Sis I'm referring to "gay" men not bisexual and I know a couple of them in real life. My friend admits that he's gay but he still pretends to be straight in public and dates a girl because of his conservative family. My uncle came out two years ago (saying that he's always been 100% gay) and divorced his wife even though they had two kids. I just don't understand why some gays would decide to put themselves into such a difficult (and dumb) commitment
Sis I'm referring to "gay" men not bisexual and I know a couple of them in real life. My friend admits that he's gay but he still pretends to be straight in public and dates a girl because of his conservative family. My uncle came out two years ago (saying that he's always been 100% gay) and divorced his wife even though they had two kids. I just don't understand why some gays would decide to put themselves into such a difficult (and dumb) commitment
Oh, those kinds of people.. I feel sorry for them tbh.
I mostly just feel bad for them. Living with all that self-loathing in a relationship founded upon denial has got to be pretty miserable.
I mean I also feel bad for any spouse or child who has to deal with the fallout from that and it's hardly fair to them either, but still. It's just sad for everyone involved.
I feel bad for them tbh, if they feel like coming out would be so bad that they HAVE to be "straight". I could understand why some people would do that
If the girl he is "dating" is in on it, I guess that's their call but I wouldn't do it. If they go along with a fake marriage, they're idiots.
If the guy is actively taking advantage of her like this without the girl's knowledge, I do think it's wrong. Especially a marriage. I can understand fear, and I can understand the reasons, but it's such a betrayal of trust/so much taking advantage. And we do live in a day and age, at least in the U.S., where there are other options than this. It's not like they NEED TO or they'll die or something here.
I don't judge them, family and community pressures can be some of the hardest things to have to face. Infact i would say they are incredibly brave as they live a life pretending to be the ideal male to keep those around them happy at the expense of his own happiness.
If they are doing it to appease family and friends, they get no sympathy from me. You shouldn't want the love and respect of people who wouldn't love and respect who you really are.