The family who I actually care about are surprisingly tolerant for black people so I'm not worried they'll reject me.

My sisters + female cousins (except one bible thumper who we all make fun, even my Mom sometimes LMAO) have gay friends and have even been to gay bars and pride (more than me ) The cousin I'm closest to is also Bi herself.

My Dad is from the Caribbean and compared to his Family there he's really tame, never heard him ever make a homophobic comment and he's worked with and been friendly with Gays and Trans people. My Mom is kinda bipolar on it, one minute she's complaining about how Russians are treating "homesexuals" and calling a gay couple cute on a show, the next she's calling 2 guys kissing awful.

I told my Parents I was Bi earlier in the year (don't judge me, I honestly thought I was ) and they didn't really have any problem with it.

I was gonna come out soon but the problem is that my younger brother just came out last week, he's extremely feminine and EVERYONE knew he was anyway and even though I have 3 other straight siblings (2 sisters, 1 brother) I feel kind of pressured to stay in the closet?

They've both accepted my younger brother and while I know they would accept me, I just feel they'd be disappointed about having 2 gay sons and wouldn't treat me the same.

How long should I wait? My mom's moving to Abu Dhabi in January and I was thinking about telling her while she was over there so she'd have time to think and get over it.

What's the rush? They already know you're into guys and seem to be fine with it, why do you need to further inform them on your sexual orientation? Especially if you think it might cause some sort of rift in your relationship.

Didnt read. Just put emotions aside and think rationally. You cant hide this forever. Eventually you will have tp tell everyone who you really are. Do it now and youll weed out all the fakes in your life. The sooner the better

Because after my brother came out, my mom has been asking me when I'm gonna bring a girl home.

I don't really wanna get your hopes up.

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I think there's no rush, but if you're ready, then do it. I don't think your mother would treat you differently just because you're also Gay. You came out as bi, so that's like the first step into the Gay land, so your parents should have been low-key expecting you to possibly come out one day.

I totally understand how you're feeling right now. My best friends (brother and sister) are both gay and the second one to come out really struggled with this issue. They didn't want to disappoint their parents because they wanted them to be able to be grandparents one day. I too struggle with this issue because I'm an only child, so my mom might never be a biological grandmother.

My parents say the same thing to me despite how obvious it is that I'm gay. I just laugh it off and move on, it's not that big a deal.

I get that it's horrible being trapped in the bubble but if you're parents are already cool with you being bi then I wouldn't rush it. Just let your mum know that it makes you uncomfortable when she says certain things.

Whether you tell them today, tomorrow or next year, their reaction is going to be the same.

Perhaps you're overthinking the situation and thinking of 'excuses' as to why you shouldn't. Probably should otherwise think of selfish reasons to tell them instead as it's your sexuality and a somewhat important part of your life.

Understandably, it's not an easy task though. You're burdened with being the one to tell your parents that both their sons won't be having children (to an extent.) Again, you shouldn't be thinking about this. There's literally nothing you can do.

They'll hopefully accept you - as they did your younger brother, and before when you said you was bisexual - for the way you are and none of the events you're presuming is going to happen, happens.

You're their son and they love you. What's the worst that can happen.

Compared to yours and your friends' situations, I guess I'm pretty lucky.

They have my sisters and other brother to get grandchildren from but still

I'm just tired of the secrecy tbh, I'll probably tell them sometime next year or the year after when I go to Uni.

Ohhh I read that part wrong. Thought you had one brother, two sisters.

When you're ready, your ready. I wouldn't stress yourself out too much.

So you parents believe bisexuals exist.

They will think you're trying to pull a younger brother and your first week will flop

Absolute mess