Very random, but is there anyone else here who unintentionally leads people on, simply by being "too nice", or "too friendly" to them? And then by the time you become aware of what you've done, that person already has it established in their minds that there's some sort of mutual love connection? Usher in the akward (for you) compliments, late night text's, and phone calls.



How do you remedy situations like these without hurting feelings?

I tend to flirt a lot... so I end up in this situation often.

I usually tend to ignore it. But if it becomes persistent, then I tell them the truth but I try to be as nice as possible.

omg this has happened to me before

it didn't end well the first few times, but now when that happens i just drop hints that i have feelings for (non-existent) other people . it saves them from feeling bad because they don't end up telling me straight up that they like me, and therefore i don't have to make them feel bad and they stop acting like that around me

Great idea.

The happens with me and girls all the time. I'm really timid, quiet, and observant most of the time and I guess that makes them gravitate towards me because they want to know why I'm so quiet. Anyway, that exact thing happened with me and a girl I met over the summer not too long ago.

I opened to her, we got more comfortable around one another, and she got too comfortable.

"You can have some of mine. You don't have any germs. We're all related one way or another." I knew where things were headed then, but I didn't want to be rude and put an end to our friendship right then and there. As we hung out more, she became more touchy feely. Girl, what the **** are you doing?

Earlier last month on FB she asked me if I wanted to hang out. I said sure, when and where? Then she said, "No, let me clarify. I LIKE you. I want to go out on a date." She got no reply after that and I stopped seeing her. I still see her around campus and say hi, but no way are we hanging out. I'm not about to play the straight game again and that's why I tend to avoid females around my age. No, I'm not doing it bitch. Not at 21. No, ma'am, I'm not playing the straight game anymore. It's kind of my fault, because I'm sure if I wasn't so damn reserved they wouldn't want to be bothered with me. I'm only out to people I'm close to, so yeah it is my fault. But bitch, you know when someone doesn't want that kind of relationship with you.

Why won't the guys bark up my tree?

YAAASSSSS!!!!

I started doing that when I was about 13.

"Nope, I'm spoken for. My girlfriend lives in such & such. She sure does."

That's how I found out my best guy friend was gay. I was so young and naive. If it were today I would've immediately picked up on his sexual orientation, but at the time I was only 16 and homosexuality wasn't has prominent as it is today. Anyway, we used to go everywhere together, cuddled together, had the same interests and tastes, and could talk about virtually anything. When you have that type of bond with a person and you're attracted to them and think they're attracted to you, what are you supposed to think?

Anyway, I tend to flirt a lot, to the point where I don't even realize that I'm doing it. This one particular time it had gotten to the point where the guy said "Damn I love you" and my initial response was "OHHH" and he was like "Oh, let me know if I'm trying to move too fast". I was like "We're just friends. I'm not really looking to be in a relationship right now. I just got out of a really bad one". He was understanding and said he'll wait for when I'm ready and to this day his ass is still waiting because I look at him as more of a brother.

Everyone has platonic friends though and you are going to come across those who don't take it easily and want more.

I smile a lot and I constantly have an erection. People get the wrong idea.

I've done it before.

Yes, this one time I hooked up with a guy and I was reaaaaaaaaaallly drunk and so in the middle of it apparently (not that I remember it) I started crying and cussing out my ex-boyfriend who I wasn't over yet at the time. The guy I was hooking up with that night then proceeded to text me a lot over the coming weeks because apparently he took that as a sign of me being into him. Talk about unintentionally leading someone on.

I always do it so i don't care.

As far as anyone leading me on,i never care enough for someone to do so.

I accidentally flirt with girls all the time. It's a problem.

You just have to be honest and upfront once you find out the feelings are on two different levels.

I'm such a flirty person and at the same time really like romantic the ***gs get in love after the 1st kiss

I just stop talking to them or responding their messages/texts

I'll just tell them "I don't like you like that." and move on. I'd personally much rather someone say to me their not interested, then just completely ignore me. That's so jr. high.

Poor Kier.

Poor ha

It happens a lot and even more when you're always nice and kind with the ppl they think you like them :-/, that's why I always try to let things clear so they won't put their hopes up.

Weird, you described yourself in the same way my co-workers (and other detached people I'm around a lot) would describe me. I'm off in my own land lol...