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Discussion: Bisexual guy's wife mad over his gay college relationship
Member Since: 2/6/2014
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He should've told her from the beginning.
But she shouldn't be that upset for so long tho.
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Member Since: 8/17/2009
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Originally posted by Sunshine.
@stronger23 I'm bisexual. Ergo, I think I'm qualified to explain to you what it means.
Not being attached to specific gender parts =/= wanting EVERY gender part at once
It just feeds into the stereotype that bisexuals are more deviant and want men and women all the time.
When really, it's more like, I don't CARE whether you're male or female, I can still like you the same.
Promiscuity and bisexuality aren't tied hand in hand.
Two compelely different ideas.
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I can understand this, but when you think about DL men, it's kinda the same as bisexuality , except , they aren't open about it. And most DL men are married with kids, and still mess around with men on the side. Not all , some are using woman as a cover up, but in some cases DL men genuinely like men and woman .
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Member Since: 8/7/2015
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Break Your Heart Right Back ha impact 
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Member Since: 1/4/2012
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He should have told her before they officially got into a relationship, but she's also overacting a bit. Especially about thinking bisexuality exists or not.
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As a bisexual, sometimes I think that we kind of have to stick with eachother (i.e a fellow bisexual man/woman) or the other party won't understand.  It just seems easier.
But yes, the guy should have definitely been forthcoming. I fail to see what the actual problem with him dating men in the past is, but oh well.
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Member Since: 8/7/2015
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Originally posted by vamp
Livin in sin is the new thing.
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Britney, ha impact
If anything, this situation right here proves that bisexuality exists. I really don't get why bisexuals are given such flack from our community. We're all supposed to be under one massive branch yet there isn't really any sense of community at all. Most of the gays don't use them (because they're not gay) and the straights don't want them (because they're not straight). So who are they left with? No one. It's so horrible.
The woman in the OP is ignorant and I'm praying for their marriage.
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Member Since: 12/14/2011
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That's a major part of his life history and she had every right to know all about it before they got married + started having kids.
But she doesn't need to dramatic.
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Mess at the FREAKSHOW in here. 
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Member Since: 8/6/2012
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So because he had a fling with a guy in college well before he even met her it's a problem.
If he has been faithful to her what is the problem? now that he told her he's bisexual she's feeling insecure?.
Maybe she's the one who have things to deal with and not the husband.
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Member Since: 8/17/2009
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Originally posted by St. Charles
Mess at the FREAKSHOW in here. |
Bitch call me out
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Member Since: 8/19/2013
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Something doesn't make sense.
If it's common knowledge amongst their friends that means it was never a secret and she didn't say that the couple were college friends which leads me to further feel as if there's a missing link or she dropped the ball in paying attention to conversations. Something just doesn't seem right in her explanation of the situation.
The lack of communication is real.
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Member Since: 1/1/2014
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This is ridiculous. Women tend to think that because a guy is bisexual he's 'twice as likely to cheat'. No honey. If you're a cheater, you're a cheater. If you're faithful, you're faithful.
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Some of y'all are idiots I'm sorry
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Most straight women don't want a dude who blows dudes. Unfair perhaps, but attraction is a fragile thing and for the most part that is a turn-off. No different than not being attracted to men of a certain height, race, build, income bracket, ect. That's why he lied and now she's just always going to wonder what else he's hiding. Plus, let's not pretend there aren't tons of bi married dudes on apps looking for some NSA hook ups everyday. Bisexuals are capable of monogamy, yes, but we also know that men are more likely to cheat. Now that she has another gender to worry about, it just means she'll be concerned when he says he's going to hang out with the guys.
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Member Since: 1/6/2014
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I understand if she's upset by her husband not telling her, because you're supposed to trust your SO, but everything else she said came off as BS.
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Originally posted by stronger23
Bitch call me out
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Look at your sig and then look back at your previous comments.
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Member Since: 1/1/2014
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One of my biggest fears  I understand why she's upset but she better make an effort in trying to understand him 
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Member Since: 8/17/2009
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Originally posted by St. Charles
Look at your sig and then look back at your previous comments.
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Clearly I'm not mad, angry, or seething
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Member Since: 8/3/2010
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Quote:
Originally posted by Circinus
Most straight women don't want a dude who blows dudes. Unfair perhaps, but attraction is a fragile thing and for the most part that is a turn-off. No different than not being attracted to men of a certain height, race, build, income bracket, ect. That's why he lied and now she's just always going to wonder what else he's hiding. Plus, let's not pretend there aren't tons of bi married dudes on apps looking for some NSA hook ups everyday. Bisexuals are capable of monogamy, yes, but we also know that men are more likely to cheat. Now that she has another gender to worry about, it just means she'll be concerned when he says he's going to hang out with the guys.
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I can't I can't I can't I can't 
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Member Since: 8/19/2013
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Originally posted by stronger23
So now she living her life, wondering if some man will come and catch the eye of her husband, she can't compete with that.
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You do realize the entire reason she didn't know was because she has probably made several off color comments about gays or bisexuals that tipped him off to keep his mouth shut. Yes, he probably should have told her but they are still closer to newlyweds rather than 20 years strong.
Okay he told her, if she wants to get a divorce, then she'll get a f***** divorce. I'll never understand why people are so scared of sexualities..
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