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News: ‘No Blacks’ Is Not a Sexual Preference. It’s Racism
Member Since: 11/17/2011
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Originally posted by MissAmericanDream
Its literally impossible to just change what you are attracted to. No matter how many times you tell someone what an awful racist they are for what they like or don't like, their attraction isn't going to change. There is just no point to this type of dialogue because no matter what points you prove and what facts are given you can't make someone be attracted to anything.
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I see so many people on here saying they would never date transgendered, bisexual, etc. and how they feel guilty about being closed minded in that area but we don't categorize them as transphobic or biphobic, I don't see the difference from that situation to this one yet everyone is quick to holler racists.
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Again, saying that you don't have a preference for black people is not the same as saying NO BLACKS. They are different. One is racism, and the other is not.
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Member Since: 9/1/2013
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Originally posted by LadyGagaStan93
I just feel like this narrative ignores the bigger picture at hand. Yeah, sure. We can ignore the fact that people would rather not date someone of a certain race, because that's just the "reality" and the "harshness" of life. Let's not bother to teach people why that's wrong, and why we should work to change that outlook.
Thankfully white people rarely run into this issue. You rarely ever see "no whites" on much of anything.
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It actually is the reality and harshness of life. Certain people will not date specific ethnic groups, whether its racism, lack of attraction or any other possible reason. And nothing in this world is going to change that. I think that is the bigger picture, sadly. Demanding a change in the way people are being upfront about this will probably not change the way they feel about it or will address the issue. The world would be a better place if it weren't that way, but it is. And well, racism is obviously wrong, but I think that is a whole different discussion, though it can definitely intertwine with this issue.
I do think it is rude to put “no <whatever ethnic group, certain traits etc.> on any social media platform, but this thread tells me its rather racism. I definitely don't agree with that. Some people just don't like wasting time on something they're certain it doesn't work out. And on dating apps its the reason for your partition on it. Though ignorant, they are being clear and honest about what they are looking for in a partner. Id honestly be glad if they filtered themselves out.
However, hope I didn't sound too harsh or anything, thats certainly not what Im aiming for. I am white myself. My second boyfriend was black and we had so much discussions about people in his past with whom he had these issues. I definitely can imagine black people, and people of other races, must experience this quite often and the feeling of rejection it brings. The moment he let go of that and realized that everything aint for everyone is the moment he got a lot happier with himself. This is the only reference I have regarding this issue, but it taught both him and me something that is valuable in my opinion. Ofcourse thats different for everyone.
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Member Since: 12/1/2010
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The point of this isn't to make someone attracted to minorities, but to call a spade a spade. The first solution to any problem is admitting that there is a problem. That's it. It's so simple. No one is begging for whites, just for these people who say "I'm not racial but no blacks' to realize they are racist in one form.
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Member Since: 8/29/2011
Posts: 18,282
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Originally posted by Sander
It actually is the reality and harshness of life. Certain people will not date specific ethnic groups, whether its racism, lack of attraction or any other possible reason. And nothing in this world is going to change that. I think that is the bigger picture, sadly. Demanding a change in the way people are being upfront about this will probably not change the way they feel about it or will address the issue. The world would be a better place if it weren't that way, but it is. And well, racism is obviously wrong, but I think that is a whole different discussion, though it can definitely intertwine with this issue.
I do think it is rude to put “no <whatever ethnic group, certain traits etc.> on any social media platform, but this thread tells me its rather racism. I definitely don't agree with that. Some people just don't like wasting time on something they're certain it doesn't work out. And on dating apps its the reason for your partition on it. Though ignorant, they are being clear and honest about what they are looking for in a partner. Id honestly be glad if they filtered themselves out.
However, hope I didn't sound too harsh or anything, thats certainly not what Im aiming for. I am white myself. My second boyfriend was black and we had so much discussions about people in his past with whom he had these issues. I definitely can imagine black people, and people of other races, must experience this quite often and the feeling of rejection it brings. The moment he let go of that and realized that everything aint for everyone is the moment he got a lot happier with himself. This is the only reference I have regarding this issue, but it taught both him and me something that is valuable in my opinion. Ofcourse thats different for everyone.
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This whole argument can and HAS BEEN used to defend so many injustices in history, e.g. slavery, segregation, war, and poverty. Things do change, and things can change. It starts with people stop making your argument and allowing it change.
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Member Since: 8/29/2011
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Originally posted by Vertigo Stick
The point of this isn't to make someone attracted to minorities, but to call a spade a spade. The first solution to any problem is admitting that there is a problem. That's it. It's so simple. No one is begging for whites, just for these people who say "I'm not racial but no blacks' to realize they are racist in one form.
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“I am not interested in condemning or criticizing people’s desires, but if we recognize prejudice within ourselves, we must be willing to challenge and confront it,” Callander told The Daily Beast.
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I am amazed by how personal white people can take accusations of racism as if they are somehow the victims of the racism.
Since when did it become acceptable to be racist but impolite or "offensive" to call it out? Oh wait it has always been like that.
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Member Since: 9/1/2013
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Originally posted by Ramcoro
This whole argument can and HAS BEEN used to defend so many injustices in history, e.g. slavery, segregation, war, and poverty. Things do change, and things can change. It starts with people stop making your argument and allowing it change.
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Thats possible, but I am not defending these injustices with my argument. I think its a stretch to even compare these injustices with the issue of this thread. Like I said, racism is wrong and is a whole different discussion.
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Member Since: 8/7/2015
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I can't believe this hasn't been closed 
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Member Since: 8/29/2011
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Originally posted by Sander
Thats possible, but I am not defending these injustices with my argument. I think its a stretch to even compare these injustices with the issue of this thread. Like I said, racism is wrong and is a whole different discussion.
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You may not be defending, but you are literally calling for inaction. Inaction only supports the status quo, which is racism.
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Member Since: 9/1/2013
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Originally posted by Ramcoro
You may not be defending, but you are literally calling for inaction. Inaction only supports the status quo, which is racism.
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Another stretch. Like I said with my first post, you also cant label people as racists which you indirectly do now. For no reason. Thats downright offensive as well. If I gave you disrespectful slurs, you have every right to call me out on that. I beg to differ on racism being the status quo. Please look up the Universal Declaration on Human Rights. Im not going to deny that there is no racism, because sadly there is, but racism is in no way the acceptable, common or supported way and therefore not the status quo.
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I find White, Latino, Black and Arab men all attractive.
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Member Since: 3/7/2012
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Originally posted by MissAmericanDream
Its literally impossible to just change what you are attracted to. No matter how many times you tell someone what an awful racist they are for what they like or don't like, their attraction isn't going to change. There is just no point to this type of dialogue because no matter what points you prove and what facts are given you can't make someone be attracted to anything.
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I see so many people on here saying they would never date transgendered, bisexual, etc. and how they feel guilty about being closed minded in that area but we don't categorize them as transphobic or biphobic, I don't see the difference from that situation to this one yet everyone is quick to holler racists.
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Well said! This is exactly what I was trying to say in a roundabout way.
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Member Since: 8/31/2013
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Originally posted by RatedG²
Thanks for your input but one of the first lines in the Op says "probably yes" so I don't see a need for your little comment up there
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The correlation in the article does not prove that 'no blacks' is not a sexual preference.
That should be made clear. You sound upset?
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Member Since: 11/17/2011
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I think people putting it on their profiles is abit of a punch in the gut, I dont think its racist but its rude af, like if youre not into someone then just dont reply to them idgi, theres alot im not into but i dont put it on my profile cos it just makes you look ignorant and stupid imo.
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Reading ATRL in a few paragraphs.
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Originally posted by Jan
I completely disagree with this.
Race is like a trait we have whether we like it or not. So is being well-built or skinny. So is being tall or short. So is having beady eyes, a long forehead or balding at an early age.
It's completely okay to not find men attractive because of such traits.
However, writing such information on a Tinder/Grindr profile is rude.
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I guess we should take your opinion over scientific research.
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Originally posted by Mezter
How are there like 3 threads on this subject weekly and they all end up with over 100 posts?  |
Because the same white gays and the tired ass "trolls" take it personally because it hits a NERVE hihi
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Member Since: 4/25/2011
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Indeed a 'preference' but it's VERY impossible you wont see someone off that race that you want to date so I guess this has a point.
No blacks, asians, etc. is just cruel. Just find someone you like 
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Member Since: 8/29/2011
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Originally posted by Sander
Another stretch. Like I said with my first post, you also cant label people as racists which you indirectly do now. For no reason. Thats downright offensive as well. If I gave you disrespectful slurs, you have every right to call me out on that. I beg to differ on racism being the status quo. Please look up the Universal Declaration on Human Rights. Im not going to deny that there is no racism, because sadly there is, but racism is in no way the acceptable, common or supported way and therefore not the status quo.
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Not a stretch at all. Try to hear me out.
Again, I find it sad the the word "racist" is found offensive when people are calling out racist actions, but the racist actions (in this case attraction) are not offending you? I didn't call anyone a racist here. I only stayed certain actions are racist. I have never been rejected for being white, I have never heard or saw someone say "no whites". While that may happen, but it is not nearly to the extent people say "no blacks". If it is truly a "preference" then why is that almost only POC are affected by this? Couldn't someone else argue that it is just someone's "preference" to not want to go to the same school as black people or drink from the same water fountain? Is that not a preference? Those all may be preferences, then that proves preferences themselves can be racist.
The Declaration of Universal Basic Rights didn't do anything but give some legitimacy to human rights groups. Look at the racial discrepancies between incarceration rates or hiring rates. Better yet look at the wealth gap between whites and POC. Racism is unfortunately the status quo. You should particularly look at the rates from a US context. Racism is a live and well here.
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Member Since: 8/17/2011
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Originally posted by Jan
I completely disagree with this.
Race is like a trait we have whether we like it or not. So is being well-built or skinny. So is being tall or short. So is having beady eyes, a long forehead or balding at an early age.
It's completely okay to not find men attractive because of such traits.
However, writing such information on a Tinder/Grindr profile is rude.
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No one said it wasn't okay.
They just said it's racist. Which, technically speaking is true.
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