Many of my gay friends i know ended up being married to a girl. Having kids and living what others so called "normal life". When i asked them about the decision, they said that Life is a choice, they choose to marry a girl and having kids even tho they know they are gay. They also say that what we needed is not always what we wanted. We want to be with a guy, but society, religion speaks otherwise.

I don't think it's a choice.
You don't wake up in the morning and decide " oh, by now Imma be gay ! "
I actually think it's something you can't help.

No, being GAY is not a choice.

In that case the question would be "Is being straight a choice?", and it's a No to both.

then what they're saying is that being gay isn't a choice; the choice they made is to live their lives as a heterosexual even though they know they're homosexual. that says to me that being gay isn't a choice as it's something they're living with and trying to repress in order to have a life they consider normal

no i dont believe homosexuality is a choice. i didnt choose to be gay

Yes because we all chose to be mistreated, bullied and rejected from the society

But even tho id we are interested in guys sexually, we still can marry the girls right? marriage is not only based on sex.

Do you choose to be straight? No, it happened naturally. If being gay is a choice, than so is being straight.

You don't wake up one day and decide to be gay, like you decide to wear a blue or red shirt.

Suppressing your feelings =/= gay being a choice. Your gay friends who are married to girls are still gay and simply suppressed their true feelings in exchange for an easier life. And in no way, shape or form am I judging them for that. I don't know their struggle and I don't know what they've been through.

As for being gay a choice, I don't know nor do I care. What happens if we do say being gay is a choice? Does that then make it right to discriminate and cause hardship for gays? (I'm speaking in general, not attacking you OP ) I know I didn't choose to be gay and I know of someone who claims to have chosen to be gay (that lesbian girl from Sex and the City did an interview how she choose to be gay). To me, it doesn't matter.

All I know is that I will NEVER "stop" being gay because men are too hot. I STAN for men. The end. *skips off into the sunset even though the sun is just now coming up*

I Know. but many of my friends who were straight they became gay after they having lots of gay friends. So there was a poor boy materially and he choose to be a male escort or something like that, after few years he choose to be gay.

I'm really confused, in my country, gay is still believed as a desease that can affect other people. If you be friend with gay, then you'll bw one of them

This is a mess. They are gay - for the same reasons everyone has quoted you on. And they know it's not by choice.

I don't believe it's by choice and I don't believe being gay means you were born this way either. I have my own theories on that but I won't get into it.

no it's not a choice. And people who think it is wouldn't have ANY idea if it is or not simply because they are not gay... If I up and decided I didn't want to be gay and I wanted the life religion/society thinks I should have, I would still have feelings for males. I'll always want to be with a man and that's just how I am.

I don't think people are born gay though. I think we all have genetics in our systems that trigger our sexuality based on how you're raised/what you experience growing up etc.

the two people who chose yes.

this thread

but no it is not a choice. It is just a preference/opinion. For example, what is your favorite color? Well, you can't help that its your favorite color, it just is - its the one you like the most. Same goes for gay people - they just like men more. Simples

Science supports that last paragraph you said aswell.

If you all do some research about it (on Google or whatever), most scientists come to the conclusion that sexual orientation is a combination of genetics and life experiences as a young child.

I think it's disgusting and pathetic of gay men to do that. That is cheating those women of real love. The greatest thing in this world is to be with someone you care about intimately, romantically, sexually, physically, mentally and emotionally... Everyone deserves to experience that genuinely not because your significant other needs you to complete his "normal life."

yes being a gay is a choice! damn homosexuals!

NO !