Do you think you could date someone who's never planning to come out of the closet? You find your soul mate, except they are not planning to come out to the world (family, friends) at all. So, behind closed doors, you guys will be cuddling, hugging, and many other romantic things... But outside, you guys would just be buddies, hanging out as friends with no public display of affection, or just not know each other at all outside your discreet relationship. Can you do it? Or would you not mind... because you're planning to do the same thing (if you're not out yet)?

Obviously this question does not target the straight audience, but luckily I don't have to worry about that here.

I couldn't.. I hate that my relationship would have to be behind closed doors, I would want my friends, and their friends, Our family to know.

Probably not, but at the same time, it's not like I can give a straight () answer because you never really know until you're in the situation personally.

I know I'm not homosexual, but I think if I were it would depend on the situation. Some people have absolutely no relationship with their family and/or don't feel the need to make their personal life known, so that could all factor into them not ever wanting to come out of the closet.

I'm not planning the same thing either.

If we're going to go out, it's going to come out eventually.

Nope.

The guy I'm dating now is out to all his friends, but will never come out to his parents. He's cutting off from them emotionally though, so it's not going to be a huge issue. My parents are very accepting, so if we ended up like, married, we'd have at least a set of sane people to be grandparents.

First of all: very interesting question

Secondly, I think it really depends on the situation (because most people will do things differently when they are actually in a situation than when they are just thinking about one) and of course how deeply you feel about the person.

Like others have mentioned, the status they have with friends/family, as well as the status you have with your own family and friends matters just as much.

If it was me, I think it would hurt a little to have to keep it behind closed doors but I think I would understand, given I knew the whole situation. Plus there are always exceptions and sacrifices that people will make for love.

Yeah, but I said
So gurrl, no holding hands or any of that. I guess this is where you use the word "straight acting"

That's my point. If someone has parents that they aren't emotionally close to, then I can understand them never coming out to them.

I mean he WAS close to them, but because he knows they don't want to know and they'll never accept it, he's cutting ties now so he doesn't have to go through dumb **** when he's older. Does that make sense?

I would rather prefer to date someone who's still in the closet (but then again, if they were, I wouldn't know they were gay ) because it would be easier since I'm in the same predicament. I'm not planning to come out to family or friends, so dating someone who's not planning to come out ever is perfectly fine with me. That's just me though

Oh.
I'm not a fan of PDA, so it wouldn't matter that much to me. Slip ups are bound to happen though.

Probably.

I could threaten to out him every time he didn't do what I want.