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ATRL: The Question: Are You Gay?
Member Since: 3/25/2011
Posts: 10,337
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Originally posted by bleuwaffle
It's so much more awkward when one of your mom's friends asks you
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Or randomly tells you: "Just so you know, God doesn't make mistakes and you are accepted just the way you are in this house".
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Member Since: 11/11/2010
Posts: 28,420
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Quote:
Originally posted by Eaten By Lions
Or randomly tells you: "Just so you know, God doesn't make mistakes and you are accepted just the way you are in this house".
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RIGHT?! Or, "You know, there's nothing with being... yourself. You should do what makes you happy and not worry about what people think about... it... and you..." My grandma always tap-dances around the subject with **** like that.
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Member Since: 11/26/2010
Posts: 14,197
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Quote:
Originally posted by Eaten By Lions
Or randomly tells you: "Just so you know, God doesn't make mistakes and you are accepted just the way you are in this house".
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Member Since: 1/13/2010
Posts: 5,334
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Is it really that big of a deal to you guys? If they ask in a friendly way I don't care at all, and if they're being obnoxious I get pissed because they're obnoxious, not because of the question they asked.
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Member Since: 1/3/2010
Posts: 21,098
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Quote:
Originally posted by Eaten By Lions
Or randomly tells you: "Just so you know, God doesn't make mistakes and you are accepted just the way you are in this house".
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I wish my dad would say that to me.
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ATRL Senior Member
Member Since: 6/23/2008
Posts: 14,330
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As a teenager, the "Are you gay?!" question was a source of genuine terror, but at this point it's not something I'm bothered by. For one, most adults tend to have some social tact and it's unlikely that another adult would even pose such a question, but more importantly, my sexual orientation is no longer a such source of embarrassment for me. If someone is ballsy enough to ask me if I'm gay, well, I feel I should be ballsy enough to give them an honest answer.
That said, I do feel a little annoyed/uneasy when someone decides to "out" me for no apparent reason. I don't even mind if someone mentions the fact that I'm gay in the event that a conversation veers in that direction, but I know a number of people who feel the need to work my sexuality into every social setting.
Me: "Yeah, I didn't really know what to wear."
Person: "But Patrick, isn't your kind supposed to be great at planning outfits and that sorta stuff?"
Me: "Umm, yeah... I guess?"
And then the few people who didn't already know that I'm gay because, well, they're not too sure about them homosexuals, exchange uncomfortable glances.
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Member Since: 2/9/2008
Posts: 32,819
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Quote:
Originally posted by Patrick
Me: "Yeah, I didn't really know what to wear."
Person: "But Patrick, isn't your kind supposed to be great at planning outfits and that sorta stuff?"
Me: "Umm, yeah... I guess?"
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No! Having fashion sense makes it HARDER to pick ****. Misery. Especially when most of your clothes aren't stylish (ahem).
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Member Since: 11/5/2009
Posts: 8,096
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Quote:
Originally posted by bleuwaffle
It's so much more awkward when one of your mom's friends asks you
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Luckily for me, I could probably go on my life not coming out. All my friends are asians, and in the asian community, a lot of the guys are feminine. It's kind of normal for guys to be feminine. If you go to China or Korea, a lot of the guys there carry LV handbags and they're straight. So, my parents, or any of my friend's parents, would never ask me because they would never suspect it, even though I'm kinda flamboyant. Just a little
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ATRL Senior Member
Member Since: 6/23/2008
Posts: 14,330
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Quote:
Originally posted by eli's_rhythm
No! Having fashion sense makes it HARDER to pick ****. Misery. Especially when most of your clothes aren't stylish (ahem).
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Exactly! I don't have **** to wear. I hate everything I own.
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Member Since: 3/27/2009
Posts: 30,284
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If you don't play sports, don't have a girlfriend, and aren't hyper-masculine, here, you're going to be asked. And its annoying as ****, to be honest.
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Member Since: 2/11/2008
Posts: 10,964
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Originally posted by Hooligan
If you don't play sports, don't have a girlfriend, and aren't hyper-masculine, here, you're going to be asked. And its annoying as ****, to be honest.
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True story. Then, rumors start and you're ****ed (whether you're indeed gay or you're really straight).
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Member Since: 3/27/2009
Posts: 30,284
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Originally posted by D/X
True story. Then, rumors start and you're ****ed (whether you're indeed gay or you're really straight).
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Im straight but because I'm a lazy bastard and don't like relationships, I'm gay...apparently
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Member Since: 2/11/2008
Posts: 10,964
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Originally posted by Hooligan
Im straight but because I'm a lazy bastard and don't like relationships, I'm gay...apparently
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It's really stupid that people assume that if you're not in a relation you're gay.
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Member Since: 1/3/2010
Posts: 21,098
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Originally posted by D/X
It's really stupid that people assume that if you're not in a relation you're gay.
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Member Since: 8/31/2011
Posts: 18,529
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Originally posted by Hooligan
Im straight but because I'm a lazy bastard and don't like relationships, I'm gay...apparently
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lmao I remember my aunt told me a few years ago "Your 14 u need to get u a girlfriend" its not that easy lol
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Member Since: 3/27/2009
Posts: 30,284
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Originally posted by fortheloveofmusic
lmao I remember my aunt told me a few years ago "Your 14 u need to get u a girlfriend" its not that easy lol
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Thank you. Girls are fickle and picky. I'm all of 5'8 and girls here want 6'1 basketball players, yet I'm gay for them not liking me.
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Member Since: 8/31/2011
Posts: 18,529
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Quote:
Originally posted by Hooligan
Thank you. Girls are fickle and picky. I'm all of 5'8 and girls here want 6'1 basketball players, yet I'm gay for them not liking me.
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Exactly! If u don't have on this kind of name brand clothes or don't look a certain time of way they won't give u the time of day lol. I'm too lazy to be fashion inclined lol
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Member Since: 1/11/2012
Posts: 14,421
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Quote:
Originally posted by BLaCKPoWeR
Yes. I find it quite offensive. They are asking you because they are not sure you are straight. I'm very self-conscious. If somebody calls my heterosexuality into question, I feel like I'm not masculine enough.
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Same here. I'm straight but really loud and I guess flamboyant is a fair word. I was in drama in high school and all my friends were girls... like, on paper, I should be gay, and people noticed. It makes me sad when they ask but I'm never surprised. I just say no and move on. I was always paranoid that people would ask my friends and stuff behind my back, but... idk. If people don't like me because I seem gay then they're not someone I'd want to be friends with anyway.
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Member Since: 12/22/2009
Posts: 23,538
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I've never been asked seriously. I've been asked jokingly with other dudes and chicks. I do the same to them though. Even though it wasn't direct Inside I was insecure becuase well obviously I like dudes.
But guys/girls that dont know they are gay yet should def never be asked! They are still growing to accept. I have a few friends who hated it, when people asked them at a younger age. Now they don't really give a crap!
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Member Since: 6/17/2011
Posts: 1,341
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In my country if someone is gay, They're likely to be in prison for at least 14 years. If i ever told my dad i was Bi, He'd kill me and kill himself. Only 3 people know i'm bi.
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