Originally posted by featheralley

So, I was about to reply to this thread, and then my mom came in to my room and started yelling at me. Funny enough, I was about to write about her. 30 minutes past, and I can finally write.

So I've said this before, but I live in a traditional old fashion asian-style family. So with that comes a lot of hard working and beatings. A lot of my friends know, but they're all asian as well and experience it as their home too (by the way, we're living in Canada). Anyway, a lot of my friends are asians, the ones that are good friends, the one that are just "friends", they all know my parents beat me, but I know as well that their parents beat them because we've discussed it. It's nothing big to them because like the stereotype is, all asians get beatings. I, however, were one of those rare asians that never got use to it, and it definitley scarred me. I met one white friend, and we became good friends, and he was the only white person I've ever personally told, but I told him that I was joking when I told him my mom beats me. Why? ...Because he said he was going to call the cops.

My mom beat me before I even entered kindergarten. It didn't matter where I was, as long as it was a private area where no one can see. And it definitley didn't matter what time or what I was doing either. My mom removed the locks from my room so she can enter whenever she needed to beat me. When I was in kindergarten, I remember getting beats from my mom right before we had to go to a family party. In the party there would be all my cousins 10, plus all my uncles and aunts, which are over 15 people so there's an almost good 30 people in the house (with my grandpa and grandma). All the adults would be downstairs, and the kids would be upstairs. My mom called me downstairs, and I remember going to room and looking at all the adults, and my mom basically told me to pull my pants down and show everyone the beatings she did to me before we came here. And I just remember my aunts and uncles applauding my mom, basically saying "WOW!! You did that to him!!? I'm sure he learned his lesson after that!!" etc.

I remember in elementary school my mom asked me if I did my homework. I said yes and lied. I was taking a shower while my mom checked my bag and saw my homework uncompleted. She opened the door, took out her stick (oh, is what should we use to beat me) and started beating me while the water was still running.

Most of the beatings were mostly because of school. I wasn't a bad student, I just never understood alot of it, and when I don't understand it I just didn't do it. Plus I was very talkative in school. I remember I hated parent teacher interview because one thing the teacher said that was negative - even a "Your son talks alot!" would mean I would be going home with beats. In grade four, my teacher told my mom that I wasn't good in math and my mom said in Chinese (so my teacher could not understand) "Once you go home you're going to get beats." and I started crying so hard and I couldn't control myself. I remember my teacher telling me it's okay, why am I crying. My mom said in Chinese "You better stop crying if you don't want more beats." Right in that moment, I stopped crying.

My mom continued to beat me in high school. I remember the first year of highschool (I think I was 13/14 at the time) my cousin came to my home and I did something wrong from the night before and my mom "forgot to beat me" so she did it in front of my cousins. When she was finished my cousins said, "Your mom still beats you??" and I said "What do you mean? Doesn't yours still?" and they said "After elementary school they stopped, because it's not right". I'm not surprised that out of all my cousins, their family stopped. I don't want to sound rude, but their parents aren't "well off", they own a convenient store, hard working, etc and their parents don't have time for that.

My mom would tell me how come I'm not polite and nice like them, because when their mom is sick, they make them tea right away, wish her happy birthday, etc. and in my head I didn't get why my mom would ask me such a thing. I remember I just wanted to say "Well, their mom doesn't beat them anymore."

I'll continue next post.

Originally posted by featheralley

My mom stopped beating my when I got to grade 11, and that was four years ago. Even though four years is a long time, it still feels like yesterday.

I remember I was talking to my caucasian friend and my mom was furious, and I told my friend to hold on and I put the phone down. I went downstairs because I knew I was going to get beats, but my mom was already walking up the stairs, so she beat me while I was in my room. While I had the phone on. My friend told me she hung up because she didn't know my family was like that and she asked me why I didn't call the cops. I just told her that in the asian families I know, it's kind of a discreet thing, you don't talk about it to non-asian people.

All my friends, coworkers and teachers say I'm so jolly and happy all the time, I'm always laughing but when I get home that's a different story. I literally when I walk into the house go straight to my room and don't come out unless I have to use the washroom or eat dinner.

My grandpa died last weekend and my mom wanted me to see him one last time. I didn't want to see him because my mom was just screaming at me the night before and I wanted to use this to get back to him. I ended up going anyway because my dad forced me, and when I got there all my aunts, uncles and cousins were crying. Except for me (and my sister). I think it's because me and my sister gotten beats for a long time and it didn't stop til 4-5 years ago that we have thicker skin. My cousins gotten beat, some til elementary, some til middle school but it stopped. I honestly felt like crying when I saw my grandpa on his deathbed, but I just couldn't cry. I've had to deal with much harsh things in my life (her beatings) so if I saw a dead family member or a good friend, I honestly can say I don't think I could shed a tear. (And don't even bother with the how can you not cry when you see someone dead, because you haven't been in my shoes.)

So about the fight I was telling you about earlier. My mom has been trying hard to make our family more "Canadian" (white washed) because her aunt is with a white man, and wants us to be all "white". I've never said "i love you" or hugged my mom, but I think that's what my mom wants us to be. But it's to late for my mom to do that anymore. I'm 19, and you can't start again like I'm a baby. It's too late. And I remember everything she's done to me that I can never forgive her. She told me I've been more rude, angry, etc and I would never talk back when I was younger. Which is true. Because when I was younger, when I get beats, I would never talk back. That's asking for more beats. But now that I'm older, of course I'm going to talk back. It's because I know more now, and what she's done isn't right, even if it was "normal" in the asian community.

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