'Sex & the city' star Cynthia Nixon told The New York Times that she chooses to be a lesbian which angered the gay community.

"I gave a speech recently, an empowerment speech to a gay audience, and it included the line ‘I’ve been straight and I’ve been gay, and gay is better.’ And they tried to get me to change it, because they said it implies that homosexuality can be a choice. And for me, it is a choice. I understand that for many people it’s not, but for me it’s a choice, and you don’t get to define my gayness for me. A certain section of our community is very concerned that it not be seen as a choice, because if it’s a choice, then we could opt out. I say it doesn’t matter if we flew here or we swam here, it matters that we are here and we are one group and let us stop trying to make a litmus test for who is considered gay and who is not.

Why can’t it be a choice? Why is that any less legitimate? It seems we’re just ceding this point to bigots who are demanding it, and I don’t think that they should define the terms of the debate. I also feel like people think I was walking around in a cloud and didn’t realize I was gay, which I find really offensive. I find it offensive to me, but I also find it offensive to all the men I’ve been out with."

KS: Were you a lesbian in a heterosexual relationship? Or are you now a heterosexual in a lesbian relationship? That quote seemed like you were fudging a bit.

Cynthia: It’s so not fudging. It’s so not. I think for gay people who feel 100 percent gay, it doesn’t make any sense. And for straight people who feel 100 percent straight, it doesn’t make any sense. I don’t pull out the “bisexual” word because nobody likes the bisexuals. Everybody likes to dump on the bisexuals.

KS: But it is the “B” in LGBT.

Cynthia: I know. But we get no respect.

KS: You just said “we,” so you must self-identify as one.

Cynthia: I just don’t like to pull out that word. But I do completely feel that when I was in relationships with men, I was in love and in lust with those men. And then I met Christine and I fell in love and lust with her. I am completely the same person and I was not walking around in some kind of fog. I just responded to the people in front of me the way I truly felt.



Her logic seems cloudy, so she doesn't label herself as bi-sexual because she feels they get no respect?

Originally posted by iHeartRihanna OMG! She is lesbian? Didn't know!

Originally posted by shenzi Well, female sexuality is a lot more... fluid than male sexuality. I thought everyone knew this.

CYNTHIA - NO, STUPID!



You do not get to set the gay rights movement back 20 years like this

Originally posted by shenzi Well, female sexuality is a lot more... fluid than male sexuality. I thought everyone knew this.

Originally posted by Wilkes Her partner.

Originally posted by EOMM92 IKR Well, i don't know anything about lesbians but indeed they're really complex and hard to understand, so if she thinks it's an option for her, i'm fine with it, just back off sis. and don't scream it to the media, we don't need this kind of "gay" people in the spotlight. I wish there were more Ricky Martins in the public eye

Originally posted by Neptune I'll never understand gay people who go for somebody who looks exactly like the sex they aren't attracted too. I mean, that looks like Cynthia and a 50 year old Ron Weasley

Originally posted by Haus ...yes, everyone chooses to be a part of one of the most misunderstood and hated groups of people on the planet.