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Discussion: Falling in love with a straight guy
Member Since: 8/26/2012
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Originally posted by MP2K
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Today he said my name and stared at me for a few seconds and then started saying what he wanted to say, and then like 5 mins later we were laughing about something and he was smiling and staring at me for the whole time.
But then we somehow got on the topic of gays and he said he only supports lesbians. and he's always talking about girls 24/7 now. 
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Member Since: 6/7/2011
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Originally posted by Dancehall Queen
Yes and he found out as I was falling for him through mutual friends and he made it seem like he felt the same way. I fell so madly in love and he was acting the same way, asking nonstop questions to our friends about me, texting them asking if I was in school, calling me cute pet names and using possessive adjectives when talking about me, breaking down to them when he saw me flirt with other people, acting all cute and sad and confused about what to do because he's closeted and super masculine. But whenever I talked to him I would get nothing and he would tell them its cause he's nervous and doesn't want people to get suspicious. It's just too hard to recount.
Anyway, he turned around and went all it was a joke and it makes sense, the signs were always there, even though I ignored them. There was points I heard his friends and him behind me, with his friend yelling my name jokingly. He told our friends because he told that guy he likes me that guy was messing with him.
My ****** in love ass still wants to believe he's confused and actually cared about me at one point. But moral of the story is if there's a chance a guy is straight, or the guy is in a confused state, it isn't worth investing emotion into.
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Omg you told me about this.
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Member Since: 8/16/2011
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I crush on some of them. But love? I try to never catch feelings for someone when I don't think those feelings will be reciprocated.
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Member Since: 12/26/2011
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Originally posted by Dancehall Queen
Yes and he found out as I was falling for him through mutual friends and he made it seem like he felt the same way. I fell so madly in love and he was acting the same way, asking nonstop questions to our friends about me, texting them asking if I was in school, calling me cute pet names and using possessive adjectives when talking about me, breaking down to them when he saw me flirt with other people, acting all cute and sad and confused about what to do because he's closeted and super masculine. But whenever I talked to him I would get nothing and he would tell them its cause he's nervous and doesn't want people to get suspicious. It's just too hard to recount.
Anyway, he turned around and went all it was a joke and it makes sense, the signs were always there, even though I ignored them. There was points I heard his friends and him behind me, with his friend yelling my name jokingly. He told our friends because he told that guy he likes me that guy was messing with him.
My ****** in love ass still wants to believe he's confused and actually cared about me at one point. But moral of the story is if there's a chance a guy is straight, or the guy is in a confused state, it isn't worth investing emotion into.
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That's heartbreaking. Things will get better, I promise.
Do you still talk to him?
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Member Since: 3/29/2011
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Move on ASAP, BELIEVE ME. I've done this and it ruined my life. I tried to kill myself and everything over my "straight" boy.
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Member Since: 8/12/2012
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Originally posted by effie593
I can. As cheesy as it sounds but the heart wants what the heart wants. You can't exactly choose who you fall in love with.
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LMFAO!!!!!
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Member Since: 3/18/2011
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Yeah.
I'm kind of madly in love with my fraternity brother.
Can't really run away from that. It's frustrating, but y'know.
He and I have a special bond though. 
I try to let that be fulfillment enough for me.
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Member Since: 4/20/2012
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I seriously have nothing else to say except just ween yourself off him. It sucks cause I can imagine the emotional pain you must be going through knowing you're in love with someone who simply can't return the favor because that's just not who he is. But seriously, unless he's totally metro so there MIGHT be a chance that he could possibly reconsider, just get yourself out of the mindset that you even have a shot.
Open your eyes, look around and keep all your options open. Sorry that's all I got 
EDIT: to answer the other question lol
I had crushes on straight friends, but that's all they ever were. There is this one guy I'm hung up on, but he's totally typical football geek buff like I so don't have a shot with him it's laughable. But I look past it and keep the possibilities open.
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Member Since: 10/28/2009
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Originally posted by MP2K
Yes, and he beat me girls, he beat my ass. Don't fall for it!! |
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I fucing YELPED.
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ggggggggggggggggg y'all wrong
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Member Since: 9/20/2011
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Originally posted by Arris1314
The story of my life.
Been there, done that. just get over it. |
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Member Since: 2/14/2007
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This thread is like an episode of Tyra Banks show!
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Member Since: 5/10/2011
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Sis, how do you fell for him? Does he entertain you?
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Member Since: 9/15/2012
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Originally posted by Scandal & Media
Today he said my name and stared at me for a few seconds and then started saying what he wanted to say, and then like 5 mins later we were laughing about something and he was smiling and staring at me for the whole time.
But then we somehow got on the topic of gays and he said he only supports lesbians. and he's always talking about girls 24/7 now. |
Probably because he finds the prospect of it attractive 
But did he actually say that? That's pretty sad.
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Member Since: 4/8/2012
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It sucks...I started my job in March, and fell in love in love in April..I kept it hidden and only told my close friends (I'm not out) and I kinda tried to ignore him..but we hung out once and he was on the phone with his girlfriend the whole time. Then, all summer I saw him outside of work (and we'd only work together one day a week, if we were lucky) maybe twice, and then, I got drunk in like September at my aunts house, and ended up calling and telling him, and we talked for hours (I remember the conversation) and he was really cool with it, and we actually got closer, and I knew it was a bad idea, because I knew that he was straight and had a girlfriend, but I couldn't help it..well, in October he told me we might get together and if he didn't have a girlfriend we would be, and he would get touchy and everything..then he asked to meet my friends, so him, my best friend, and I hung out, and they got really close and now he wants to dump his girlfriend to date her (my bestfriend) sooo, talk about tears. Long story short, don't do it...and to everyone saying "I'm too smart for that!" Obviously you've never met a straight guy who is nice, and decent, because, I've been gay my whole life, and I've always been smart about it, but it still happened. Just move on, it is NOT worth it.
EDIT: and no...its not lust or just wanting what I can't have. It's the fact that we've been hanging out constantly for 2 months now, and we've really gotten to know eachother and I honestly don't think there is anyone else out there like him..
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Member Since: 5/13/2012
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I know exactly how you feel. I'm in the same situation. 
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Member Since: 6/4/2010
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I think so many people, especially gay men, use the word "love" loosely in situations like this. As someone stated above people are attracted to things they know they can't have. Your case is probably more along of extreme infatuation or lust.
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Member Since: 5/10/2012
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I've been sexually attracted to straights guys, but nothing beyond that. If they do know that I think they are hot, then they just play it on in a teasing sort of way.
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Member Since: 2/15/2012
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Originally posted by R|E|V|E|R|I|E
I think so many people, especially gay men, use the word "love" loosely in situations like this. As someone stated above people are attracted to things they know they can't have. Your case is probably more along of extreme infatuation or lust.
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I agree. Love really isn't the operative word here. Especially seeing as the feelings obviously aren't mutual.
I mean, I know I've liked someone who I thought was straight before, myself. And unfortunately, years later, I still do.
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Member Since: 8/1/2012
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Once. And I get over it
I do everything to him, I used to go to his home to study when I was in high school
Its was a rough. I know what youve been through
YOU NEED TIME.
Edit: he's ugly, but I dnot know what happened to me
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