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Originally posted by RudeBoyy
Obviously doing too much to prove a point cuz b4 I was clearly doing to little because you were implying that I was bullying him or just being plain old mean when that's not the case. He clearly does think he's better than black people if he won't date black people yet chases people of other races expected them to do the same (lbr people in our society see him as black) like he's some type of exception.
Nobody likes self haters. Like no one defends gay men who say things like "oh fems and queers make me uncomfortable" when they could have an issue with their sexual identity because it's tacky. How am I going to defend or feel sympathy for someone who says I make him uncomfortable just due to my race and how is he the victim in all this?
I hope he comes to term with his racial identity and figures out who he is and stops being a self hater (because as much as you keep pretending he's not, he's most def in the wrong here). I also worry about him because he has a daughter who he could spread his delusions to as well so now his ignorance is affecting the lives of others as well.
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Not dating black girls doesn't mean he thinks he's better than black people.
Devin grew up in an environment where black girls made fun of him, told him he wasn't black enough, called him Uncle Tom, and made him feel like an outcast just because he was mixed and he talked like more like a stereotypical white guy than a stereotypical black guy. He doesn't feel comfortable about them because those people have made him feel worthless, they've made him feel bad about himself. That doesn't mean he hates black people, that doesn't mean he thinks he's better than them—all it means is that he doesn't feel comfortable around them. He doesn't feel uncomfortable around them because he thinks he's better than them, he feels uncomfortable around them because he feels he doesn't meet their standards. And why does he feel that way? Because that's what they've told him for all of his youth.
Obviously, if you don't feel comfortable around a group of people, you're not going to go out of your way to date them. That's probably what he meant when he said he doesn't date black girls—mind you, we never heard his words, all we heard was Frankie's (
) one line retelling of it. Not dating black girls because you think you're better than them is not the same thing as not dating black girls because you feel unworthy around them.
Your comparison to gays feeling uncomfortable around "fems" does not work at all. A gay man bashing feminine men stems from the belief that acting like a woman makes you less. It doesn't stem from a childhood surrounded by feminine men bashing you for being masculine.
A more relevant comparison is Frankie not feeling comfortable around religious people because religious people have treated him terribly as a young adult.
Devin might have issues with his own racial identity, but you're doing too much by insinuating that he feels he's better than black people and black people are lessors. He has said nothing of the sort. Not when he has said explicitly how much he admires Jocasta and has admired her from the second he saw her, not when he called Amber a beautiful person "inside and out", not when he stans down for Drake, I could keep going. All of Devin's issues are personal—he doesn't project that onto anyone else. You're acting like he thinks Black people don't meet his standards when it's actually the complete reverse. Jesus. Have an ounce of understanding.
) and there's no way she's staying. I was joking when I said it before but my subscription is really about to get canceled come Thursday. I hate a season that's one-sided.
