No. They are who they are.
And if someone who has effeminate qualities does bother me, it has nothing to do with that characteristic and everything to do with them having another annoying quality.
But to say they bother you for being who they are, is stupid. That is not the measure of their worth, and that shouldn't be the barometer you base them by
And anyone that tries to pull that "bad example" crap needs to shove it. Be your own damn example.