I Never Really Had to Deal With Coming Out the closet, And When i get gay bashed i love all of attention... I Think that i was supposed to be born straight..because this gay life stuff doesn't Effect me..

You could send it to Davey Wavey...he has a popular YouTube channel (http://www.youtube.com/wickydkewl) and blog (http://www.breaktheillusion.com), which focuses heavily on gay issues, and tries to spread positivity and love (sounds kinda lame, but some of his stuff is good). His viewers are largely gays too, so this would be a good medium to spread the word to the gay "community"

Meh. I understand what this is trying to show. But it's pointless, to be honest.

A good read, and very thought provoking. I have so many thoughts running through my mind I don't quite no where to begin. I do agree with most of what you said, as it is unfortunately true, but I also think a lot of the points you made weren't necessarily specific to the gay "community".

The superficiality, xenophobia, and discrimination you spoke about are not confined solely within the realms of homosexuality. However, I will say that these qualities don't seem to carry the same stigma that they do in the heterosexual world, as political correctness is often a foreign concept, allowing for shallow people to be "out" and proud about their preconceptions, stereotypes, judgements, and general disdain for those they regard as "others", whether its due to race, weight, or age.

Promiscuity, while more common in the gay community right now, won't remain that way for long. The only reason this discrepancy is so pronounced is that women are still reeling from centuries of an oppressive philosophy that determined they "act like a lady" (i.e not sleep around, at all). Times are changing and in the next few decades there won't be much of a difference imo. And in fact most of the difference now is not regarding actual actions but in how open people are about those actions. Gay people are notoriously open lol.

As far as love and relationships are concerned, I think the issue is extremely complex, having do to with the very reality of being gay and the very notion of what the "gay community" is or isn't. Simply put, we're at an extreme disadvantage in this category. Unlike heterosexuals, we don't posses the option of pursuing all who we find attractive, or more importantly those that we feel we've made a genuine connection with due to unknown variables. Are they gay? If not, will they be offended if I proclaim my interest in them? Will they be so offended to harm me or make a scene? In light of these road blocks most gay people chose to simply migrate elsewhere, reasoning that the guy or girl "is likely straight". Opportunities lost and potentials unexploited.

In steps the gay "community", the fabled place where homos of all varieties exist in eternal bliss and sheltered happiness. Ha. The elephant in the room is that there is no single "gay community", if one at all. Most of what people deem as such is simply gay club culture, where venues are relegated to sweaty nightclubs or rowdy bars. In the context of searching for love, this is where much of the GLBT community seeks it. Needless to say, it often last about as long as Heterosexual relationships forged under similar conditions. The issue isn't that gay people don't want or can't maintain relationships, rather its more difficult for us to find them, and so we often settle for something inherently unsustainable.

But I do agree with a lot of what you wrote, specifically regarding ageism and pronounced "preferences". And i also I agree with the your questioning of whether or not such a community exist. IMO, the only community aspects are those that truly link us, namely being gay and the fight for equality. And like Eli said, the "community" in the coming decades will likely no longer exist, not because we don't need it, but because equality will have been won, thus breaking barriers and allowing for discrimination to gradually subside. When this happens our true colors will be more readily apparent, and we might then have the opportunity to pursue relationships outside of gay specific venues, leading to more abundant and more authentic encounters with one another. Optimism, bravery, and time will change things.

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To be honest, the only time right now that the gay community was done stuff together is when both the masculine and the feminine guys bullied me on the internet. That's the main issue I have with the gay community, because they NEVER opened the doors for me to be me and to shine and all they did was judge me based on my appearance. I know as a 15 year old, I looked like crap, I'll admit that.

I've accomplished so much since I left that site...creating my own t-shirts, being in Choir, going to more parties, being on Homecoming Court, being nice to almost everyone out there. A lot of things. 99.9% of the straight community has been absolutely loving to me and also, the lesbian girls have treated me a lot better than gay and bi guys. There is also this really popular gay guy in my valley that thinks I'm cool.

What I'm trying to say is that if the gay community would just open their minds to all different types of people, they could realize that there are so many people in this world that are worth a million bucks. If those gay guys had given me the chance, they probably could have been friends with me. Nearly everyone that has a chance to have a conversation with me has grown to like me as a person, and these people never gave me a chance to impact them.

I'm probably the only person on this site that feels this way about the gay community, but everyone that has read my blogs knows that all the bullying hurt me back then, but has made me stronger now.

All I want is for the community to just open the doors to ALL the gay men and not shun them based on their appearance.

I don't have time right now to answer to everyone but I have read your comments and some of you have very interesting view. I'll get back to you later!