So I was at my friend's house for most of the night/morning and an interesting question was brought up. Does the time length from which you know someone determine how good of friends you are with each other? I ask this because my friend says her best friends are people she's known from way back i.e. Elementary school, while I say some of my best friends are people I've met in recent years. The convo. progressed and continued for some time, but ultimately ended with her saying it's weird for people to become good/best friends in a short amount of time. I don't necessarily agree, but what do you all think?

Best friends from long ago and best friends from more recently can both achieve the same level of friendship.

In my case I give more importance to my newer best friends but that is just because I wasn't able to maintain, as good as I did before, my relationship with my long time best friends. They are still important to me but I'm not able to be with them as much as I would like to.

Not necessarily.

I've met one of my best friends 3 years ago and one 12 years ago, yet somehow I feel closer to the one I met 3 years ago. It all depends on how you connect to the person.

Not always, I have friends I've know for 10 years who I'm less close to than friends I've known only a year. Plus if you're on holiday with people you're around them more and become close to them quickly

I guess if you have a best friend from your childhood that friend is most likely to know everything about you and your life. Like they would know your interests, hobbies, family, etc ..

Since I have lived in 3 different countries in my 20 years of life .. it was hard to maintain a long time best friend when you are far away from them

So my "best friends" are from recent years so like 1-5 years old!

Yep.

****looking back down memory lane***** I know this one guy for 12-14 years... And now, since we aren't studying together or hang out anymore, we barely conjugate & that's really weird considering the time span that we were 'together' as good buddies. I say that It all depends on the connection, closeness & the amount of trust/loyalty you have between each other. Some people talk about star signs & all that fake bullsh*t, but I like to feel that the trust between the pair superseeds & defines the friendship as a whole...

I think time is still a factor. I had a really good friend that I knew for 3 years but then we just stopped hanging out and now we rarely talk. But I can't imagine not talking to one of my friends that I've known for 9 years, he's like a brother.

I have one I've known my whole life and we know everything about each other and we were childhood best friends, but right now I feel closer to my friend I've had for like 3 years. It depends on the connection.

It's definitely a factor on how long you knew a person. But not necessarily true. I've had this girl as my best friend from Elementary school through the beginning of HS. But we go to different schools, so we only connect through chatting online. I then met another girl in 9th grade, and she is my best friend BY FAR even though I known her for about 2 years. I have NOTHING in common with her, but that's why we attract each other for interesting conversations.

No definitely not. I feel a long disconnection with some friends I had since 1st grade and now in high school I met people I've known for days and I feel a stronger connection. It's all about the person and how you see each other.

Depends. I have two best friends that I consider to be on equal plateau but I would, in the end, choose one of them over the other cuz they were my best friend first. It all depends on a persons circumstance though

Time is just one aspect. It also depends on relatability, closeness & being able to just be there for your friend when they need you.

I have some best friends who I met when I was young but also best friends who I met recently.

Def' NOT.

Time has nothing to do with it.

There are alot of things that determines the level of friendship in my eyes.

A good friend will tell you what you need to hear and not what you want to hear.
A good friend will be there when you need him/her but will also know to back down when you need your own self time.
A good friend will tell you if something is bothering him about you and not let it drag into a fight.
A good friend will try to be understanding even if he thinks you're wrong.

And there are way more things that I could put better in Hebrew.

Yeah I disagree that longevity determines how good a friend you become.

In my case, my best friend is my freshman-year roommate. He's probably the person I'm closest to other than my parents, and yet I've only known him for 2 years. I do believe, though, that people who remain close friends since childhood are, in fact, the closest friends they can be, but it doesn't mean longevity is the only factor.

In my case, I grew close to my roommate because I had to live with him, which is something people rarely do with childhood friends (unless they wind up in the same college). However, there are also people for whom that's not important, or who simply don't want to live in dorms or apartments with their close friends... There's way too many factors determining level of friendship, and each person puts a greater emphasis on a different one.

Not really, what represents a good level of friendship is the actions, spend good and bad times with your friends no matter if you've been friends from months or their whole lives

I've known my best friend for 15 years of my life (since I was 7 years old). I had other friends then but he is the only one I remain in contact with. We both have gone through cycles with our other friends (I call it friend rotation) but we have remained friends throughout. You might ask what the secret to having a friendship last so long. The answer is we both are not afraid to tell each other the truth all the time. It also doesn't hurt that we have lived 3 houses apart our entire lives.

To answer the question though, longevity is not relevant at all. It is nothing more than a coincidence in my situation.

It depends. There are times that you meet a person and in 2 weeks you feel like you know him your whole life, that happened to me in my exchange year, I built up an amazing friendship with them

There are times that the more you spend with that person, the better friend you become, it's a question of how trust-worthy is a person

Sad to say but No. I have one of my best friends that I know for like 8 years and I have some best friends I know like 2 years and right now they are more important to me. Sometimes the long distance makes things harder that's my case, but sometimes the "new" besties are just more your thing, more alike you

Time can either help or hurt a friendship. If you're around someone too much for too long, then you're most likely going to get sick of each other as you feel your personal time is being invaded. Then again, if you tend to distance yourselves, you're bound to become little more than aquaintances, which has happened before.

I have four really close friends, and we've known each other for around six years, roughly. But it took a long time for us to get as close as we are today. I just think what time is most important for is for figuring out how to connect to someone and make the most out of your friendship. Some people can figure that out in a matter of hours, but for me, it takes a long time.