[getback]

Originally posted by Demiboyx

You are just the worst

Black gays feel unwanted, no matter how good you look, how fancy you look in your display pic...the first question you get is how big is your ****?

Not hey there, nice smile, want to go out on a date? or I like your shirt that you put hours of effort looking for and money spending on it, want to go out on a date?

You see a hot white guy you really like, chances are 9/10 you'll get ignored or the occasional not into black guys sorry. Or you start talking to a him and then he stops talking to you for no reason.

Self esteem down the drain.

The gay community is just a mess

Let's NOT turn this into a debate over racism or this thread will be closed

[Demiboyx]

Originally posted by getback

Let's NOT turn this into a debate over racism or this thread will be closed

I did not even lie though, I'm just sharing my experience as a black person in the LGBT community. I'm reduced to nothing, the only thing that matters is my penis size ffs

[I Am Music]

Originally posted by Demiboyx

You are just the worst

Black gays feel unwanted, no matter how good you look, how fancy you look in your display pic...the first question you get is how big is your ****?

Not hey there, nice smile, want to go out on a date? or I like your shirt that you put hours of effort looking for and money spending on it, want to go out on a date?

You see a hot white guy you really like, chances are 9/10 you'll get ignored or the occasional not into black guys sorry. Or you start talking to a him and then he stops talking to you for no reason.

Self esteem down the drain.

The gay community is just a mess

I clocked that tea on page 6.

[chilicheese01]

Originally posted by jayyyxtee

I mean should I just fight you now or?

Am I not speaking truth?

[getback]

Originally posted by Demiboyx

I did not even lie though, I'm just sharing my experience as a black person in the LGBT community. I'm reduced to nothing, the only thing that matters is my penis size ffs

at least still better than Asian sis
---
however, you proved again that discrimination within the community sucks
gay guys usually scream for equality and diversity, but then discriminate people within the whole community based on appearances
that's probably hardest thing about being gay acception from the society and family can come with time, but being left out in the LGBT community where we're supposed to be accepting and loving each other is just...

[jayyyxtee]

Originally posted by chilicheese01

Am I not speaking truth?

Don't you think I know that though? You were being a smart ass

[Ouz]

The hardest thing is how my mother asks me when I'll give her gorgeous grandchildren and tells me how cute they are going to be. I sit there like

I push my sister to get married so she'll get her children and stop asking me for kids.

[chilicheese01]

Originally posted by jayyyxtee

Don't you think I know that though? You were being a smart ass

Have some courage, friend! I know you can do it!

[Ouz]

And also how shallow the gay community around me is. No one wants to cuddle. It's all about ****ing. That's why I have decided to not have sex anymore.

[Demiboyx]

Originally posted by I Am Music

In all honesty as a gay person you should be ashamed to invalidate someones personal struggles. Then again if all you're into is white guys it would be hard for you to see the picture due to your own bias.

This is why queer people of color get annoyed every time the subject of race gets brought up they get shut down and told how they don't know what they're talking about. An outsider looking in telling someone else they're wrong is a big part in why positive changes aren't being made.

Hate to break it to you but other white gay men themselves will tell you how there is a race totem poll in the LGBT community. Whites are at the very top and asians and blacks are the bottom you also have gay men of color who feed into the standard of beauty and only want white men especially gay asian males even though a good percent of gay white males aren't here for them.

Features have nothing to do with it you can be the most attractive black/asian man out there but you will get ignored for a slightly less attractive white guy because they are white.

Asian guys are afraid to message other men because they're afraid of being turned down for being asian (which happens alot) asians have a stigma of being twinks and small penises (I can tell you from personal experience that it isn't true)


Queer POC get stereotyped daily as either aggressive in bed (black men) or horny all the time (latin men)
You get pigeonholed into a box. Gay asians and gay black men are the least replied to on dating sites and even trying to talk to them on a platonic level you will get ignored.

And not just by white guys you will get ignored by other queers of color who are stuck on the white is right mentality.


So before trying to shut someone down as wrong why not ask why that is instead of assuming something you have no idea what is going on. We can all learn from each other.

Perfect, exactly what I experience

[iLiveMusic]

Originally posted by Sinvius

Finding other gay guys in homophobic areas or counties. Trust me on this.

And you just hit the nail on the head

[Sláy]

Originally posted by Demiboyx

I did not even lie though, I'm just sharing my experience as a black person in the LGBT community. I'm reduced to nothing, the only thing that matters is my penis size ffs

!!!!!

[Demiboyx]

Originally posted by getback

at least still better than Asian sis
---
however, you proved again that discrimination within the community sucks
gay guys usually scream for equality and diversity, but then discriminate people within the whole community based on appearances
that's probably hardest thing about being gay acception from the society and family can come with time, but being left out in the LGBT community where we're supposed to be accepting and loving each other is just...

This is exactly why I'm not coming out for a while, I'm not going to risk isolating myself from my family and friends for a community that doesn't value me at all.

[getback]

Originally posted by chilicheese01

Have some courage, friend! I know you can do it!

it takes time sis
we will all come out at one point in our lives, but only when we're ready

Originally posted by Demiboyx

This is exactly why I'm not coming out for a while, I'm not going to risk isolating myself from my family and friends for a community that doesn't value me at all.

I feel you

[Gossamer™]

It's hard enough being gay, but being gay and black just make life impossible most times.

[Sláy]

WAIT.

Where have all these black gerls come from? Get yo asses in the HNIC thread. That's an order

[musicislife298]

Well I'm not exactly the oldest or the wisest or anything considering I'm only 16 and still not out, but for me the hardest things about being gay are stereotypes, extreme emphasis on sex over a relationship, and the superficial standard of what it means to be sexy.

People are always surprised when I don't act like a "twink" because I look like one and they don't get how I don't identify as masculine or feminine and sex is apparently the only thing most guys want. I'm okay with people having active sex lives but it'd be nice to meet or talk to someone who doesn't just want to hit it and quit it.

I really hope that we as a community can address some of our major issues because asking for equality and acceptance without actually practicing what we preach makes us seem so hypocritical.

[Blatboy]

Originally posted by ForeverNow90

This tbh. No tea and no shade, but from what I know, most white gays don't use blacks in terms of intimacy, although we are socially accepted by whites, we will never fully be regarded as human beings because we are sexually unattractive.

You're excused. I'm white and am for the most part, only attracted to blacks and hispanics. And if someone isn't attracted to them, you can't be mad about it. You like who you like. If you don't find long hair attractive, there's nothing you can do about it. If you don't find something attractive, you can't help it. Hence why we're gay. We don't choose to be attracted to the same sex.

But anyway, the hardest part for me is that most males don't want to be your friend because they think you wanna ****. Like, I just want some damn male companionship

[Blatboy]

I swear to God, this site can NEVER have a conversation about how society treats us as gays, it's always "i have it harder because i'm gay AND a poc." The only way to have a valid ****ing opinion on this site is to be a gay, black Hellen Keller

[Sláy]

But society never just treats you as a homosexual.

Your race is woven into everything. Same as your gender.