That pissed me off SO much before. It's silly that people just assume that you're a specific gender. Even now that I'm practically bald and have facial hair, people still think that I'm a girl sometimes.
Really? I used to have discussions like this on a forum I was previously on. I miss threads like this, honestly. The stanning on here gets to be too much at times, and it's nice to have a civil conversation with everybody that doesn't involve artists.
Seriously? I hate assumptions. It's just a dumb thing to do, to assume.
I do, too. ATRL is hilarious and I love the stanning and all of the threads, but I'd trade it all in for threads like these. It's so nice actually to discuss with people. We even had civil conversations about artists, too! It was amazing.
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This... this is the most hurtful thing someone has told me.
Kidding, sis, I KNOW. I read that over and I said to myself "who the **** is going to feel sympathy for someone like this?" I'm a self-proclaimed mess.
My dad has some things against being gay. It goes right past me because he's showing improvement of being okay with it, and he does support me. He has a bad way of showing it, as he does with all problems that have to do with emotion, so I don't care. But at times he's done things really shady, that he doesn't know hurts me. He says things like "I'm counting on you for grandchildren" to my brother, he jokes to my friends that are girls about hooking up with me to turn me straight, it's like... what the ****?
I know these are jokes, dad, but I also see right through your CRUEL INTENTIONS. Backhanded jokes and compliments are the worse. Yeah, I know my skinny jeans are great, but I know you're commenting because they're feminine and you want to make a joke of me. I hate that.
Why would he tease you for you sexual orientation? I HATE teasing so much.
Oh wow. I know that must have been hard on him and his family. His tea got spilled by his boyfriend. Sometimes what we say hurts more than what others say to us. I can name a few instance where I've said somethings..that hurt me as well as the other person.
Ive been there. When I purposely ended my best friends relationship with her boyfriend because I was in love with him and too selfish to admit it I felt so empty. I felt even worse because she never hated me for loving him, to this very day she still acts like it never happened, but he hates me with a burning passion. Partly because he loved me too and was too afraid to admit it to himself cause im a guy, and the other half is because she left him and we remained friends after that.
now theyre back together, im so glad I live in another state cause the vision alone would kill me.
Yo, THIS. I've never gotten into a fight, and I'm hella scared of it. I can just imagine one bad ass mutha****er punching my face hard, me hitting my head on the concrete and busting my head open, brain hemmorage, eventally brain dead, I'm not here for that.
Really when you get into a fight. Once you start swinging you really don't even notice what is happening and what's going on around you. You're just in this zone. There's no realization of any danger or potential injury.
I HATE when people GETS IN a relationship (and the other guy let her), especially women, they think they have the right to be the spokeswoman. They're so ****ing annoying. "too bad I'm the wrong gender" ****, get the **** OUT.
Sounds extremely corny and dated but i've learned that you shouldn't be sad for somedy that doesn't deserve you.
Right? It struck me as really silly that she took it upon herself to point out everything that wasn't right between us.
I wish I had your confidence. I wish I had the ability to differentiate between someone who doesn't want me and somebody who doesn't deserve me.
I dont think my mother would kick me out but the relationship would change. And Ive tried so many times when we were alone but the words just will not come out.
Don't take this the wrong way, but do you think she may already know?
I guess I'm the only one, but if I could, I'd take back all the bullying I've experience. A lot of you, well a lot of people, say that you've become stronger because of it. But I'm not here for that, I hate bullying, I hate bullies, and they leave lifelong scares that I'm not here for. I firmly believe a world with no school bullies is so much better.
Yo, THIS. I've never gotten into a fight, and I'm hella scared of it. I can just imagine one bad ass mutha****er punching my face hard, me hitting my head on the concrete and busting my head open, brain hemmorage, eventally brain dead, I'm not here for that.
However, I LOVE watching school fights. They're hilarious, cuz they last like 10 seconds, but they're crazy lmao. How ironic is that?
I always say, if someone said they wanted to fight me, I'd run. And if I was at school, and someone was tryna fight me, I'd run right into the arms of the closest teacher. Be like:
AGREED! No lie, my ass would be doing the cheap ass moves, hair pulling, etc.
When I'm in a ****** mood, and I just wanna wallow in my sorrow, I play this song. The song just makes me even sadder, but I can't resist playing it. And even though it's about love, it works for me in almost any situation.
And when I realize I'm way too sad, you know, depressed, and whatever, and I need a lift, I put this on repeat. This is kinda embarrassing, but one day, I actually shed a tear listening to this.
Why would he tease you for you sexual orientation? I HATE teasing so much.
I know, as much as he's supported me, he secretly holds on to a prayer that I'll become straight through magic or something. It's really deep inside him, I'm sure, because he's holding it in order to keep me happy. But there's moments where it just comes out, and I guess it's unknowing to him because he acts as if there's no wrong. He's a great dad and I know he's learning how to support me as a gay man through trial and error, because he himself was raised in a conservative family. Things like this just get to me, though.
My heart goes out to all the stories about their parent's saying that someone better not be gay.
One of the most beautiful things my father ever said to me was that "Even though you'll go to Hell (), I want you to know that I love you, and I just want you to be happy whether it's with a man or a woman."
I would have said, and mother****er you will be right there with me so shut up.
When I'm in a ****** mood, and I just wanna wallow in my sorrow, I play this song. The song just makes me even sadder, but I can't resist playing it. And even though it's about love, it works for me in almost any situation.
Growing Pains by Mary J. Blige is a super introspective album that always helps me when I'm feeling down. The album touches upon so many subjects...it's just therapeutic.
"Best Thing I Never Had" by Beyonce has been my ANTHEM lately because I stopped being friends with this one guy that I discussed earlier in this thread.
I was in 8th grade, my family was struggling with money problems. I tried to help by working, I got a job as a singer on a cafe bar. I didn't tell my parent I worked, but wen they found out my dad yelled at me and said "This is your way of helping?! You can't sing for ****! Why don't you get your ass home and actually do something with your life!!.... and then he added this "You, you're part of this big problem you know! Having a child was a big ****ing mistake.
That really hurt my feelings, I still remember that day, and just break crying.. moved out 2 years later with my aunt cuz of the verbal abuse I get with my mom and dad... i know they did not want to hurt my feelings, they were just having problems.. deep down i love them, but i dont know if they love me... especially cuz im they're "gay / bisexual" kid...
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EDIT: Oh... and I love your posts, your post are always interesting and entertaining
"I'd rather be depressed and alone than be friends with you."
That ****ed me up pretty badly, but he was coming from a reaally dark place at the time.
I had someone say something quite similar to be but I think it was "I'd rather be shot, blown up, or stabbed a million times then be in the same room as you." To me, if you don't want to be in my life..... just say so, and I won't waste my time, when I could be with people who are worth my time, love and support.
I know, as much as he's supported me, he secretly holds on to a prayer that I'll become straight through magic or something. It's really deep inside him, I'm sure, because he's holding it in order to keep me happy. But there's moments where it just comes out, and I guess it's unknowing to him because he acts as if there's no wrong. He's a great dad and I know he's learning how to support me as a gay man through trial and error, because he himself was raised in a conservative family. Things like this just get to me, though.
I guess he's learning? I mean, when you come from a conservative family like that and then have a gay son, you have to completely readjust and learn completely new things in terms of morals. I feel bad for you on your side, but as long as he's showing improvement I think that's all that matters?
The thing is that I haven't been sad since he told me a few weeks ago that he never wanted to be friends again. I'm just over it. I guess I thought he was better than that. But "Best Thing I Never Had" has been my ANTHEM for this situation.
Her entire album should be your life right now lol.
I Care
I Miss You
Best Thing I Never Had
Damn boy, I dont know if I could make it. When I fall, I fall hard and when it comes to men I am a mess.
AGREED! No lie, my ass would be doing the cheap ass moves, hair pulling, etc.
Sis you don't even have to do all that. Most people are all talk. You just have to be smart about it. Stall until someone comes to break it up. Make sure you have enough room so they cant hit you and just go
Most people won't hit you unless you hit them, but that only works with it's alot of people around. IF you can't fight yes you better do what you can.
This isn't something hurtful that somebody said to me, but it hurt me knowing that I hurt them.
I was really close friends with this gay couple a few years ago (I was 15, if I remember correctly). They were a couple of years older than me, but we were relatively close in age. Anyway, I had been friends with them for nearly a year, but I was closer to one of the guys than the other. One night, we were both a little drunk, and I ended up having sex with him. At the time, I didn't really care, since I was immature, horny, and didn't care about other people's feelings. We hooked up a few other times, while he would tell his boyfriend that he was at one of his friend's houses watching movies or something. One day, I was hanging out with the other guy (the one that I didn't have sex with), and out of nowhere, he was like, "Dale, you're such a great friend - I hope you know that. You are one of the few gay guys that I actually trust around my boyfriend and around me in general. I know that I can count on you". And it was one of those comments that should make you feel really good, and I could tell he was being sincere, but I felt like complete ****, knowing that I slept with his boyfriend. I didn't have the heart to tell him right then and there. I just smiled and thanked him, while deep down, my soul was an emotional wreck. I've had to live with it ever since then, knowing that I overstepped my friendship boundaries and was the reason his boyfriend cheated on him. The next time I talked to his boyfriend, I told him that I couldn't be around him anymore, as I felt terrible and his boyfriend deserved so much better. I haven't talked to them since then. One of my friends told me a few months ago that the guy ended up finding out what happened and ended the relationship, and has been extremely emotional and possibly suicidal ever since then. And I still feel like it's all my fault. I knew that it was wrong, but my hormones got the best of me.
The worst part? I'm in the same exact situation right now. I've been single for well over 6 months now, and it's beginning to take a toll on me. I ended up hooking up with one of my close friends last weekend, and he has a boyfriend. I'm also friends with his boyfriend, but we don't hang out as much. Now, I'm afraid to face his boyfriend, knowing that I potentially ruined their relationship. I actually saw the guy today, and we haven't spoken about what happened last weekend yet, but I'm going over there tomorrow. I don't know what to do/say. To be honest, I didn't even begin to regret it until today, when I talked to his boyfriend on Facebook, and he was telling me how I'm the first gay guy, besides his boyfriend, that he's really trusted in our town/state.
I'm really not a home-wrecker, I just get caught up in the moment and end up deeply regretting it afterward.
I ran into him just over a week ago on the streets.... he gave me the absolute dirtest look he could, so I assume he's still mad.
Ch...I know that must have been awkward.
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Ive been there. When I purposely ended my best friends relationship with her boyfriend because I was in love with him and too selfish to admit it I felt so empty. I felt even worse because she never hated me for loving him, to this very day she still acts like it never happened, but he hates me with a burning passion. Partly because he loved me too and was too afraid to admit it to himself cause im a guy, and the other half is because she left him and we remained friends after that.
now theyre back together, im so glad I live in another state cause the vision alone would kill me.
You bitch. That is a mess. And do you think he loved you or did he actually say it. Sats thoughts =/= reality. And maybe she is dealing with it by ignoring it. Sometimes I do that. If I was hurt, I pretend and act like it never happened. Because if I think about it I get put into that sad mindset.
They're hilarious, cuz they last like 10 seconds, but they're crazy lmao. How ironic is that?
That is a mess. And do you think he loved you or did he actually say it. Sats thoughts =/= reality.