May I please get some advice on my current relationship..
So i met a guy back in february off of grindr (not proud) and everything went fine, he showed so much interest in me and everything, told me how much he liked me etc. During feb/march i went to his house on 3 separate occasions, and we hung out talked and i only gave him oral sex. the last time i saw him he wanted to have anal sex but i refused.
okay anyways so for almost 3 weeks now he has been acting weird, he just randomly stopped calling me at night like he used to every night. the texting was minimal too. he works all day, 6-7 days a week. he finally called me after a week of not calling and his excuse was that he was tired, thought i didnt care to talk etc.. i let it go thinking it was a one time mistake of his.
the no calling continued, and now he hasnt texted me since saturday. i REALLY like this guy, he is 29 and 18. first guy ive ever been with. i love everything about him and our times together. why is he acting like this i dont know why, i wonder if he will ever speak to me again. i want to see him badly.
Why are you acting all like it's only HIS obligation to contact you? Have you ever been the one to message, call etc.?
the entire past 2 weeks ive been the one texting him first and calling him (with no answer).. most of the time. only a few times has he texted me first, when in the beggining he always used to text first and call at night automatically. saturday i texted him first, told him to call me that night, and he never did.
Not to be mean, but if you met him via grindr I dont think it was a real relationship. So you dont have cant really claim him or be surprised he lost interest.
If he was on grindr he was most likely talking to other guys while you two were talking.
Not to be mean, but if you met him via grindr I dont think it was a real relationship. So you dont have cant really claim him or be surprised he lost interest.
If he was on grindr he was most likely talking to other guys while you two were talking.
he acted like things were different, he told me that he just found out about grindr and that i was the only one he talked to on there cause he only wanted me. last time we hung out he was talking to me about if i wanted to move in with him in the future. and he asked me if i told my friends about our relationship.
Sis, leave that crap. I've been in the same situation, he only wants your cooch.
It may hurt at first, but you a strong black woman and you don't need no man!
Believe me, it's better to leave the situation now than to feel completely used after he gets what he wants.
thank u, if this is really the end of us together im glad i saved my virgnity for a long term committed boyfriend. im so confused he seemed like he really cared about me, but i wont sit around all day waiting for him to txt and call.. he works way too much for us to have a real relationship
thank u, if this is really the end of us together im glad i saved my virgnity for a long term committed boyfriend. im so confused he seemed like he really cared about me, but i wont sit around all day waiting for him to txt and call.. he works way too much for us to have a real relationship
The problem is not that he works too much. The problem is that men that age who use dating apps or sites only want easy sex. He's acting like he's commited to you because he wants anal sex. I don't need to know anything else to know that. You turned it down, he changed sis. Always remember that.
If you can get away while your heart is still in one piece, then leave.
Youre 18 and he is 29. He knew you were naive and tried to take advantage of you. The easiest thing to do is just delete his number and texts and block his ass on Grindr. Poor thing will probably catch the clap soon enough as it is.
The problem is not that he works too much. The problem is that men that age who use dating apps or sites only want easy sex. He's acting like he's commited to you because he wants anal sex. I don't need to know anything else to know that. You turned it down, he changed sis. Always remember that.
If you can get away while your heart is still in one piece, then leave.
maybe that is the case and this will be a lesson learned. last week he told me to come over on two separate nights but i didnt want to, maybe he was still gonna try it.. and thats what i was thinking, its better to be dissapointed earlier on than be heartbroken when things get more deep and real.
i feel like people think im stupid for basically being in love with a guy that ive known for less than two months, but he is everything i wanted
Youre 18 and he is 29. He knew you were naive and tried to take advantage of you. The easiest thing to do is just delete his number and texts and block his ass on Grindr. Poor thing will probably catch the clap soon enough as it is.
we both deleted grindr he wanted me to and he did too, thats why i thought he was serious. and even if he just dissapears on me i still have respect for him, he was always nice to me
maybe that is the case and this will be a lesson learned. last week he told me to come over on two separate nights but i didnt want to, maybe he was still gonna try it.. and thats what i was thinking, its better to be dissapointed earlier on than be heartbroken when things get more deep and real.
i feel like people think im stupid for basically being in love with a guy that ive known for less than two months, but he is everything i wanted
Your last sentence says everything. He saw that "weakness" in you and took advantage, and as it seems, he's still trying it.
ugh I feel you sis. same thing happened to me. most likely he isn't interested anymore. I say move on to the next one. its gonna hurt though. I felt like **** for weeks
