And you know that that last sentence pretty much contradicts that whole book you wrote too.
Of course you wouldn't agree, but I honestly don't give a damn. Y'all can settle for these basic ass hoes that rely on you, but that's not me and that's never going to be me. I have my own and I take pride in that.
Men love having that power over women, that pride knowing that their woman doesn't have **** without them. It's something for them to hold over our heads. That's all it is really. Men are intimidated by a woman that doesn't necessarily need him. It's emasculating to them.
We're not going to agree on this so you might as well stop quoting me and my "books".
I do agree guys needs a male figure in their life but that doesn't necessarily means that the man has to be superior in the relationship and that they can't be equals.
Of course you wouldn't agree, but I honestly don't give a damn. Y'all can settle for these basic ass hoes that rely on you, but that's not me and that's never going to be me. I have my own and I take pride in that.
Men love having that power over women, that pride knowing that their woman doesn't have **** without them. It's something for them to hold over our heads. That's all it is really. Men are intimidated by a woman that doesn't necessarily need him. It's emasculating to them.
We're not going to agree on this so you might as well stop quoting me and my "books".
You may find this hard to believe but most women aren't burning their bras and looking for domination over men...
I don't want to bring my religion into this, because it will just get messy and that can be avoided but I am yet to hear of a matriarchal society. They don't exist no? How vastly different are they really?
I use to be like you, and got into an argument with my mum about gender equality, and then I realize that I don't really want a chick bossing me around. She'll just give me headache. I wasn't being realistic. I live in a culture where women tend to marry above them, and look for a man who can take care of her. And I don't think there's anything wrong with that, nor do I think there's anything wrong with an independent woman. But I'm African who wants a patner who understands my culture, so something you would call submissive wife isn't going to be something hard to find. It isn't even hard to find in the West.... That doesn't make me barbaric. There can only be one head to a relationship, and I'd be damned if that ever becomes a women in my situation.
What the hell is this ****ery? Thank god I'm lowkey bisexual I can't stand most men. What type of ignorant ******** is that? Talkin bout some women need to be submissive in 2014, the **** out of here! Keep spreading the patriarchal ******** the white man instilled in you, that will definitely help us progress as a people.
Cuz you bout to pop in here with this "women ain't oppressed" nonsense like negro how would you know?
Women have always been subordinated to men since humans started building society. How can you undo hundreds of thousands of damage in one century? You can't!
What the hell does me being a freak have to do with this? I'm a strong, independent black woman. Yes, we are raised in a sexist society where women are expected to succumb to their "superior" and more "fit" male counterpart, but I'll be damned if I ever allow myself to fall through the cracks and conform to what society pushes us to believe. I was raised like that. My dad was one of the few respected black lawyers in this area. He always told me I needed to meet a successful black man to take care of me while I popped out babies and took care of our home. Bitch, please. That was even more motivation for me to take my feminine ass out and get a degree and guess what, boo? I'm working on my second. I just never mention the first because I never use it and it's a waste. As a black person I already have to work twice as hard to get where a white person is. As a black woman the odds are even more against me, but I've never been the one to lay down and just take some ****. See that's what true weakness is. I'm down for defying all odds.
In reality, I don't need a man to take care of me. I gets mine and I gets plenty. I don't need a man. Would I like one one day? Yes, of course. We all want companionship, but that's all I want, because at the end of the day he's only going to be my partner. He's not going to be above me. I won't allow that to happen especially since the fact that I have a vagina means I have to work harder than him to get where I'm going.
I don't give a damn where you were raised at. It's a poor belief that unfortunately has been instilled in the masses including women ourselves and that's where the problem lies. Instead of there being more pro-active women such as myself, we allow ourselves to continue to be suppressed by, you, the man when in reality we are just as capable, if not more, of doing any and everything you all do and bare a few children on the side.
And if I earn my degree, my career, and a title that entitles me bossing your manly ass around then you best listen to me or consider your ass uneployed.
Black people aren't the only people with single-family households. Yes, the 'stereotype' is negatively hyped in our favor yet single families are within every race. Hate to play devil's advocate, but it's true.
It's sad. They sound like the same white people who say racism doesn't exist anymore. How the **** do you know if you've never experienced it first hand? I can't stand when a person speaks out of ignorance.
They aren't but it's more present in black family, like my mom side who is white everyone still has both parents while my dad side who is black well most of them only see their kids once a month.
It's not just black people who have that problem but it is more present within the black community than the others.
They aren't but it's more present in black family, like my mom side who is white everyone still has both parents while my dad side who is black well most of them only see their kids once a month.
It's not just black people who have that problem but it is more present within the black community than the others.
Damn...
My parents divorced when I was like 10 but I saw my dad pretty regularly; I lived with my mother.
I do not come from the prototypical black family, but on my mom's side all 9 of my aunts and uncles are married (except 1 and that's by choice)... I no longer claim my dad's side of the family so that's irrelevant.
Of course you wouldn't agree, but I honestly don't give a damn. Y'all can settle for these basic ass hoes that rely on you, but that's not me and that's never going to be me. I have my own and I take pride in that.
Men love having that power over women, that pride knowing that their woman doesn't have **** without them. It's something for them to hold over our heads. That's all it is really. Men are intimidated by a woman that doesn't necessarily need him. It's emasculating to them.
We're not going to agree on this so you might as well stop quoting me and my "books".
Lol you sound exactly like my sister!
One of her exes was SO insecure + intimidated by the fact that she's a doctor-in-training (he was studying Anthropology, i think). She hated his lack of self esteem.
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BUT I did see where he was coming from tho. In theory it sounds backward and sexist, but practically, if my (future) wife made more $$$ than i did, i wouldn't exactly be comfortable with it either.
Idk, i just feel like its a man's job to take care of the family, financially or otherwise.
Lol you sound exactly like my sister!
One of her exes was SO insecure + intimidated by the fact that she's a doctor-in-training (he was studying Anthropology, i think). She hated his lack of self esteem.
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BUT I did see where he was coming from tho. In theory it sounds backward and sexist, but practically, if my (future) wife made more $$$ than i did, i wouldn't exactly be comfortable with it either.
Idk, i just feel like its a man's job to take care of the family, financially or otherwise.
Of course... because that's what society shapes you to believe.
A real man would be happy that he got a woman that worked hard enough to become a doctor. Money is only a superficial aspect of it.
I guess that's why flawless ass bitches have to marry a ***** that's at least on her level so he can still have that sense of "pride".
Wait until you get in college. It only gets worse. You just have to avoid those type of people and not allow them to rain on your parade.
It's in my new dance group. I don't know what's going on with the female dancers, but the male dancers are out of control.
So many nasty attitudes and huge egos. I am praying that they be freed from those evil prideful spirits rn.
Many are just very disrespectful to their authoritative superiors + some of their superiors don't even know how to command their respect. A lot of the not-so-good dancers who have attitudes are on the verge of being kicked out and are constantly disciplined for their behavior. The brilliant dancers with bad attitudes get away with having bad attitudes because they're needed.
Why is it so hard to just fall in line and not think yourself special? These attitude problems are gonna **** a lot of these guys up in life. I see it now.
Lol you sound exactly like my sister!
One of her exes was SO insecure + intimidated by the fact that she's a doctor-in-training (he was studying Anthropology, i think). She hated his lack of self esteem.
+
BUT I did see where he was coming from tho. In theory it sounds backward and sexist, but practically, if my (future) wife made more $$$ than i did, i wouldn't exactly be comfortable with it either.
Idk, i just feel like its a man's job to take care of the family, financially or otherwise.
