Advise on how to help a friend cope with HIV+ results!
My friend who has been a friend since my freshman yr of college has just found out that their HIV+. I won't reveal the story because I love them and I'm not that type of person to spread ppl's business. Not to mention, I love him like family so I can't put him out there like that! Well, they are down and I keep trying to help them get better - but I can't seem to get them to realize that this isn't a death threat. I've tried EVERYTHING and they don't seem to respond well. I'm coming to u guys because its getting worse and he is now considering suicide. Please give me some advice on how I should help him. I'm clueless right now...
That's terrible. Just try to support them as best you can, and try to get them to talk to someone, like a professional or a support group or something. Make sure their friends and family are always standing by them.
That's terrible. Just try to support them as best you can, and try to get them to talk to someone, like a professional or a support group or something. Make sure their friends and family are always standing by them.
Well I'm actually all he has. He doesn't keep in touch with his foster family and his dad is incarcerated. So he basically doesn't have anybody to turn to but me. I'm doing research on how to help him deal because he's already stop going to the psychologist because he didn't want her judging him. I just don't know what to do...
Yikes. I don't really have any experience in the matter, but do you know anybody else with HIV? A lot of the time, talking to somebody going through or who went through the same thing can be really therapeutic.
Yikes. I don't really have any experience in the matter, but do you know anybody else with HIV? A lot of the time, talking to somebody going through or who went through the same thing can be really therapeutic.
No I don't but I'm going to do some research and see if one of my old old friends may have encountered it. I'm not gonna give up on helping him - but I just don't know how to help him u know
He needs to understand he's not gonna die from it. Current HIV meds are highly sophisticated (and more are on the way) so he will most likely live a long, healthy, happy life. Make him see that.
Well I'm actually all he has. He doesn't keep in touch with his foster family and his dad is incarcerated. So he basically doesn't have anybody to turn to but me. I'm doing research on how to help him deal because he's already stop going to the psychologist because he didn't want her judging him. I just don't know what to do...
This is unacceptable. He either needs to talk to a professional or start going to some HIV+ support groups immediately. He's trying to deny himself the help he needs, and you as a friend have a responsibility to get him and encourage him towards those resources.
This is unacceptable. He either needs to talk to a professional or start going to some HIV+ support groups immediately. He's trying to deny himself the help he needs, and you as a friend have a responsibility to get him and encourage him towards those resources.
Tell him that he needs to talk to a doctor and find out his options. There is really only so much a friend can know about HIV, but we can help our friends emotionally. Just tell him how he will not die and how this whole thing can be overcomed by him just seeking professional help
My best friend has HIV and has lived with it for over 2 years. Honestly, he's never been healthier or looked better. The days when it was a death sentence are long gone and with the right medication and regular checks you can live a full active life still. He's fitter than ever..and he was well fit before.
In fact it can be an incentive to improve your health and outlook on life completely. But you need the right positive mindset. Your friend seems to be still in a doom and gloom mode. Hopefully he'll snap out of it at some point and see it as a challenge. If he's depressed he will need counselling and maybe medication to bring him up a bit. Well he'll need these things regardless because living with HIV requires constant maintenance. But it can be controlled with a simple routine.
With my friend we dont even discuss it anymore and its like something lurking in the distant background. I think he's turned a negative into a positive. But you have to be up for the fight.
Get him as much info as possible from the library or medical health places. You have to drum into him that he can still live a full happy life just like before. A better life even. Also, just try cheer him up and brighten his mood.
My best friend has HIV and has lived with it for over 2 years. Honestly, he's never been healthier or looked better. The days when it was a death sentence are long gone and with the right medication and regular checks you can live a full active life still. He's fitter than ever..and he was well fit before.
In fact it can be an incentive to improve your health and outlook on life completely. But you need the right positive mindset. Your friend seems to be still in a doom and gloom mode. Hopefully he'll snap out of it at some point and see it as a challenge. If he's depressed he will need counselling and maybe medication to bring him up a bit. Well he'll need these things regardless because living with HIV requires constant maintenance. But it can be controlled with a simple routine.
With my friend we dont even discuss it anymore and its like something lurking in the distant background. I think he's turned a negative into a positive. But you have to be up for the fight.
Get him as much info as possible from the library or medical health places. You have to drum into him that he can still live a full happy life just like before. A better life even. Also, just try cheer him up and brighten his mood.
But he mustn't ever have unprotected sex.
Good luck.
Thank u so much for your wise words. I'm def gonna apply it so that he doesn't give up. And I rather not talk about his sex life because its really none of your business.
Just try to support them as best you can, and try to get them to talk to someone, like a professional or a support group or something. Make sure their friends and family are always standing by them.
