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Discussion: Do you struggle with anxiety? How do you handle it
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Do you struggle with anxiety? How do you handle it
Do you struggle with anxiety? If so, how do you handle it?
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Member Since: 1/1/2014
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You should really appreciate your friends that consistently invite you places with them but I still get what you're saying about being gay.
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Member Since: 1/1/2014
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I have anxiety for sure. what i do is i force myself literally force myself to do activities with friends and stuff. and i try to let my self go. if you convince your mind that things will be alright and that you dont have anxiety it might work.
and just force yourself to go out and communicate with ppl.
like recently im forcing myself to use the human cashier option instead of the automatic robot cashier/scanner atthe grocery store. thats a step towards a better me and fighting my social anxieties so ya slay!
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Member Since: 4/6/2011
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do what I do, find one friend and just stick with them the entire time and ignore everyone else 
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Ya. I take medication for it, so that helps.
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Member Since: 6/28/2010
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I've struggled with anxiety since high school, I'm a junior in college. It gets really bad in the winter months.
My typical methods of dealing with panic attacks or anxiety attacks at night is typically to drink a glass of cold ice water and watch a cartoon type show that is relaxing. Recently I found the water really helps.
During the day typically I'll start texting friends and start a quick conversation and get invested in that to get my mind off of it, or else I'll start reading an interesting article on buzzfeed or something. Also quizzes on buzzfeed helps me.
But overall, exercise at the gym seems to just overall keep my anxiety down and eating healthier and taking a fish oil pill every morning.
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Member Since: 6/12/2010
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I struggle with this all the time, and honestly, 85% of the time I go out and hang and I am worried about beforehand, it turns out good. I (and we all) just get irrationally worried about what MIGHT happen.
One way I like to think of things is: what do I really have to lose? If I go and hang out and there are awkward moments or I come off silly, what is really the worst that could happen? Nothing really. In a lot of social situations, there isn't much to lose and people aren't analyzing your every word and body language, they are worried about them first.
Try finding one or two people you are just base level comfortable with, and talk. Bond. I have realized that I don't need and will not immediately make a bunch of random acquaintances. They will come slowly from a core group of mutual friends.
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Member Since: 6/28/2010
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Also absolutely don't drink alcohol or do drugs, they make it worse for me
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Member Since: 8/31/2013
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Well i have a lot of anxiety problems, im going to a psychologist to keep them in control and the things she tell me everytime is that if you dont go to the places they invite, or if you stop talking to people because that give you anxiety, then it will be worse with the time, so you have to stay calm , and tell to yourself that everything will be OK, what could happen to you there more than maybe being just there not talking, at least you will be with your friends, if they talk to you then fine, but at least show up there 
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Member Since: 9/15/2012
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I feel very anxious sometimes (I was diagnosed with anxiety before I was even in elementary school so I wouldn't exactly say I'm really diagnosed with anxiety). Sports made me super, super anxious which is why I stopped doing them. I honestly have no way of dealing with it, I just try to wait it out and let it pass. When possible, like with sports teams, I just cut the cause out and try to disregard any snarky comments I get about it.
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Yes. Am taking zoloft for it, and starting next week cognitive therapy.
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Member Since: 8/31/2013
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Originally posted by HabbGaga
When you arrive at social events, how do you handle the nerves, or are they not there, because you've tricked your mind, because I don't really want to come off as a complete train wreck of nerves?
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i think one thing you can do to calm yourself is breath, and if you see/feel that you are being too nervous then go to the bathroom or to the kitchen and take a glass of water or something to calm your nervs
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Member Since: 1/1/2014
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Quote:
Originally posted by HabbGaga
When you arrive at social events, how do you handle the nerves, or are they not there, because you've tricked your mind, because I don't really want to come off as a complete train wreck of nerves?
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u know what? thats the tricky part. I have to meditate like a good half hour before meeting friends just telling my mind things like "oh this will be fun, your not nervous your not nervous, your good, you miss ur friends, u love the, cant wait , yay have fun yay! dont be nervous" over and over and even then sometimes i start thinking omg my lips r twitching, omg my neck is stiff cuz im so nervous, omg im mooving awkwardly omg im sweating too much omg they know im nervous and weird. but if u keep thinking bout it you wil start looking weird and ppl will know. so what i do is before tht happens through out theentire night i just tell my self like "ur doing good, calm your butterflies its ok" and as soon as i start critisizing myself on if my neck is stiff or im looking awkward lol i just halt and thik of somethingelse or blurt out a random topic and talk about it with my frien to distract my mind. if you too quite u will over think so be engaging with your friends the entire time!
actually because i talk to much hen i meet friends they take it as me being the life of the party and being fun when in reality its just me trying not to be left alone with my thoughts making me nervous
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Member Since: 4/6/2011
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Originally posted by HabbGaga
I could do that, to my best friend, but I don't want to seem clingy, and I want them to be able to enjoy themselves, because even though I've shut myself out of these social events, my best friend hasn't, and he has gone on to become fairly social with them, and is able to feel comfortable around them, but I'm just not at that point.
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sorry sis you cant have everything. I was just giving you advice on handling this specific situation.
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Member Since: 11/4/2006
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Do you worry if you hang with them, they'll ask all types of questions that you want to avoid and would not know how to respond? because I do that.
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Member Since: 8/31/2013
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Originally posted by HabbGaga
I agree, I also fear there being an awkward silence though..
Can I ask when you speak to your psychologist (I don't know if this applies to you) but do they know you're gay, are you openly gay to everyone, or just psychologist? (you may not even be gay)
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I'm not gay but with the phychologist you talk about all of those things.
PD: i'm taking Bach Flowers
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Member Since: 1/4/2014
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You have a friend... so clearly you have some redeeming qualities that at least one person likes. So just be yourself...and don't worry about what others think. Most people don't care as much as you think they do. 
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Member Since: 3/6/2014
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Yes  I'm really excessively shy and when I go to parties where there are people I don't know I start getting really nervous and start panicking. A few weeks ago I was at a Christmas party and I was fine for the first few hours but all of a sudden my heart started beating really fast and I had to go into the bathroom because I thought I was gonna be sick (I only had one drink so it wasn't because I was drunk). Thats happened to me a couple different times and I've found that drinking alcohol or doing weed to try to calm myself down just makes it worse
I'm completely fine if its just me and my friends but lately my friends have started inviting me to parties, and because I know there will people there that I don't know I decline their invitations, so now most of my friends have stopped talking to me because they think I'm "anti-social and boring" 
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