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Originally posted by MrPeanut
It's true. I don't believe in making blanket rules for everyone, there are people who can marry that young and end up successful in it, but it's not something I could ever do, personally.
Some people say don't get married before you're 30. Like I said, I don't believe in enforcing hard and fast rules for everyone (there are always exceptions -- my own sister got married when she was 20 and at least appears to be happy six years later), but the statistics for success rate seem to bear out the prudence of that advice.
Both people really need to know who they are as people and what their needs/goals really are before they even consider making such a huge commitment, and I think you might be surprised at how much you can change even as an "adult" throughout your 20s.
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Of course not, I'd not force my ideals on anyone - I just personally believe that one should know their significant other thoroughly before marrying. My b/f and I are so glad we waited (we were going to marry within the 2 years of dating), but we got more time, saw more of our flaws (even fought a LOT over it) and then finally settled into our current relationship. If we'd been married, we'd have seen the flaws and killed each other. Thankfully, we've moved past it.
We're also in our 30s and don't react the way I would have if I was 21 or so (and man, I did stupid things at 21). That's just my rationale for not marrying so early. Again, it's only me.
I have no problem if people find love at an early age, don't get me wrong, but I could never see myself finding it early. 