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Discussion: Archived: Random Thoughts (#5)
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and you might not be able to be friends again. there are some things you don't really ever get fully over, at least not for a very long time. my breakup with one of my exes was over a year ago and i still can't handle talking to him. in those cases it's better for your mental health to just avoid him completely.
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WON'T you give me something to remember.. baby shut your mouth and turn me inside out
even though we couldn't last forever baaaby, you know what i want right now
hit me one more time, it's so amazing, how you shook my world and flipped it upset down
you're the only one who ever droove me craaaazy, cuz you know me inside out
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Originally posted by Vision
Ex's are ex's for a reason, usually a very good reason. I see no reason to keep them in your life.
I'm still friends (not really, but there's no hard feelings, i'd still talk to him if I saw him) with one, but that's it.
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Well, now i am the one who's under control so i have to decide what's best for me before making any moves, i am just afraid that i am not emotionally stable enough at the moment to take any decision.
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Originally posted by accelgors
just don't respond sis
honestly, if you're not over it, talking to him at all, positive or negative, will make you feel worse. trust me on that one.
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I arleady did, but i played it very cool witth my responses and kept it friendly and a bit distant.
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Originally posted by Joaquin
I wouldn't say I'm a "cold hearted bitch", it's just that I tend to get infatuated by people really easily, and as soon as I realize how ****** some people can be I just cut the **** right up.
can't deal with people like that, honestly.
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That was like my first relationship where i was infatuated so it hurt me a lot.
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Originally posted by ItsJim
Because of his selfish actions and because we rushed **** up, while i agree, he was the one that initiated the whole rushing process, i should have known better. So he asked for some space and instead of giving it to him i asked him out and i noticed from his reactions that he wasn't in it anymore so i decided to cut it off. We kept some contact and i was low as **** for the week after and we even met at the club and the night ended up messy, ruined it for the both of us. After that we decided that we should stop contacting each other and almost three weeks after no contact, today, he texted me about how am i going etc. He is 32 btw and i am 23.
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The same thing happened to me as well. The thing is I was so overwhelmed with my school works and he was so indifferent towards our relationship so I decided to cut him off. Btw, my ex wasn't over his ex so I established no-contact rule since our break up to help him figure out what he really wants actually: whether to get back with his ex or to be with me. Either way, I am so over him. He doesn't deserve me and what the hell I was thinking when I dated him.
My advice is for you to not contact him or reply to his text for another 2 months so you can give him space for him to think whether he wants to stay committed with you or not. And this period will also give you space to think whether you really want to stay with him or not.
Not judging, but 32?  You are still young to get involved with 32 year old guy 
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Originally posted by accelgors
and you might not be able to be friends again. there are some things you don't really ever get fully over, at least not for a very long time. my breakup with one of my exes was over a year ago and i still can't handle talking to him. in those cases it's better for your mental health to just avoid him completely.
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Nah, i am either going to drive him crazy and make him regret ever breaking up with me or disappear, I can't handle a friendship with him at the moment.
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Originally posted by ItsJim
Well, now i am the one who's under control so i have to decide what's best for me before making any moves, i am just afraid that i am not emotionally stable enough at the moment to take any decision.
I arleady did, but i played it very cool witth my responses and kept it friendly and a bit distant.
That was like my first relationship where i was infatuated so it hurt me a lot.
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sis. listen. don't respond at all. trust me, i've tried that, and your mind finds a way to get hurt by it eventually, whether you're distant or friendly or anything else. maybe it's different for some people, but if you're as emotional of a type as i am, this will end badly for you.
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Originally posted by Donquizote
The same thing happened to me as well. The thing is I was so overwhelmed with my school works and he was so indifferent towards our relationship so I decided to cut him off. Btw, my ex wasn't over his ex so I established no-contact rule since our break up to help him figure out what he really wants actually: whether to get back with his ex or to be with me. Either way, I am so over him. He doesn't deserve me and what the hell I was thinking when I dated him.
My advice is for you to not contact him or reply to his text for another 2 months so you can give him space for him to think whether he wants to stay committed with you or not. And this period will also give you space to think whether you really want to stay with him or not.
Not judging, but 32? You are still young to get involved with 32 year old guy |
I get your point and you are probably right, but i just played it cool, we will see how it ends and if i ever grt back with him its going to be on my terms.
Tell me about it, but i am attracted to guys around their 30s for some reason. I get along with them really well but i am sure if i dated guys around my age it would be much easier. I just can't do it.
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Originally posted by ItsJim
I get your point and you are probably right, but i just played it cool, we will see how it ends and if i ever grt back with him its going to be on my terms.
Tell me about it, but i attracted to guys around their 30s for some reason. I get along with them really well but i am sure if i dated guys around my age it would be much easier. I just can't do it.
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Giving me Britney's tea
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Originally posted by accelgors
sis. listen. don't respond at all. trust me, i've tried that, and your mind finds a way to get hurt by it eventually, whether you're distant or friendly or anything else. maybe it's different for some people, but if you're as emotional of a type as i am, this will end badly for you.
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I am thinking to go along, in order to see his intentions. That being said i will never intiate a conversation with him.
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Ice cream kinda night! Bye.
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Originally posted by Donquizote
Giving me Britney's tea
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He texted me while i was listening to don't go knocking 
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But anyway maybe i am just overthinking and he just wanted to check up on me.
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Originally posted by ItsJim
I am thinking to go along, in order to see his intentions. That being said i will never intiate a conversation with him.
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that's still too much. like honestly if i had just stayed away every time my ex tried to contact me in any way i would've been so much better off
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Originally posted by ItsJim
But anyway maybe i am just overthinking and he just wanted to check up on me.
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Sis, stop overthinking. Whenever I had a thought that I would probably get back together with my ex, I always kept saying to love myself and move on. He doesn't deserve me
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Gwen is shooting a new music video and I don't get anything from these two looks:
 
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Originally posted by accelgors
that's still too much. like honestly if i had just stayed away every time my ex tried to contact me in any way i would've been so much better off
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Originally posted by Donquizote
Sis, stop overthinking. Whenever I had a thought that I would probably get back together with my ex, I always kept saying to love myself and move on. He doesn't deserve me
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Yeah i will back off, i might go on a date this weekend, hopefully it will help.
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Originally posted by Joaquin
Gwen is shooting a new music video and I don't get anything from these two looks:
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I'm ignoring her until Misery flops and she moves on to Asking 4 God
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Originally posted by ItsJim
Yeah i will back off, i might go on a date this weekend, hopefully it will help.
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Being single>>>>>>>.in a relationship. Single time is the best time in your life because you can do whatever you want to do without having anyone to bitch about it 
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