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Originally posted by Nerevanin
It has nothing to do with racism and homophobia, it's about equal rights or how to call it. It's about women who prostitute their bodies to succeed instead of working hard, fighting for their opinions and for themselves. I don't see what about it is "a simplistic look at women and sexuality". Would you like if your boss promoted a lady regardless of her skills and competence just because he had had sex with her? What if you wanted to go to university and someone told you that you would be admitted if you gave him blowjob? If someone uses sex a way to succeed, it's her / his business but that doesn't mean that it's right. Sadly, there are such people.
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No I wouldn't like it if that happened to me at work. But I would be critical of the woman who used sex AND the boss for accepting it. Maybe the boss even more since he's in the position of power there. In any other case, both the person who offers the bribe and the person who takes it are villainized. But when it comes to sex, somehow women are the ones who get shamed, in a lot of situations. Also, this is exactly my point about the song. She calls women out for spreading their legs, but doesn't mention the people or men who are on the receiving end taking advantage. How is that not sexist?
Your example about the blowjob doesn't apply here. In that situation, I would be harassed. Kelly's writing from the angle of wagging her finger at women who give the blowjob. Again, where's the ridicule and shaming of the man who propositioned in the first ****ing place or even accepted. By definition, this is sexist because its not holding women and men up to the same yard stick
Sure, I get her intent behind the song, I guess. But it sure doesn't translate in actuality.
BTW, I'm not sure if she's even writing about women who use sex to get ahead in the way we're talking about. Is she just referring to artists in the industry who use their sexuality to sell records? I always wonder about that. But whatever the case, it would still be problematic. Again, ridicule the female artist for flaunting sex, but not the people who voluntarily eat it up. Sure, doesn't seem misplaced at all.
edit: Forgot to address the first part of your comment. Prostitution is not a one sided thing. Police typically arrest the prostitute, but again not the men who are willing customers. Let's not even get started on how a significant portion of women in prostition are forced or coerced into it and many have a man who controls the selling of their body. But yes, let's **** shame them instead of looking deeper into the issue.
And the "big boys" comment. It's an antiquated expression that's commonly used to basically tell someone to step up their game if they want to play with the adults. It's condescending in general, but in the context of the song especially condescending to women. I'm not misinterpreting the phrase here. If she meant something else, she should've used better words.
) and I might buy two more for my other friends. Kelly is getting that ****ing No.1.
