Is this a real thing because I feel like I have it, after getting tested for STDs (luckily all negative) the thought of having sex again scares me. Even protected sex I feel like what if it broke and I didn't know and wind up with an STD for life. I'm already abstinent now but if I get into a relationship I feel like it would be difficult to trust anyone it's just so scary sometimes I can't even sleep thinking about it

Should I go on anxiety medication or something?

it's just in your head

Just wait for a relationship

Just have to learn to accept the risks and be safe. Everybody is in the same boat you are and none of us are immune. STDs aren't gonna ruin your life and even if you contracted HIV in a worst case scenario, you can still lead a completely normal life.

I'd recommend visiting the HIV thread we have and maybe PMing a few of our members who have it just to learn about their experiences and day to day life and maybe it will comfort you.

Just don't ever do it again.

Well all I know is that the last time I got tested, I paid extra to get my results within 2 hours even though I was (still am) a virgin

Anxiety is the most painful thing ever, I suggest you don't wait too much before you start treating it.

I have health anxiety but this seems a bit trivial

If you're really afraid, just don't have sex.

Youre infected baby

You're not missing out on anything by waiting to have sex. Save yourself for somebody you love and trust, somebody who loves you and has your best interest at heart (preferably your spouse). In a committed relationship/marriage you don't have to worry about things like STDs or HIV.

As a sexual health educator, I think it's important to be aware of STIs. They are preventable.

But I don't think it should prevent you from having sex. You deserve to have a healthy and fulfilling sex life, as wa all do if we want to. But if you don't want to have sex, that's OK. Sex can wait. But don't live in fear.

I live with generalized anxiety disorder and I abstained from sex for a long time because friends of mine were getting HIV and STIs. But with my knowledge of safer sex, communicating to my sex partner(s) about getting tested, and being as safe as possible, it's helped break down that fear for me.

If you're going to have sex, be responsible for yourself. Get tested every three months. Talk openly with your sex partner(s) about your likes, dislikes, fears, etc. and don't do it in the bedroom, do it BEFORE things get intimate. Experiment with different contraceptives and toys. Have fun and relax!