Do you think everyone is born with a specific predetermined sexual orientation (straight, homo or bi), do you think it's something that you develop later in life (as a teenager) or is it a lot more complicated than this? Some people believe that every living thing (humans,animals,plants) are in fact bi-sexual and there is even some research to support this. They claim our brain is infected by the environment we live in and we just accept whats normal (i.e being straight) without even considering that there may be more to it than that. But at the same time a lot of homosexual people say they're not turned in the slightest by the opposite sex. Do you think theres a link between sexual feelings and romantic. Could a gay man fall in love with a woman even though he is not sexually attracted to her or is that not enough? What do you think defines a persons sexuality?


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I COULD get a boner with both...men and women. But I label myself as gay because I only look at men and I love beard...hairy guys...muscles...

You know...

In my opinion we aren't born gay or straight as we aren't really sexually aware when we're born. I think it is down to differences in hormones (so you could argue it's down to genetics) but I don't think people have a sexuality until puberty. And I think sexuality is too fluid for people to be pigeon-holed as gay, bi or straight. Like friend of mine thought he was gay because he once really loved a boy but in the 7/8 years since then he's only ever been attracted to women. It's more about people than gender and I think that even though it isn't spoken about a lot of 'straight' people have felt some sort of attraction to someone of the same gender regardless of whether they suppress it or express it. I think it's natural for humans to form connections with people of both genders on that level.

Well as i didnt get boners as a baby, i dunno

That basically explains how I feel. I believe we're all born bisexual, and depending on our environment and experiences throughout life, we'll either prefer men or women. With that said, I do believe some people are mostly gay or mostly straight throughout their whole life. For example, I was wanting to play dress up and hang out with girls from age 3, while other gays I know were into video games and sports from a young age. So it really all depends on the level of bisexuality.

I do believe bisexuality is a little rarer than people think though. I don't consider it to be bisexuality if somebody says "well, I'll only date and **** men, but I can kiss a woman" - that isn't bisexuality, that is gay (or straight, if it's a woman) but being able to tolerate a woman's kiss. I'm finding that it is becoming increasingly rarer to find somebody who is 100% bisexual - meaning they like both men and women almost equally and could be with either one. And I'm also noticing alot of people (but not all) choose the title of bisexuality so they won't have to come out as fully gay.

Yes you are born gay or straight, but you may not be sexually aware when you are born. You're born with the hormones that don't sprout until you are a teenager, which is why many people say kids don't have sexualities. They do, it's just not as prevalent or noticeable until a certain age.

Yes, but I don't think it is as simple as coming out of the womb and boom you're gay/straight/bi/lesbian. I feel like once you realize who you really are, you'll see that's who you have always been. Maybe something repressed it, maybe it was ignored, maybe the possbility never occured. I don't know. For me, I've liked what I've liked since I can remember...but I didn't acknowledge/accept that until later.

I think sexuality is far too complex to say that people have the capacity to fall in love with either gender, just as it is too complex to say that people cannot.

Sexuality to me is what stimulates your desires to be with someone intimately. That does not mean just sex either. There is a reason why people have friends and why people something more than friends. I know some people like to do stuff just for fun, like two girls making out, and I even know some gay guys who will make out with girls - but won't get sexually stimulated. It is just too complicated and I don't think we as people know a lot about ourselves

I was 7 or 8 when i knew i was gay.

I think that as human beings we aren't born with a sexual orientation or preference. As time goes by we develop attractions to what we find appealable and repel what we don't find appealable.
Another factor that influences a lot is our environment. For example, you can't expect a boy who grows between girls to be straight and act manly. He is going to incline to what he sees and is surrounded by on a daily basis.
On the other hand, a boy who grows "normally" with his mother and father, normally has a type of "physcollogical trauma" (his dad doesn't show affection, he is or was molested by a same-sex adult, etc.).

All this being said, I think we are definately NOT born any way. We assume our personality, and sexual preference as we grow older and as we experience new things.

I think everybody is bisexual but some people don't want to show it

So do you define your sexuality on which sex (or both) makes you hard?

That would be so awesome

This is exactly how I feel

In a far away future when humans are advanced nobody will be afraid to say they're bisexual!

That's a great question, actually. I think sexuality, or mine is atleast, is based upon not only the sexual feelings, but emotional as well. I could never, ever have sex with a girl, or fall in love with them. So that would make me 100% gay. I think anyone who is capable of not only having sex with but falling in love with both genders could be considered bisexual.

True story.

Sexuality is fluid imo. No one is 100% percent gay or straight.

Well everyone is capable of having sex with both genders. A 100% gay man could easily have sex with a woman (while thinking gay thoughts) and enjoy it. But I think you'd have to wait until after you've had sexual and romantic relationships with both sexes before you could truly define your sexual orientation?

My mama told me when I was young asked me 'why can't a girl do all those things for you?" when I came out to her. I never thought about that before. Specific qualities/characteristics in a female will not impact me the way those same characteristics in a male would. I had not even realized it. A guy who can cook may excite me emotionally while a girl who can cook is just really awesome.

That's why I have a problem with this 'everybody is a little bi' theory. Deep down it would be nice to believe that we all could ****/marry everyone...fat, skinny, boy, girl, tall, short, and others. I just believe there is a reason, I want to say biological, why we are attracted to what we like. A straight female who is looking to settle down with a nice man and start a big family may not want to be with a straight male who is homeless. He may be nice, he may be sweet, and he may make her laugh....but he ain't gon pay her telephone bills.

But I won't rule out the theory. Like I said before sexuality is too complicated to say one thing or the other. I know what I want and that's all that matters

This. People always say everybody is bi, and everybody may be curious to some extent (like I've definitely made out with girls) but it doesn't make sense that as a gay man I would be afraid to admit my bisexuality. I'm just not into girls that way. Yes I could have sex with them but they don't do it for me. And honestly, I really don't care that much what the exact reason for that is, once somebody who's smarter than me figures it out, I would like to know for sure but until that day, I'm fine just being the way I am, cause I was born this way.