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Discussion: Most hurtful thing anybody's ever said to you in real life?
Member Since: 6/7/2011
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Originally posted by satellites™
Girl spill it.  |
Done, sis.
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Member Since: 3/30/2009
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No one really picks on me, sometimes my friends joke the way I walk is weird (they say my feet turn in  ), they aren't really joking about it, but they aren't mean about it. They've also made fun of my hair, which I understand (it looks a lot better now though).
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Originally posted by 1-N-Only21
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I failed to find what about that was funny.
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Originally posted by MusicTalker
No one ever says anything bad to me, whenever they get annoyed at me I play them Jennifer Lopez music, & we all dance around in circles to the rhythm of LOVE? (in stores now!!!)
J. Lo brings out the best in everyone, tbh.
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This, however 
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Member Since: 10/9/2008
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Oh...
Old hag teachers confusing me with a girl more than 1 time and 20 people laughing at that. 
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Member Since: 4/17/2011
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Originally posted by RyanC
Racism irks to no end...on both sides. Most of my friends are white, it's always been that way. I never really fit in with the some of the black kids at school b/c they always made fun of me. They made fun of the way I spoke, the way I dressed, the way I carried myself. They considered me speaking properly as speaking "white". Because I liked wearing Quicksilver and Aeropostale, I was was trying to be white. It was always some ********.
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Where I live the only thing black ppl wear is Aeropostale, Hollister, & American Eagle.
But I can relate, i've never really made friends with black males. I'm cool with a lot of them, but I don't hang with any of them at all. I also have crushes on some of them.
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Member Since: 3/4/2011
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Well I haven't been hurt by friends or family that much tbh.
So, it would have to be in love when that guy I was madly in love told me : "I really like you but not in the same way you like me!! But I still want us to be friends and nothing to change" That sentence.. meant 1 week of crying 
There was also this guy that really liked me and thuoght I liked him too. When I told him I wasn't interested, he insulted me like hardcore. Told me that I was a superficial bitch that only cares about my muscles, that I deserved not to have a father (caus I never met my father) and **** like that. He texted/called me those things like a crazy mother****er for 2 months. Well, it didn't HURT me that much, because he was a prick, but I was amazed by how psycho that guy was.
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Member Since: 11/5/2009
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Originally posted by KoreanDream
This was a tumblr post I created a few weeks ago:
What has happened between us? We’ve known each other since 2006. You and I were only casual friends for our first two school years of knowing each other, but we still enjoyed being around each other. We had tons of laugh together, and we used to talk to each other pretty often. Then, in our 3rd year of college, you and I got really…close. We started talking to each other ALL the time. We’d eat lunch together, go out to dinners together, text, call, and message each other, and talk ALL the time. Then from 2009 to late last year, you and I told each other EVERYTHING. You knew about all of the drama with friends, all of the drama with my family, all about my family, all about my friends, all about my thoughts, dreams, hopes…and…you knew EVERYTHING. It was the same the other way around, too. I knew everything about you, your family, your friends, your thoughts, your dreams, your hopes…just…everything. You started dating HER last year but we were still close. I had nothing against your relationship, but I was…jealous. I was jealous because I liked you. But I let it go for you two to be together. My feelings faded away pretty quickly, but why did our friendship too? You and I were closer than friends. We were like siblings. In fact, we were like the same person. We knew EVERYTHING about each other. EVERYTHING. Then you just stopped talking to me, and after I tried talking to you, things got worse. You seemed to resent me for even accusing you of ignoring me. After she left you for that other guy, I wanted to ask if you were okay, but I didn’t think I could. I felt like there was no way to because we weren’t talking. Now I realize you must have felt like you couldn’t talk to me, because after that big fight in February, you told me that I hadn’t been there for you when she had left you. We haven’t talked in 4 months, and it’s killing me. I still have all of the texts and messages you sent me, because I can’t bring myself to delete them. That’s all I have left of you anymore. But things were starting to look up because I never talked about how I felt with anyone. I just pretended, after we fought and I said our friendship was over, that we had never been friends. But now that I’ve been revisiting it with one of my friends because she’s going through a similar situation, I’m hurting all over again. But what I hate most is not knowing if you care. I always thought you cared about our friendship a ton, like I did and still do, because you always used to promise me that I was one of your 5 real friends, that I was special to you, that we would be friends forever. It was dumb but I remember all of that. Now it’s gone and it’s heartbreaking to know that I still remember those things and I still care but I don’t think you do. But what hurts the most now is seeing you. Whenever we see each other at school, we both go silent. Just today, you were skipping down the hallway jokingly, but when you saw me and I saw you, you stopped and went silent. I did, too. I don’t know if I looked sad, but I saw a hint of sadness in your face. Or maybe I’m wrong and you DON’T care anymore. That’s what’s killing me. I don’t know if you care and I don’t know if I should even try to fix this.
But I know that you almost killed yourself. I know that you hate your parents and feel like they only give you money and no love or anything. I know that you and your sister aren’t close but you wish that you two were. I know that you feel that you can relate to girls better than you can guys. I know that you’re actually way more manly than you can seem. I know that you hate showing emotion because you don’t see the point. I know that you feel like no one will ever love you. I know that you’ve been hurt time and time again and you now close yourself off. But I know that you’ve become someone different than who I used to know you as.
So now I stand here, not wanting to see no more. I wish I could just blind myself, now. I want to talk to you again and see if we can fix this, but I feel like there’s no reason to. Last time I tried to apologize to you, you didn’t respond. Even though my friend told me to just say hi to you and try to start fresh, I feel like you’d ignore me or make fun of me if I did. And your friends hate me anyway. And even if they didn’t, I feel like you may not care anymore and that I’m the only one that cares. And that if you don’t care, then I’ll make a fool out of myself. But I also feel like, if we did become friends again, that things could never be the same again. What’s worse is that we’re BOTH going to Korea, to the same university. I remember you and I choosing to do that last summer because we wanted to stick together and make the move to a new country easier on each other. Now we don’t even talk so the pain will have to follow me to Korea.
I approached him two days after posting this (he never saw it, though) and asked if we could talk, and he said he never wanted to be my friend again and that it was dumb of me to think he would want to. I then found out that he had rebuked his Korean exchange right after we stopped being friends in February so he could stay in America once I went. But it's closure so I'm not sad. I just thought he was better than that.  |
Are you both Korean? And do you mind if I ask how both you guys are?
*continues reading*
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Member Since: 3/30/2009
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Originally posted by Good_Doc_Gone_Bad
I don't bitch them out for it because I know they're not tryna be mean, but it's just like,  |
THIS. I know they aren't trying to be mean, but sometimes people take it a little too far.
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Member Since: 11/10/2009
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Originally posted by Ðeucés
No BUT that is what hurts. Had it been a lie..I would have been hurt but not as much. Since it was true I was really affected. |
Ch... 
Stories like these make me realize that everything happens for a reason. I'd be willing to bet that everything in this thread is stronger now than before their scarring event occurred.
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Member Since: 9/23/2009
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For a while, my family and I lived in a semi-rough neighborhood.
One time I was hanging out with my homegurl outside and this dude from middle school walked up to me...I honestly don't remember all the specifics, but we got into a fist fight (in which I lost)...and he pinned up against a fence with his goonie backing him up (my homegurl was behind me watching from a distance ).
He called me a "****ing worthless ******"....and it wasn't the words that hurt me as much as it was the look in his eyes when he said it. It just resonated so deeply with me to the point where I nearly believed him.........why would he say that to me?....Do I really come off in such a way that someone would have the audacity to say that to my face?.....Surely if he said that, then others think that of me?
I honestly bust out into tears once I got home.
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Member Since: 5/28/2010
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Originally posted by L/\DY G/\G/\
Posted on my formspring 10 months back. One of my best friends, lets say "emma" told me she liked me. This was my response "ugh...im really not into a relationship right now and I dont think im the relationship kind of person" At this time I didnt want to tell her im gay so I just told her that. I then told my other friend lets say "Chris" that its going to be weird with "emma" liking me. Anyway, "Chris" told "emma" the only reason I wasnt going out with her was because I said she is fat and ugly when I never said that. He turned her against me for a few months but I was able to become friends with her again and I was so surprised when I found out that chris was telling all these lies and trying to get people to hate me. Once emma started to not like me then every one in my social circle abandoned me and sided with her. It made for a horrible summer...this is one of the many formspring messages I got because of it.back when I had one.
This message was a response to me defending emma on formspring after one of the people left a comment saying shes ugly. I defended her but I got so much **** for it because apparently by posting it I was just trying to cause drama but that wasnt my intentions at all in the first place.
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OMG! That's horrible. Your friend spreading the lies and that person who sent you the message both need to be cursed out.
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Member Since: 6/7/2011
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Originally posted by featheralley
Are you both Korean? And do you mind if I ask how both you guys are?
*continues reading*
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He's Korean and speaks Korean, I'm half-Japanese half-white but I also speak Korean. How we are as in how we are doing now? I'm completely fine and he's a total pompous asshole now. 
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Member Since: 8/22/2009
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Originally posted by RyanC
Racism irks to no end...on both sides. Most of my friends are white, it's always been that way. I never really fit in with the some of the black kids at school b/c they always made fun of me. They made fun of the way I spoke, the way I dressed, the way I carried myself. They considered me speaking properly as speaking "white". Because I liked wearing Quicksilver and Aeropostale, I was was trying to be white. It was always some ********.
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I ride the middle so I know exactly what you mean. Im too black for white people and im too white for black people. I do use slang sometimes, but not a lot, especially not in public but my personality if you know what I mean is urban influenced so you know I grew up around an African American family versus one of some other ethnicity and sometimes that difference stands out when im around Caucasian people even though I talk properly and dress like a Casual Male XL ad. Now when it comes to black people im too proper, too well dressed, and too out there. I hate rap, I hate sports, and I hate girls so there goes my relationship with black men.
Black girls love me though. 
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Member Since: 9/23/2009
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Originally posted by Wildhope
that my sexual abuse was my fault and I caused it
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Member Since: 11/7/2010
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May I just say, I am here if anyone ever needs it. My heart goes out to all of you who have felt such horrible pain, caused by anything or anyone that's done it to you. Such disgusting cruelty people have to go through
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Member Since: 11/7/2010
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Originally posted by RyanC
OMG...  |
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Originally posted by qwerty22
I was listening to I Wanna Go as I read this and imagined you knocking those hoes out to that song
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The truth...
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Originally posted by Razr
That hurt me and Im not even you. That seriously is terrible. I am always here for you |
Thank you
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Originally posted by satellites™
I think we were all the sensitive boy, but the difference with me was I was always tough cause I has no other choice. I am not the type to be bullied, I will beat a bitch down in a flat second before I allow them to harass me in any way. And it's frustrating too, cause my teachers and friends never knew I had a fierce side to me, but when the time came for him to show he came out full force to protect himself.
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My friends that I have now know that I will **** you up even though I am a nice person. Back then, I was treated very nicely. I hung out with nice kids, & there wan't much bullying in my school, which is why I was never toughened up. It was bad that I had to learn by those **** ups in life.
Those words became part of my childhood, my Dad would say them constantly, I just ended up never talking to him again.
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Member Since: 10/5/2009
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Originally posted by Razr
Aw thats so terrible but its true people are superficial. The thing is just getting past it and moving on. Its hard but **** them. Just know you are always better than them not matter what.
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Well, I don't see any false tea here.
But yeah, I usually do ignore what people say.. I stay silent basically all the time in school and when someone does something like what I said then I'll just keep walking and not turn back and do something. I'll probably be glad to get out of high school because people aren't as immature and there's not as much bullying.
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Member Since: 11/11/2010
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I think that I am one of the few gay people who remain unbothered by "******". I get called it DAILY, by family, strangers, neighbors, etc. It stopped bothering me in 7th grade. I don't usually take anything that anybody says too personally, as I've dealt with bullying and name calling my whole life.
People used to tease me about having a long forehead, but I got over that fairly quickly and am usually the first to make fivehead jokes (I think that is why I am destined to stan for Rihanna). People used to tease me about being underweight growing up, but I saw it as a compliment. People used to tease me about being fat when I was finally a healthy weight, but that just made me realize that other people are insecure. People used to tease me about being a ginger, but, well, I've always found it funny as well.
I'd say the most hurtful thing that anybody has said to me would be "I'm disappointed in you". I never heard that growing up, as my mom would rarely punish my brother and I. But, 2008 and 2009 were both extremely rough years for me, and only a few members know the full details on that situation. One day, I finally broke down and told my mom every bad thing that I have ever done, so I could get it off of my conscience, and she told me that she was disappointed in me. And that was the first time in my entire life that somebody has ever been able to hurt me with so few words.
Other than that, sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me. 
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Member Since: 8/22/2009
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Originally posted by Remeese
Because society doesn't care about if you have the best personality of the world.. if people think you're ugly, that's what they are going to feature or talk about the most. |
You can break that stereotype, cause Ive done it plenty of times in many different social situations. 
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Member Since: 1/17/2011
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UGHHHH, they did that to me to, still do sometimes 
That made me so depressed 
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Member Since: 6/7/2011
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Originally posted by Chris191
May I just say, I am here if anyone ever needs it. My heart goes out to all of you who have felt such horrible pain, caused by anything or anyone that's done it to you. Such disgusting cruelty people have to go through |
Not to tag onto your kindness, but I am the same. ATRL is fun and everything but I'm always here to support anyone who needs help.
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