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Originally posted by Rentboy
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I think the OP is referring to a gay guy... Subconscious racism is pretty common in the gay community. Gay men in general are portrayed as white and everyone is subjected to a certain standard of beauty just like in hetero culture, so other races are less accepted when it comes to dating.
But I completely agree. I just wanted to point that out.
Although I'm sure his friend would make an EXCEPTION for such a person. The problem is that they would have to be an exception in the first place. But maybe that experience would open their eyes to the beauty of other peoples.
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I agree with this. It's obviously apparent to those who are non white.
Gay community in the US anyway are very eurocentric it's not just whites going for other whites.
Minority groups also mainly go for whites and not their own groups especially gay asian men.
I have dated white guys and could tell it was mainly due to lack of experience with someone of another race was the reason they never dated interracially before. Sometimes to the point it would lead to really ignorant thinking.
One assumed I liked rap due to my race when I didn't mention it in my tastes of music. I do like rap but it was something I forgot to mention in my list. it's a messy cycle.
And for me personally I feel the whole cultural differences thing is a bit of a cop out. I mean sure there might be certain things one race might get the other wouldn't but it's not as a huge gap to the point you have zero in common.
As someone who grew up in a neighborhood with mainly blacks around and went to school with other black kids until highschool in another state I didn't think too much on the differences.
I met a kid who was scottish with really red hair. We just clicked and have been friends for about 10 years now. I never put much emphasis on race and no one gets ahead of the line over any other race in dating. If I connect with you I connect with you.
I mean your race doesn't really determine how much better you get along with someone of a similar skin tone. Ok so we're both black,white, etc what else is there?
Black people have this lightskin vs dark skin BS going on so the standard of beauty issue is real.
I think it's a bit unfair to label someone an
active racist when it could be a subconscious thing and they don't realize it. Some people have certain tastes and that doesn't stop them from treating everyone equally.
I think there is a fine line, if you let preconceived notions take over who you do and wont date then that's a problem. Some minorities date white guys simply because they're white. I have seen it and it's pretty sad imo. Now not all gay minority men do this but a nice amount do.
Straight black men who only date white women is another issue altogether and it's not just a simple preference thing. I'll just say that black women get **** on ALOT and leave it at that.
At the end of the day you like what you like but certain things do shape that mindset. But as long as you're not going around thinking one is better than the other due to stereotypes then you're good to go.
Racism is real and completely engrained in every aspect of our society. It's easy to not see it if you are don't have to deal with it.
