This case will lead the discussion more towards sex, but I still think it's an interesting topic (and certainly an interesting case) to talk about, especially after thinking so much about love.
Bisexual Tramps and "Unholy Alliances"
What does sex mean to you? Is it supposed to be something intimate shared between two people? Or is it merely about the pleasure of the act? Do you think it's okay to play around with threesomes and other things, as the couple in this case did? Would you ever experiment in such away? Or is sex more about the emotional side for you?
It's funny. What you say makes perfect sense - and if it you truly love someone, it shouldn't be that hard to do. Yet somehow, people often find it the hardest thing in the world to treat their loved ones right. I think of a recent famous example: Sandra Bullock and Jesse James. Even after all his cheating and deception was exposed, James still claimed that he love Bullock. How does that make sense? If he truly loved her (like she clearly did him), how was he able to wrong her so badly?
Because when you feel like you have that person and suddenly things are too easy, part of the interest goes away... You feel a lot more your love for someone when you dont have something you want. It's common to betray someone you love because you dont feel you love that person 100% When you do, you will be faithful
I can relate to this because when I was in love 2 years ago. I was 20 all I think was treating my gf perfectly ... now my ex I criticize everything bad I'm still not over it as anyone can see.
Can I confess that two nights ago I was clubbing and met her and she tried to hook up with someone I went LOCO and drank so much but waited hours later to leave and the end of the night almost got a DUI *frown* The cop pulled me over for turning left at an intersection where all traffic must turn right, they had done all test *phew* passed barely...
Omg! Are you okay? I cant believe that in 2 years you havent got over her. Thats exactly what's going to happen with me
Wow you literally just took a lot of what I was feeling and put them into words. You are very correct that;s why it's hard to move on; we remain as friends with benifits, and if in so many years from now we depend on each other if we both don't find anyone we might rekindle the love and get married. The main issue with why it doesn't work for us in our relationship is she moved when I didn't wanted her to and we became long distance during our time together. Not too far away but not too close either. I'll stop talking about this it would just make me cry more.
Ooooh dont cry Honestly if you have made it this far it is because you have something important between you two. Hopefully everything will turn out just fine What I usually do is send a good vibe to the universe (I saw this on Oprah once, the Law of Attraction). Basically what it says its that your thoughts and your energy is sent to the universe and the universe gives you more of what you are attracting. So thats why I cant forget him, because instead of trying to move on I keep sending good energies to the Universe thinking this will be the way to work...
well i never been in a serious relationship, ive only had 1 bf in my life, and i feel in deep deep love, so i do belive in love, when a girl falls its hard to get over the lover, after we broke up after 5 weeks, i was in love with him for the next 2 years, chasing, following him, but he wasnt interested
love to me, is just a battlefield, and pain, but for others it probably different who knows.
the only way getting over my ex was meeting the guy im in love with now, we never dated we were just mates, but now im still loving him after 7 months not seeing him.
What does sex mean to you? Is it supposed to be something intimate shared between two people? Or is it merely about the pleasure of the act? Do you think it's okay to play around with threesomes and other things, as the couple in this case did? Would you ever experiment in such away? Or is sex more about the emotional side for you?
When you do it with no one special, sex is good. When you do it with someone you love, sex is great. Sex isnt sex when you do it with love.
Ooooh dont cry Honestly if you have made it this far it is because you have something important between you two. Hopefully everything will turn out just fine What I usually do is send a good vibe to the universe (I saw this on Oprah once, the Law of Attraction). Basically what it says its that your thoughts and your energy is sent to the universe and the universe gives you more of what you are attracting. So thats why I cant forget him, because instead of trying to move on I keep sending good energies to the Universe thinking this will be the way to work...
Thanks amandatheafter! I feel that too that there is something special between us I could never forget our first three months together; can't stop thinking about her. Hope so too.
Ahhh yes that's a great attitude and a great way to deal with this issue, although I would say I learn a lot about us and relationship because it's my first long term. If any more relationship stir up in the future I wouldn't be as clueless as before. I agree what you send out is what you get back, same for the saying that in order for them to love you you have to love yourself. xD
What does sex mean to you? Is it supposed to be something intimate shared between two people? Or is it merely about the pleasure of the act? Do you think it's okay to play around with threesomes and other things, as the couple in this case did? Would you ever experiment in such away? Or is sex more about the emotional side for you?
When you do it with no one special, sex is good. When you do it with someone you love, sex is great. Sex isnt sex when you do it with love.
When I was younger I only would have intercourse when it's something shared with my intimate girlfriend however over the years I feel it is more acceptable to have casual only in certain cases. No cheating on your current significant others of course, no casual sex unless you got to know somewhat of the other person.
To me it is different depending on the situation. Sometimes casual sex is fine as long as both sides agree that is what's going on and it's just sex with no-string attached. Also, use protection and part of no-string attached include means no to conceiving a child too.
Sex is mixed for me sometimes it's emotional connection and that special intimacy sometimes it's just mere pleasure. But I'm a guy and I would think my feelings differ greatly compared to women.
I feel strongly that people will go through different phases and that they will change what they think through life and especially on this matter.
To me it is different depending on the situation. Sometimes casual sex is fine as long as both sides agree that is what's going on and it's just sex with no-string attached.
I think it's the same with relationships. If both sides are in on things in the same way, it's only bound to lead to somebody getting hurt.
Ooooh dont cry Honestly if you have made it this far it is because you have something important between you two. Hopefully everything will turn out just fine What I usually do is send a good vibe to the universe (I saw this on Oprah once, the Law of Attraction). Basically what it says its that your thoughts and your energy is sent to the universe and the universe gives you more of what you are attracting. So thats why I cant forget him, because instead of trying to move on I keep sending good energies to the Universe thinking this will be the way to work...
Do you believe that? I'm much more about the power of the self. As in, our own destiny is in our hands. My life is an effect of the things I do, not some outside force. But that metaphysical discussion is probably for another day...
As for sex, I feel like it seems like such an impossibly huge deal when you've never done it. For so long, I felt like I was such a loser for being a virgin and I really wanted to lose my virginity before I graduated high school. But that deadline came and passed a long time ago, and in the mean time, things that were really genuinely important came to be the focus of my life. I honestly think much more about being in a relationship and the emotional support that can come from that than the physical gratifications I'm not getting because I'm not having sex.
Nevertheless, sex continues to loom as a reality in my life. And the older I get, the weirder it begins to feel that I'm still a virgin. It's not that I ever planned it that way - I'm not saving myself for marriage or anything like that - so I often wonder how things would be different and what I'm missing. Yet, I don't want to just go out and have sex, either. At this point, I want to do things on my own terms: with the right person and for the right reasons. Which of course, can sound so corny, but at this point, I'm so over living my life with stupid regrets.
As for sex, I feel like it seems like such an impossibly huge deal when you've never done it. For so long, I felt like I was such a loser for being a virgin and I really wanted to lose my virginity before I graduated high school. But that deadline came and passed a long time ago, and in the mean time, things that were really genuinely important came to be the focus of my life. I honestly think much more about being in a relationship and the emotional support that can come from that than the physical gratifications I'm not getting because I'm not having sex.
Nevertheless, sex continues to loom as a reality in my life. And the older I get, the weirder it begins to feel that I'm still a virgin. It's not that I ever planned it that way - I'm not saving myself for marriage or anything like that - so I often wonder how things would be different and what I'm missing. Yet, I don't want to just go out and have sex, either. At this point, I want to do things on my own terms: with the right person and for the right reasons. Which of course, can sound so corny, but at this point, I'm so over living my life with stupid regrets.
Kudos to you supaspaz that's the right attitude with no regrets. Just think about it all those peer pressure in High School would just disappear slowly after graduation and it is definitely better to be late than sorry. As for my experience I would say I regretted. Whatever, life moves on and sometimes I wish I've never fallen in love. Being in love makes you go crazy and even now my feelings never subside for one person and I regretted not ever had a longer chance with other people that I ran away from.
You are still very young right that means you will have lots of opportunity to explore things.
After the "Alejandro" video, suddenly is everything is talking about homosexuality. So what's better than staying timely? A "Judge Judy" case below:
Homosexual Humdrums
Obviously, this could be any couple, gay or straight. But what I find interesting is that the case plays on gay stereotypes, specifically the drug-use one. So with that, I open up the floor to you.
What do you think of the treatment of gays in society? Should they receive equal rights? What kind of factors have influenced your perspective? Do you think things will ever change?
What about homosexuality in general? Are you okay with it? Have you ever treated someone differently because they are gay? Why?
And for those who are gay, can you reflect on your own treatment? Do you ever find it "difficult" to be gay? Do you feel that you can be open about your own sexuality?
What do you think of the treatment of gays in society? Should they receive equal rights? What kind of factors have influenced your perspective? Do you think things will ever change?
What about homosexuality in general? Are you okay with it? Have you ever treated someone differently because they are gay? Why?
And for those who are gay, can you reflect on your own treatment? Do you ever find it "difficult" to be gay? Do you feel that you can be open about your own sexuality?
By legal standard as shown here in the clip, gays are supposedly be treated or respected equally. Judge Judy is definitely a very just person, she shows no disrespect or unfair treatment to them compared to any other couple. I do say that there are laws forbidding gays to do a lot of things. Many times I see in society at large treated homosexuals unequally. All the name callings, and stereotypes will never die.
I would say the best way to understand homosexuality and alternative lifestyles is having friends or family members who are gays/lesbians/bisexual. From going to college I have several gay and lesbian friends. That helped with my perspective... and also being on ATRL
As for sex, I feel like it seems like such an impossibly huge deal when you've never done it. For so long, I felt like I was such a loser for being a virgin and I really wanted to lose my virginity before I graduated high school. But that deadline came and passed a long time ago, and in the mean time, things that were really genuinely important came to be the focus of my life. I honestly think much more about being in a relationship and the emotional support that can come from that than the physical gratifications I'm not getting because I'm not having sex.
Nevertheless, sex continues to loom as a reality in my life. And the older I get, the weirder it begins to feel that I'm still a virgin. It's not that I ever planned it that way - I'm not saving myself for marriage or anything like that - so I often wonder how things would be different and what I'm missing. Yet, I don't want to just go out and have sex, either. At this point, I want to do things on my own terms: with the right person and for the right reasons. Which of course, can sound so corny, but at this point, I'm so over living my life with stupid regrets.
Omg, I think you are really good for this you know. I bet when it comes to the time you get laid, sorry for putting it bluntly, you will end up doing it with someone you love and then be happy about it. I bet it will be the best descision of your life.
As for having meaningless sex...I think that is okay tbh.
I don't think its bad to sleep with people you aren't seeing as long as you don't get all slaggish about it and sleep with a new person like everrrytime you get pissed. My only problem is that I often regret alot of things I do, but there is really no point in regretting anything. As long as nothing drastic happens and you don't do anything tooo stupid there's no point worrying.
What do you think of the treatment of gays in society? Should they receive equal rights? What kind of factors have influenced your perspective? Do you think things will ever change?
What about homosexuality in general? Are you okay with it? Have you ever treated someone differently because they are gay? Why?
And for those who are gay, can you reflect on your own treatment? Do you ever find it "difficult" to be gay? Do you feel that you can be open about your own sexuality?
I have no problem with gay people what so ever and believe everyone should be treated equally. Obviously though, there will always be people who don't believe in it and are homophobes, those people will never go away no matter who much the society around them changed.
I am glad I am straight though cause guys are way hotter so I can completely understand gay guys. lol
I'm still not over it as anyone can see. 
You are very correct that;s why it's hard to move on; we remain as friends with benifits, and if in so many years from now we depend on each other if we both don't find anyone we might rekindle the love and get married. The main issue with why it doesn't work for us in our relationship is she moved when I didn't wanted her to and we became long distance during our time together. Not too far away but not too close either. I'll stop talking about this it would just make me cry more.
Honestly if you have made it this far it is because you have something important between you two. Hopefully everything will turn out just fine 
What I usually do is send a good vibe to the universe (I saw this on Oprah once, the Law of Attraction). Basically what it says its that your thoughts and your energy is sent to the universe and the universe gives you more of what you are attracting. So thats why I cant forget him, because instead of trying to move on I keep sending good energies to the Universe thinking this will be the way to work...
who knows. 