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Discussion: Could you date someone who's never planning to come out?
Member Since: 12/18/2010
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Originally posted by featheralley
Outing someone who's not ready... I don't get why anyone would want to do that. I mean, all of you guys came out at one point and were not ready so you understand what they're going through, so if this person is not planning to come out, why would you guys out him?  (even if it's a joke/threatening him/etc). It's a scary thing.
Imagine finding your soulmate, you get upset that he's never planning to come out, and you out him to his parents, and you find out it's illegal in his culture (Arabia, Iran, etc) to be gay and he could receive the death penalty, then you would feel like ****. (Not attacking anyone btw) |
Question is would anybody do that? It's just simply horrible.
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Member Since: 11/5/2009
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Originally posted by winroute
Question is would anybody do that? It's just simply horrible.
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Well, it looks like some people has thought about it. 
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Originally posted by TheOnlyOne
Probably.
I could threaten to out him every time he didn't do what I want.
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Originally posted by skyler_
i tired that, the guy who I was with said if I had did that he would beat the living hell out of me  |
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Member Since: 10/4/2010
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Originally posted by JonnyϟLightning
I dated a guy while I was closeted and the tea was spilled so I denied that i went out with him and the poor kid no one believed him not even his friends. Everyone called him a liar and stuff.  |
You are fuuuuuucked up
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Member Since: 4/6/2011
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Originally posted by ****y On Venus
I've been there before, sis.
You want to scream to the HEAVENS how much you love and care for this man but you can't.
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exactly sis! we looked at each other and i know he felt the same way but we were both with groups of friends. of course they didnt know. ugh....
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Member Since: 12/28/2010
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Originally posted by featheralley
Sorry, but I do not choose to be friends with people according to their sexuality. I have classmates that are gay, co-workers that are gay, but am I friends with them? No.
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are you serious??...........a mess
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Member Since: 6/25/2011
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Originally posted by skyler_
are you serious??...........a mess
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There's nothing wrong with not having gay friends. It took me like 8 months to finally make friends with an out gay person again once I started uni. It just happens sometimes.
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Member Since: 11/5/2009
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Originally posted by skyler_
are you serious??...........a mess
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I don't get why it's so important for you to find friends based on their sexuality. I don't have any friends that are gay, and I wouldn't care if they were either. Black, white, straight, gay, does it matter? 
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Originally posted by ****y On Venus
So, he's going to completely sever ties with his family without at least giving them a chance to try and accept him?
Granted, his parents may not agree, but with some parents it takes time to accept having a gay/bi-sexual child. For him to just cut his family off without giving them a chance seems really unfair.
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They had a very long phone call and his parents basically said if he was to never tell them, because they were never going to accept it and they didn't want him to go through that.
Kinda ****ed up so he's just ending it now.
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Member Since: 12/28/2010
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Originally posted by featheralley
I don't get why it's so important for you to find friends based on their sexuality. I don't have any friends that are gay, and I wouldn't care if they were either. Black, white, straight, gay, does it matter? |
well i guess that how people do, my bad
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Member Since: 5/17/2010
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Originally posted by uclaboi2003
exactly sis! we looked at each other and i know he felt the same way but we were both with groups of friends. of course they didnt know. ugh....
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But it makes for INCREDIBLE sex, when you both finally get alone and you get to release all that suppressed passion that has been eating you up inside.
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Member Since: 9/18/2010
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Originally posted by TheOnlyOne
Probably.
I could threaten to out him every time he didn't do what I want.
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Originally posted by JonnyϟLightning
I dated a guy while I was closeted and the tea was spilled so I denied that i went out with him and the poor kid no one believed him not even his friends. Everyone called him a liar and stuff. |
Bitches
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Member Since: 9/20/2009
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Well my boyfriend & I don't do PDA but it's very obvious we're together.
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Member Since: 11/5/2009
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Originally posted by uclaboi2003
i did once and ill never forget one time when i saw him in public and i wanted to hug and kiss him so bad but we just shook hands instead. i felt sooo bad.
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That's really sad
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Member Since: 12/18/2010
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Originally posted by featheralley
I don't get why it's so important for you to find friends based on their sexuality. I don't have any friends that are gay, and I wouldn't care if they were either. Black, white, straight, gay, does it matter? |
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But I prefer white over black 
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Member Since: 5/17/2010
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Originally posted by Jameson Teqkilla
They had a very long phone call and his parents basically said if he was to never tell them, because they were never going to accept it and they didn't want him to go through that.
Kinda ****ed up so he's just ending it now.
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I just can't imagine having to say goodbye to your family. I mean...I don't like most of my ratchet ass family members but still...
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Member Since: 11/5/2009
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Originally posted by winroute
+1
But I prefer white over black |
When you're having sex, it won't matter 
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Member Since: 12/18/2010
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Originally posted by ****y On Venus
I just can't imagine having to say goodbye to your family. I mean...I don't like most of my ratchet ass family members but still...
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IKR? The dilema 
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Member Since: 12/18/2010
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Originally posted by featheralley
When you're having sex, it won't matter |
I prefer black over white just for sex.
Jk  It's still white though. I don't know I'm not really into black.
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Member Since: 11/5/2009
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Originally posted by Jameson Teqkilla
They had a very long phone call and his parents basically said if he was to never tell them, because they were never going to accept it and they didn't want him to go through that.
Kinda ****ed up so he's just ending it now.
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Pretty much me here, and the reason why I said I would never come out. Like I said before, there are people who are hard core religious, in some countries you could receive the death penalty for being gay, but for my situation, I have the old fashion family and my parents has said it loud and clear before that if I was gay to "get out of the house" because there's "no gays in the family".
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Member Since: 8/19/2011
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If I thought he was 'the one', possibly. But I would hope that 'the one' for me would be confident enough to have this be a non-issue.
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