortable, please consider sending a picture or scan of a short, handwritten note. It can be a favorite memory of yours, something you'd like to say to her, anything really. We want to make a collage of the notes as a way of showing how much she meant to the site.
If you'd like to participate, please send your note to Era by June 17th, that's about a week and a half. If you have any questions, reach out to me or any of the other ATRL Magazine staff.
Like, what's even the point ? 