Ok, GIRLS! I have been seeing this guy for like a month now, and I'm happy to the point where I'm nervious/anxious about it (do u know what I mean by this???) Like he's literally the guy I've been wishing would come into my life for years now, our conversations, the laughs, UGH EVERYTHING!!!!! I like him and it literally feels like he's my best friend. HE HAS THE SAME BIRTHDAY AS MY BEST FRIEND OF ALL TIME!!!! UGH but anyway there's a few things that make me nervous that he might end up just wanting to be friends. I'm probably just super anxious and not trying to get my hopes up but here are some things that make me unsure (I've never been in a SERIOUS relationship so PLEASE let me be wrong)

1. He hasn't tried to have sex with me since the first weekend we hung out. I'm really nervous to have sex for multiple reasons. When it happened the first time he didn't use a condom bc he's on prep but I'm not (how does this work BTW? That is safe right? I don't have unsafe sex usually so I am not on it) so I made him stop and have just been super nervous about it ever since. I also just came out to my mother recently so I think healing from those wounds has put a damper on my intimacy.

2. He doesn't really initiate making out or intimate touching/cuddling unless we're going to sleep or saying goodbye. I usually initiate it, and I'm super awkward so I feel weird about it

3. Neither of us have said anything about "us"(is there an us???). Honestly the most discussion I've experienced about it is when I brought him to my friend's party on Halloween and she asked him if we were dating and he wouldn't answer her and just kept shrugging. This is a red flag because I would've given a similar answer. Obviously no one's gonna be like "YEAH!!!" if we haven't discussed it but WHY haven't we discussed it?


These could also be interpreted as good things so I'm honestly sort of confused and don't know what to think, all I know is that I miss him ever since I left his place yesterday I feel like I'm going to explode

The first two points could just be him trying to be considerate of your boundaries after the first time. Did you explain to him why you felt uneasy and asked to stop? If not, he might think it was something else or feel like it's not his place to bring it up.

I do think a month is too soon to put a label on things but you guys should probably have a conversation about it in the very near future if only just to ensure everyone is on the same page.

Talk to him about it not strangers on the internet.

talk to him. Communication is key! none of us will be able to help you because we aren't him

I know, I guess I moreso need to figure out how to go about it than anything

You should talk to him how nervous you felt the first time. He's giving you time to maybe come to him about it and respecting your boundaries. Guys do that sometimes and he's most likely stressing over the same thing you're doing right now. Communication, honesty and trust are important factors in relationships. You don't want to begin a serious relationship without at least being honest with him. Tell him your concerns and it will sort it self out.

I don't fear anything!

As for your circumstance.. it doesn't seem that he likes you in the same way you like him

It's just sex or lack thereof now. He'll move on and **** someone else

Confront him when you are next alone together and get it over with and just say what you said above, but start with number 3 and then move on to 2 and then 1. Also I didn't notice this the first time but you should use a condom because prep doesn't stop you getting any STD he might have.

Yuuuuuuuuuuup. It's not like HIV is the only STD there is.

Good idea. Should I wait a bit though????

Going off of what you've posted about ur dating/relationship past ill take ur opinion with multiple grains of salt no shade

friendzoned is the worst.

He kissed me infront of his two best friends ln. The world is ending but at least the friendzone is cancelled