To be gay and not be "gay" - if you get me...

CampKuchiKaiai

WARNING!!! Gay man about to have a moan...

I'm really starting to get cheesed off with the gay scene in my local area... if you think girls can be bitchy, you should meet the camp gay men I find myself dealing with on a regular basis! I guess I'm a good target for the acid queens, being that I'm not stick thin and I can't always be bothered to do my hair. I don't mince, I forget to shave, I don't mind eating in front of people and I burp! These things are all far too offensive to the sticky lot, but all I know is that I'm more happy having some shape, rather than having legs that are the same diameter from top the bottom with a flat arse! Also, I'll be asking the DJ to play something like a LeToya song during the R'n'B section, but oh no, it's not a known Beyoncé or Pussycat Dolls track so they can't play it... why?... 'cause the plastics will flee the dancefloor leaving a mere one or two individuals, 'cause they can't be seen dancing to something the don't know... it might damage their image! I managed to convince the DJ to play "Maneater" by Nelly Furtado two months ago, but of course, the tide went out and I was left with the sudden ability to sweep the floor, but then it went to #1 later on and now they love shaking their fatless behinds to Timbaland's beat! I think a song like "All Eyes On Me" by LeToya would go great in set with "Buttons" by Pussycat Dolls, 'cause they both have a similar vibe and the rappers say "what it do" in them about a million times, but oh well, LeToya's still unknown over here apart from the odd person who knows her as an ex-Destiny's Child girl. The same can be said of Cassie who's had her song "Me & You" being worn out in London since late last year, but since it's finally being released as a single on CD next week in the UK, they've only just started to dare play it in my local Essex clubs... one DJ introduced it as a "brand new song" last week and I nearly asked him to pick a window, 'cause I gave him a CD with that song on it ages ago. The only brand new songs they'll take a chance on are ones by Kylie, Madonna, Girls Aloud and so on... they won't even play Beyoncé's latest one yet and I know they have it! I'm finding myself going to "str8" places a lot more these days, hanging out with my straight friends and being a bloke... why was I made to be gay? I guess I was lucky to be one of those guys who realised my sexuality didn't have every influence on my personality... I'm even liked by straight guys who usually hate gay men!!! My sexual preference is just that, it's what I like to do when it comes to sex, but many people just don't understand that it's not all of who I am. I was in a really poppy mood when I put my 'Space together, so yeah, it's in me but it's not the whole package, folks...

Oh well, rant over, I should really go to bed!

.:Froggert:.

I am liked by straight guys who hate gay men too. I get along with men a lot especially now that I am in college. i think they like me though so maybe they arent gay.

I just kind of dont give a **** anymore about how I look. I mean I will still shave and wash my face but that is it. And my clothes are just skater stuff that I have always worn.

Ace Reject

I just find it funny, and highly ironic that you're criticzing some **** for living up to stereotypes. I mean, your font?

►Liyoh◄

Being gay rocks!!! it's something different and i feel like i have more stuff to do. Who cares about the looks. And we have bitches everywhere so who cares xD

CampKuchiKaiai

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Originally posted by Ace Reject

I just find it funny, and highly ironic that you're criticzing some **** for living up to stereotypes. I mean, your font?

Open your mind and smell the multicoloured flowers... we're all different, and yes I have many "stereotypical" gay traits in me. I sometimes type in normal black text, sometimes I use chunky colourful text... I do what I like, I like all colours... I have ALL of them, LOL! However, even this is not ALL of me and I'd like to think of myself as a fun person in general, despite my sexuality which is like 0.05% of who I am. I never said I didn't like the stereotypical gays things... I've covered many of them at some point. I chose my dark orange in the main post to catch you lot's attention... it worked, mwahaha

Departure

Being Gay is confusing to me.

Phoenix

Interesting post. Each gay scene across the country is different and they all have their own ups and downs to them. No matter where you go, there are going to be plenty of "plastics" who tend to run things. As a gay man, I'm a bit caught inbetween. I definitely have my gay tendencies that fit into certain stereotypes and I'm not a bit ashamed of them. But at the same time, the gay scene as a whole isn't fitting to me for several reasons. However, I find the good in it and go out and have a great time.

The thing is, you can't expect to change those who have their minds set on whatever they're going to do. All you can do is be yourself and be proud of that. Being able to do that is key, because then the things that go on around you really won't seem to bother you as much. Sure, it'll still be frustrating that they exist. But with that understanding and acceptance of who you are and the things that set you apart from those things you don't like, you don't have to worry about everyone else.

Lastly, get in where you fit in. If you feel comfortable going out to straight clubs, do that. But when you do go out to those gay clubs just try to have fun. Don't worry about changing the scene; just do you. Eventually when people see you're having fun, suddenly whatever drama they're focused on won't seem like much fun and maybe things will start to change on their own. Slowly, but it's possible.

Matthew4815

How is being gay confusing? People that are gay can't help it. They didn't decide to be gay. It's a brain thing, I can't explain it, but there is no controlling it. So why should they hide who they are?

Light Years

Are you criticising gay people because they don't dress like you do or because they don't like the music you like????

Hmmmmmm

Maybe being gay is also 0.05% of their personality and they geniunely like that music and their lifestyle...

Buddhaful

I hate being gay with every ounce of my being.