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Discussion: Bisexual guy's wife mad over his gay college relationship
Member Since: 8/7/2015
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Originally posted by stronger23
Lol he didn't say he had fling, or it was experimental , he flat out told her he is bisexual, that's a huge difference, that's a life style, in which I'm sure he knew this before even getting involved with her. Which she had the right to know . let her make the decision to want to go forward, despite what you gays feel, not everybody is ok with their man being into men. & if you can't understand that .....
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why would she not be okay with it? All that matters is that he is into her. How does that fact that he is bi change anything? As long as he is loyal i don't see a problem, and if he isn't loyal how does it matter if he cheated with same or different sex?
"brah" being homophopic won't make you look more straight, you don't have to try. Just open your closeted mind, and stop being insecure in who you are
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Member Since: 1/2/2014
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Originally posted by Inverted
Telling the truth is never an obligation. It's a healthy thing to do to build a relationship. He didn't need to tell her, but the classmates probably would have eventually.
And yes, most heterosexual women would not be comfortable with this fact. If your "solution" to the issue is "they don't need to know," you probably shouldn't be in a relationship.
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If it's not affecting their relationship in the present, the whole healthy thing is completely irrelevant.
As long as he didn't cheat on her, is irrelevant for her to know this, is like when you date a bunch of girls before your wife, you just don't go on telling what you specifically did with each one, she would be grossed anyway.
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Member Since: 8/7/2015
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Originally posted by stronger23
So now she living her life, wondering if some man will come and catch the eye of her husband, she can't compete with that.
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And woman catching her man's eye is okay?
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Member Since: 8/7/2015
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I understand her being bothered by the fact that he hid it from her. It's definitely a conversation they should've had prior to committing to one another; however, that whole "you're either straight, or you're gay" mentality is where more than half of my sympathy goes out the window; and the fact that she's now going to be full of doubt rather than trusting all that he has been, and all that he has done, for her (because he's clearly committed and in love with her), then it's not going to last.
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Member Since: 3/15/2013
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People act like bisexuals readily drop their pants for any and everyone  he's not more likely to be unfaithful because he's bi, cheaters will cheat if they want to regardless of sexuality
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Originally posted by stronger23
So now she living her life, wondering if some man will come and catch the eye of her husband, she can't compete with that.
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Are you stupid? Going with that logic she should also be concerned about every woman he comes into contact with too. And he with every man she comes into contact with. Should he be nitpicking every single one of her previous relationships too?
If you really think bisexuals are always lusting after both sexes... I guess since you're "straight" you wanna **** every moving thing with a vagina, right?
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Member Since: 11/28/2011
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Nnn the last paragraph. She sounds so dumb.
Anyway he was wrong for not disclosing before they married. That's lowkey a bait and switch.
I mean if he curiously experimented in college, he gets a pass. But if you're actually bi, you should tell your partner somewhere down the line and before marriage.
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Member Since: 4/23/2011
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Originally posted by Trent W
If it's not affecting their relationship in the present, the whole healthy thing is completely irrelevant.
As long as he didn't cheat on her, is irrelevant for her to know this, is like when you date a bunch of girls before your wife, you just don't go on telling what you specifically did with each one, she would be grossed anyway.
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With that logic, no communication or honesty is required for any relationship. Good luck with that.
And no, giving specific details about what you did in bed with your previous girlfriends is not the same as completely leaving out the fact that you slept with men too. It's obvious you're trying really hard to rationalize this because it's something you plan to do yourself. And don't even try the "ignorant" complaint about the wife. You shouldn't expect people to be open-minded and fair when you can't be either. You aren't some big progressive and neither is most of the world.
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Member Since: 8/19/2013
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I can understand being upset that he didn't reveal his bisexuality earlier, however, she sounds ignorant and stupid. Her saying "you can't be bisexual" really made me lose a lot of sympathy for her, tbh. Him actually being bisexual shouldn't be a problem, and from what we can tell, he seems faithful and committed so there isn't really any reason for her not to trust him.
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My sister says that is just what people claim before they come out as gay.
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Member Since: 8/7/2015
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Originally posted by LoKoPaNdA
She may not be homophobic but she is ignorant about bisexuality. It shouldn't be a big deal for the reasons she mentioned. Any man straight, bi or gay can cheat. She is associating attraction to males to promiscuity.
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I'm not seeing it like that. Why is that many gay men feel the same way about bisexuality like she does then? It has to do with the whole "I can't compete with the other sex" mentality. It's stupid but it's real.
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Member Since: 1/1/2014
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Originally posted by stronger23
She has EVERY right to be upset.
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Member Since: 4/25/2011
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Why are people so hurt about their partner's past relationships even LOOONG before they have met? It's strange that it affects some people so much.
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no straight woman wants to be with a man , who likes sucking & ****in penis as much or if not more than she does , PERIOD! I dont see how that's hard to comprehend .
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Member Since: 1/2/2014
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Originally posted by Inverted
With that logic, no communication or honesty is required for any relationship. Good luck with that.
And no, giving specific details about what you did in bed with your previous girlfriends is not the same as completely leaving out the fact that you slept with men too. It's obvious you're trying really hard to rationalize this because it's something you plan to do yourself. And don't even try the "ignorant" complaint about the wife. You shouldn't expect people to be open-minded and fair when you can't be either. You aren't some big progressive and neither is most of the world. |
WTF is wrong with this, you don't even know about my sex life, so stop trying to get into that.
And you are so wrong, it's called being discreet, no one ever tells everything to their partner, not every single detail, it's impossible.
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Member Since: 1/2/2014
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Originally posted by stronger23
no straight woman wants to be with a man , who likes sucking & ****in penis as much or if not more than she does , PERIOD! I dont see how that's hard to comprehend .
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Generalizations are stupid and ignorant, you might wanna try the word most.
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Member Since: 8/17/2009
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Originally posted by Trent W
Generalizations are stupid and ignorant, you might wanna try the word most.
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I would hope you'd be smart enough to know that
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Member Since: 1/2/2014
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Originally posted by stronger23
I would hope you'd be smart enough to know that
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Try getting back at me when something that makes more sense please.
And back to topic, you can't ever say ALL straight women want the same thing.
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Member Since: 2/6/2012
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Originally posted by stronger23
no straight woman wants to be with a man , who likes sucking & ****in penis as much or if not more than she does , PERIOD! I dont see how that's hard to comprehend .
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Oh please. Stop speaking for anyone other than yourself.
It's like you're personally affected by this.
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Member Since: 8/25/2012
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Quote:
Originally posted by stronger23
no straight woman wants to be with a man , who likes sucking & ****in penis as much or if not more than she does , PERIOD! I dont see how that's hard to comprehend .
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 get out
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