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Discussion: Most hurtful thing anybody's ever said to you in real life?
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We all should gather round and sing kumbaya
u guys are so strong <3
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Originally posted by AnimalCannibalAJ
I was in 8th grade, my family was struggling with money problems. I tried to help by working, I got a job as a singer on a cafe bar. I didn't tell my parent I worked, but wen they found out my dad yelled at me and said "This is your way of helping?! You can't sing for ****! Why don't you get your ass home and actually do something with your life!!.... and then he added this "You, you're part of this big problem you know! Having a child was a big ****ing mistake.
That really hurt my feelings, I still remember that day, and just break crying.. moved out 2 years later with my aunt cuz of the verbal abuse I get with my mom and dad... i know they did not want to hurt my feelings, they were just having problems.. deep down i love them, but i dont know if they love me... especially cuz im they're "gay / bisexual" kid...
#oops i accidentally pressed enter before i was done
EDIT: Oh... and I love your posts, your post are always interesting and entertaining  |
I'm not close with my mom, so anything she says doesn't effect me -- but she has said this to me and I did get hurt.
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Originally posted by HollywoodForever
It wasn't something someone said to me, but it was something I said/did that probably hurt the most. Back in January (of this year) I was going over to my boyfriends place to spend the night. I was of course drunk as usual. He also had a few of his friends over too for part of the night. Anyways, I had misplaced my phone and borrowed his to call mine to find it. I had accidentally called his sister instead... and when she asked me who I was.... I told her "I'm your brothers boyfriend." At that time his family didn't know he was gay.... and they didn't take the news very lightly either. I believe I hung up on her, and eventually gave up and decided to look for my phone in the morning... my next memory after that was laying on his couch. He came up to me and put a blanket over me, and the look on his face.... has haunted me for months. He was angry of course... but broke down when tell me he never wanted to see me again the next morning.
My best friend told me to not beat myself up over it, and that I wasn't myself that night.... and some good came out of it, and that I quit drinking. But, I don't think I will be able to forgive myself for along time. It goes against things I stand for - and that is outing people. Just the thought - that I could have been responible for him doing something wreckless like commiting suicide, or causing himself harm.... hasn't sat right. Even today.... it still stings that I ruined one of my best relationships. 
I generally don't let things other people say about me bother me. But when my own actions cause someone else that I care about greatly terrible pain & suffering..... it destroys me just as much.
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You didn't!
Gay people overreact to this kind of situations, very paranoids. With time he'll realize how stupid this things are... and who knows, maybe he'll come back.
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Originally posted by ifyouseekLEM
THIS!!!!!! 
I'm too "white" for black people, I'm too "black" for white people. I'm too gay to hang out with guys, yet I'm too straight to be at sleepovers with the girls. I'm honestly stuck in the middle and it ****ing sucks.  |
Girl this is why you need to hang out with Mexicans like me, we are ghetto, but can be classy when the situation calls for it. 
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Originally posted by ifyouseekLEM
My heart goes out to all the stories about their parent's saying that someone better not be gay.
One of the most beautiful things my father ever said to me was that "Even though you'll go to Hell (  ), I want you to know that I love you, and I just want you to be happy whether it's with a man or a woman." |
Mine too! It's always hurtful when somebody's own parent isn't accepting of who they are.
I'm glad that your father was accepting of it. 
I'm still not completely sure how my father feels about me being gay. He's currently in prison ( ), and I wrote him a letter about me being gay several years ago. He always told me that he'd be disappointed if I was, but he was never around enough for me to really care. Since I wrote him the letter, he's written me a few saying that he prays that "God will show me the light" (whatever the **** that means) and other religious **** like that, but he never really told me how HE feels about it. I quit writing to him after that, and that was over 3 years ago.
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Originally posted by AnimalCannibalAJ
I was in 8th grade, my family was struggling with money problems. I tried to help by working, I got a job as a singer on a cafe bar. I didn't tell my parent I worked, but wen they found out my dad yelled at me and said "This is your way of helping?! You can't sing for ****! Why don't you get your ass home and actually do something with your life!!.... and then he added this "You, you're part of this big problem you know! Having a child was a big ****ing mistake.
That really hurt my feelings, I still remember that day, and just break crying.. moved out 2 years later with my aunt cuz of the verbal abuse I get with my mom and dad... i know they did not want to hurt my feelings, they were just having problems.. deep down i love them, but i dont know if they love me... especially cuz im they're "gay / bisexual" kid...
#oops i accidentally pressed enter before i was done
EDIT: Oh... and I love your posts, your post are always interesting and entertaining |
When family hurts, the pain is bigger 
How can't they realize how much a quote like that could hurt 
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Well the only thing in school that stands out is the first rumor about me being gay cuz at the time I was having a hard time adjusting to high school and when I adjust to things I am very quiet, sensitive to the point where I'm naive and it just hurt me that why are these ppl saying such hurtful things when I have done anything to them? Thankfully I never gave them any attention and actually started to **** with them to show them that I don't give a **** what they think and they can say all they want about me cuz the karma will come back to bite them eventually while all will be good with me.  I do also remember ppl trying the race thing but they pussied out as soon as I flashed them "the look". 
Another thing that currently hurts me is that now that I've gotten out of high school my friends have either moved (which is cool with me) or just hang with their other friends and don't even make time for me. I'm all for the ones that wanna move on with their lives cuz I am gonna be doing so to but for the ones that just all of sudden seem too good for me and can't even make time for me hurts cuz I go out for walks and see everyone out with their friends having a good time and it reminds of all the good times I used to have wit them in school and now they don't even care to make time for me. Also to make things worse I don't trust ppl in general cuz of their shady ways but half of my family is like that. I don't feel comfortable around half of them cuz they r so superficial or catty like today we went to a parade and my aunt was part of it and my mom, grandparents and her sons were all cheering for and the other half of my family just sits there dead like the award show audiences for the whole show yet when my cuz marched it there they all get up as if God came back to life. It's just so disappointing to have to related to trash like that. Without my aunt I wouldn't have a job today n neither would some of them yet that's how they show they're grateful? They r all nice to her when she does **** for them yet still talk **** behind her back n the same wit my mom and grandparents. I can't wait to move away from their asses cuz it's just so stressing to be around such rude n arrogant family members. 
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When I was a kid, my light skin friends told me I couldn't hang out with them anymore because I was darker than them, later that day they told me they were joking but it still hurt. 
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My father told me I'm a stupid fool and sometimes calls me with bad words though it might be simple but it hurts to me greatly when in fact that he's the one I need to believe in everything I do, that I can do whatever I wanted as long as I believe but it's the complete opposite he's the one bringing me down.
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Originally posted by BTrisc0392
Reveal your abusive, Colombian history, Luis!  |
Lol I haven't had a heart-break story
They used to call me from time to time *** but it was because I was more of a shy kid. I wasn't very popular in school because I had a very low self esteem.
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Originally posted by ManDown
Mine too! It's always hurtful when somebody's own parent isn't accepting of who they are.
I'm glad that your father was accepting of it.
I'm still not completely sure how my father feels about me being gay. He's currently in prison ( ), and I wrote him a letter about me being gay several years ago. He always told me that he'd be disappointed if I was, but he was never around enough for me to really care. Since I wrote him the letter, he's written me a few saying that he prays that "God will show me the light" (whatever the **** that means) and other religious **** like that, but he never really told me how HE feels about it. I quit writing to him after that, and that was over 3 years ago. |
I hate Christians like that. I'm a Christian myself but NOWHERE in the Bible does it say that it is wrong to be gay. Misguided people are just... 
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Originally posted by Wildhope
We all should gather round and sing kumbaya
u guys are so strong <3
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Like I said before, we should all gather around in a circle & sing selected tracks from the deluxe editions of J. Lo's universal, radiant LOVE? CD, which has something for everyone to be happy about. Mrs. Lopez-Anthony will teach you all the beauty of love & how it helps you found happiness even through the roughest of challenges. She has something for everyone tbh. 
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In my freshman year at high school, me and my friend were walking to class. All of a sudden a jock who used to be my old classmate comes up to us. He tells my friend to stop hanging out with me because I was gay. I was embarrassed, but that whole rest of the day my friend didn't speak to me or acknowledge that I was even in his presence. Later that night he texts me saying he no longer wants to be my friend because I was ruining his reputation. I haven't spoken to him ever since and now he hangs out with the jock and look at me with dirty looks.
There's also this one time when my little brother called 911 and a bunch of policeman showed up. Well anyways my mom who can't speak english correctly calls me down to talk to them. I had no idea what was going on and I go downstairs. One of the policemen starts to ask me questions and I answer them. He asks why I called 911 and I kept telling them it was my little brother. Then they started to leave and the police man looked at me and said, "A real man would tell the truth and not blame others, especially a 6 year old kid". He left and then i just ran to my room and started to cry.
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My ex-boyfriend of a year and a half was in the closet. He was not out to any of his family and friends and he told me that he didn't plan on coming out, EVER.
After getting fed up with the sneaking and hiding and the sex in the backseat of his beamer (well I do miss that) anyway, I was fed up and tired of being his secret. I gave him a final ultimatum, either cut out this facade he was putting on for everyone else or we were done.
He said he was not coming out to his family and If that's what I wanted home to do, then to hell with our relationship.
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Member Since: 6/7/2011
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Originally posted by MusicTalker
Like I said before, we should all gather around in a circle & sing selected tracks from the deluxe editions of J. Lo's universal, radiant LOVE? CD, which has something for everyone to be happy about. Mrs. Lopez-Anthony will teach you all the beauty of love & how it helps you found happiness even through the roughest of challenges. She has something for everyone tbh. |
She CLEARLY knows nothing about love if the album is called Love ?
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Originally posted by Đeucés
Exactly. I do not handle getting touched well. I remember in middle school it would always be these group of kids who wanted to start ****. I remember playing Football. I wasn't the best and I made this amazing catch. Ch..the other team got pissed and started getting physical...tell me why my ass was seconds from getting suspended.  I don't handle getting touched well AT ALL! |
unless they trying to touch this bussy, then I aint having it
but I remember after one of my fights I was sent to the office i walked down the hallway pretending to be tyra from her last walk on tje victorias secret show
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Member Since: 10/31/2010
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Originally posted by featheralley
Gurl we have the same dilemma, except your predicament is religious values from your parents, and mine is old fashion style from my parents.
I know my dad would kick me out of the house if I came out, but when I heard him say it out of his mouth -- that there was no "gay" in the family, they would be kicked out, it hurt. |
.. Thank lord i don't live with my dad. The only contact i have with him is when he gives my sister and I money, which requires visiting him. But I know he would disown me within a second. All he ever wants to know is whether i have a girlfriend, yet. (preferably a mexican women who knows how to cook and have babies  )
.. But the only main concern i have is my mother. :-\ .. She takes religion seriously.
.. Sometimes i just randomly cry at night, sobbing to the power above to let me be 'straight'.
I feel worthless at points.
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Yassss GORLS don't you ever think your less than ****ING perfect!
Who gone stop YALL?
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Member Since: 8/22/2009
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Originally posted by Remeese
I've never even heard of that beforehand. I don't understand why boys should even be eligible to become prom queen. Not only does it give me homophobic teas towards any schools that do that but the fact that two guys could win instead of just the normal one of each gender is unfair.
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It's not that, its the fact that sometimes the kids will put a boys name into the girls ballot box on purpose.
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Member Since: 11/10/2009
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**** this ****. I honestly love and care about you all, but I'm not here for this depressing subject matter when I'm supposed to be productive right now.
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